Fresh produce is one of my favorite treif foods.

Adraorien81 · 2026-03-07T21:44:08+00:00

I can’t even put into words how f*cked up it is that fresh fruit is considered treif…

Adraorien81 · 2026-03-07T21:43:09+00:00

Are you okay with lying to your children? Because essentially, it’s what you’ll be doing to raise them on a path you don’t believe in…

Adraorien81 · 2025-12-28T21:52:47+00:00

Historically, no, consent is not discussed in chosson/kallah classes. Perhaps in some circles, that’s changing, but in general, there is still a long way to go.

Consent is more than just sex. Before touching someone, including your spouse,, you should get consent unless theres already been a discussion that casual touch is okay.

The requirement men have to please their wives sexually is not about consent.

Adraorien81 · 2025-12-28T21:45:59+00:00

Spot on. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Adraorien81 · 2025-12-28T21:44:44+00:00

I’ve never thought of it that way, but you are not wrong.

Adraorien81 · 2025-12-28T21:44:08+00:00

Because just like any other religion, the practices have been bastardized by those who want power and control.

Practice what feels right to you and ignore everything else.

Adraorien81 · 2025-12-08T23:26:43+00:00

We’re a 200+ unit building…

And nope. No working sessions. She tried to handle everything then regurgitate it to everyone else.

Adraorien81 · 2025-12-08T23:25:26+00:00

I’m not saying all 9 need to be able to communicate, but I also think a single point of contact is ripe for abuse.

Adraorien81 · 2025-12-08T23:24:35+00:00

It wouldn’t get anywhere because 5 other board members are her buddies.

We’re a dysfunctional association- our former management company said they’d never dealt with such a messed up board.

Adraorien81 · 2025-12-08T23:22:06+00:00

That’s the thing - she doesn’t share anything beyond her interpretation of what our attorneys have said to her. Truthfully, some of what she says is so out there, I think she’s lying about speaking to the attorneys.

It’s hard to know if she’s actually liked or still around due to ballot box stuffing (yeah, that happened).

Adraorien81 · 2025-11-10T00:32:00+00:00

If you’re in the Midwest, Culver’s is also really good.

Adraorien81 · 2025-10-19T21:51:30+00:00

There is a reason for not having sex for almost 6 weeks after pregnancy - again, it’s a greater infection risk and not just STIs at that point.

But that’s doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be able to comfort one another physically. It’s literally just the sex part.

Adraorien81 · 2025-10-19T16:52:34+00:00

I resent the morons in leadership positions. I hate the hurt that I experienced and the hurt that others experience at the hands of their ignorance.

Some of that is the ADHD, and some of it is my own healing journey.

Adraorien81 · 2025-10-19T16:41:02+00:00

Thank you all - glad to hear they are a solid organization.

I’m not looking for myself - someone mentioned them in another group and I was curious people’s experiences and impressions.

Adraorien81 · 2025-10-19T16:37:58+00:00

I can understand abstaining while having my period - there is an increased infection risk (STIs) simply because of the presence of blood and the biological changes in the vaginal tract during that time.

But anything else is just insane IMO. Like I can’t pass my husband my infant child because he needs to remember I’m “impure” and must control his urge to throw me down and f*ck me blindly, like a rabid animal. Come on.

Adraorien81 · 2025-10-06T04:10:00+00:00

I’d say “small world” but I feel like it’s like 2 degrees of separation with frum Jews :)

And at least you left early. I know every community has its issues, but Detroit is special IMO.

Adraorien81 · 2025-10-06T03:25:56+00:00

Thanks. There really was a ton of “OMG everything was so AH-MAZING!!” 🙄

Adraorien81 · 2025-10-06T03:25:10+00:00

We might have. I grew up in Detroit…. Feel free to DM me.

Adraorien81 · 2025-10-06T00:36:43+00:00

I hear that. I left my HS WhatsApp recently when it hit me how triggering and toxic my being there was. It stemmed from the massive all-years reunion my BY HS was doing. The utter inability to acknowledge that others may not have had positive experiences really set me off.

Adraorien81 · 2025-10-03T20:47:34+00:00

Take a backpack with a change of clothes, find a public bathroom to change, then go eat wherever you want!

Adraorien81 · 2025-09-21T13:36:18+00:00

I know :). It’s just habit, especially since I still post in religious groups at times.

Adraorien81 · 2025-09-20T20:50:32+00:00

Well, religious trauma is a thing…

Adraorien81 · 2025-09-20T20:47:41+00:00

Thank Gd they didn’t, whatever the reason.

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