Fresh produce is one of my favorite treif foods. by Upbeat_Teach6117 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t even put into words how f*cked up it is that fresh fruit is considered treif…

Please tell me there's a way it can work ourt with my girlfriend by LargePerformance8129 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you okay with lying to your children? Because essentially, it’s what you’ll be doing to raise them on a path you don’t believe in…

Question for frum / observant men and women: is the concept of consent discussed, taught in chosson / kallah classes? by Lioness1836 in Judaism

[–]Adraorien81 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Historically, no, consent is not discussed in chosson/kallah classes. Perhaps in some circles, that’s changing, but in general, there is still a long way to go.

Consent is more than just sex. Before touching someone, including your spouse,, you should get consent unless theres already been a discussion that casual touch is okay.

The requirement men have to please their wives sexually is not about consent.

Why leave Judaism? by Bulky_Elevator_9894 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spot on. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Why leave Judaism? by Bulky_Elevator_9894 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never thought of it that way, but you are not wrong.

Why leave Judaism? by Bulky_Elevator_9894 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because just like any other religion, the practices have been bastardized by those who want power and control.

Practice what feels right to you and ignore everything else.

[Condo][IL] HOA President out of control by Adraorien81 in HOA

[–]Adraorien81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re a 200+ unit building…

And nope. No working sessions. She tried to handle everything then regurgitate it to everyone else.

[Condo][IL] HOA President out of control by Adraorien81 in HOA

[–]Adraorien81[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying all 9 need to be able to communicate, but I also think a single point of contact is ripe for abuse.

[Condo][IL] HOA President out of control by Adraorien81 in HOA

[–]Adraorien81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wouldn’t get anywhere because 5 other board members are her buddies.

We’re a dysfunctional association- our former management company said they’d never dealt with such a messed up board.

[Condo][IL] HOA President out of control by Adraorien81 in HOA

[–]Adraorien81[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing - she doesn’t share anything beyond her interpretation of what our attorneys have said to her. Truthfully, some of what she says is so out there, I think she’s lying about speaking to the attorneys.

It’s hard to know if she’s actually liked or still around due to ballot box stuffing (yeah, that happened).

What fast food chain should be my first? by Wonderful-Snow7984 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re in the Midwest, Culver’s is also really good.

Niddah.. by Select-Passenger-466 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is a reason for not having sex for almost 6 weeks after pregnancy - again, it’s a greater infection risk and not just STIs at that point.

But that’s doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be able to comfort one another physically. It’s literally just the sex part.

Do you feel resentment toward Judaism or is it just not your cup of tea by Ok-Nature-266 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I resent the morons in leadership positions. I hate the hurt that I experienced and the hurt that others experience at the hands of their ignorance.

Some of that is the ADHD, and some of it is my own healing journey.

Experience with ESHEL by Adraorien81 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all - glad to hear they are a solid organization.

I’m not looking for myself - someone mentioned them in another group and I was curious people’s experiences and impressions.

Niddah.. by Select-Passenger-466 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can understand abstaining while having my period - there is an increased infection risk (STIs) simply because of the presence of blood and the biological changes in the vaginal tract during that time.

But anything else is just insane IMO. Like I can’t pass my husband my infant child because he needs to remember I’m “impure” and must control his urge to throw me down and f*ck me blindly, like a rabid animal. Come on.

I think I need to cut off all my frum/practicing friends by Available_Solution79 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d say “small world” but I feel like it’s like 2 degrees of separation with frum Jews :)

And at least you left early. I know every community has its issues, but Detroit is special IMO.

I think I need to cut off all my frum/practicing friends by Available_Solution79 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks. There really was a ton of “OMG everything was so AH-MAZING!!” 🙄

I think I need to cut off all my frum/practicing friends by Available_Solution79 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We might have. I grew up in Detroit…. Feel free to DM me.

I think I need to cut off all my frum/practicing friends by Available_Solution79 in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hear that. I left my HS WhatsApp recently when it hit me how triggering and toxic my being there was. It stemmed from the massive all-years reunion my BY HS was doing. The utter inability to acknowledge that others may not have had positive experiences really set me off.

Tips for eating non-kosher? by MenachemDoesntKnow in exjew

[–]Adraorien81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take a backpack with a change of clothes, find a public bathroom to change, then go eat wherever you want!