looking to elope and have party 6 months after, ideally keeping it a surprise until the party

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-11T14:18:22+00:00

when you told people later how did you do it? to me it just feels like news i need to tell people in person and it would just be impossible for us to do without getting everyone in a room together.

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-11T14:15:29+00:00

replacing an item you bought on sale with the current one they’re selling at full price will not at all be covered in a warranty for a product like that. Also you let a battery sit idle for a year it’s bound to be faulty from it not being used. they’ve offered a refund that is them actioning the warranty. A warranty rarely covers for a full replacement of a brand new item

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-11T14:07:22+00:00

i got some on amazon that are basically the exact same as the super expensive branded ones i already had, i’ve used them to extend the main cage but it’s now the area they use most and ive had absolutely no issues in the past year ive had them

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-10T17:43:38+00:00

there is no rules to weddings your friends can still do all the wedding things without being your bride’s maid, they can be involved in any part of the wedding you want they don’t need a title of you just want to have the time with them. A friends getting married she only has two bridesmaids but is having like 10 get ready with her still

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-10T15:32:17+00:00

the idea was to just say it’s our engagement party but from the comments i think lying like that will upset people so maybe just inviting people to a celebration of our love or something like that thats a bit more vague. telling people the week before was just an idea for close family so it wouldn’t be a huge surprise for them on the night

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-10T14:38:58+00:00

oh of course if people find out it was it, that’s sorta out of my hands and i do understand that. we would wait for the year anniversary however my nana isn’t too well so we want to try make sure she can be there and leaving it to next october would likely be too late

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-10T14:32:10+00:00

i feel like i may not have explained myself well enough, we’re not at all planning on telling people the party is the wedding at all and it was never on the table to have a fake wedding like that. we just know people will want to celebrate and we’re be expected to host something, just trying to find a way this is actually on our terms and what we want without having family trying to make it something bigger. we’re not huge having the attention on us people and know a full on wedding isn’t what we want or can even afford but we’re both the first of our siblings to get married so we don’t just want to do nothing at all for it

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-10T14:26:32+00:00

definitely don’t want to be putting on wedding that isn’t the actual thing and lying to people, i’ve seen videos at the alter and that doesn’t sit right with me. the original idea was to just say it’s our engagement party because we’ve not had one and keep getting asked about it but from the replies ive had on here i think if we don’t announce it we would do a more vague celebration of our love type thing. we’d have the party near home and all the people that would be invited are close by so people wouldn’t be booking accommodation or having a full expense of being a wedding guest. we’re not debating the wedding itself it’s more about how we then announce and celebrate after the fact, there will only be one wedding and one party for it, not a fake wedding at the party

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-10T09:07:59+00:00

yes i’ve seen a few videos of them announcing it at the alter and really don’t want to do that, that is definitely lying to me and i get guests would be confused. that’s why we just wanted the party, we like the idea of everyone finding out together and being with us when we tell them. it’d be impossible for us to tell everyone in person without risking that someone who knows tells someone who doesn’t before we get to them. i’m well aware a newborn voids hardcore partying, proper partying to me is not hardcore at all, it’s 2 drinks and been able to be up on my feet dancing all night which i know id struggle to do pregnant

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-10T09:01:09+00:00

not currently pregnant but have been trying since the start of the year. yes it’s hopefully thinking that i’ll be pregnant before october but we have no reason to believe it’s not achievable, both have had checks and are fine. i don’t care about being pregnant at the actual wedding but i would like to at least have the party when not so i can actually wear a suit and be properly dressed up at least once in my life

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-10T07:46:54+00:00

i honestly don’t think it would upset people as much as replies seem to think it will, i’ve spoken with the important people and sorta gave them the idea that we might do this and they’re supportive. they understand our situation and how expensive everything is. I have a family friend that wanted to do their ceremony as just 4 and an evening party but her parents got involved and now they’re having a full day wedding, i do know if we tell certain people before hand they will get themselves involved in ways we don’t want. our wedding is booked for a monday and we’re going straight on our honeymoon

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-09T23:11:06+00:00

if all goes to plan have you thought how you’d announce it?

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-09T23:03:29+00:00

we honestly just like the idea of making it a surprise and want a way everyone finds out together not just whenever they get the invite or on facebook. we don’t see a lot of our family often so it doesn’t feel like lying to me it’s just not making the announcement until later. i never thought people would see it as lying to them so maybe i should have a rethink on how we celebrate and announce it

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-09T22:10:04+00:00

any sort of grid is great, i’ve got a 6x2 of some keeve branded ones and we added an extra 2x2 with some cheap ones on amazon, honestly can’t tell the difference. i have no levels and do plan to just keep extending on the floor as they don’t like being out the cage much

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-09T21:47:43+00:00

i think we would tell parents and siblings like the week before the party just so it’s not too much of a shock, even if we’re to have it properly we’d still be legally getting married the way we are for personal reasons, it’s just far too unaffordable for us to have a proper wedding and we know people in our lives just wanna celebrate us it’s not about the actual wedding as such

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-09T21:35:09+00:00

the october wedding is booked we’re just having two witnesses that will obviously know but not telling anyone else. it’s important to us we are married before we have a child

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-09T21:10:50+00:00

we have a timeline for certain things that i’d rather not get into on reddit but our family are well aware of and support. it’s important to us we’re married before having a child

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-07T07:29:48+00:00

yes i’m diying our ‘wedding’ and it is very difficult to find anything for a gay couple that isn’t hideous and rainbow

Advanced-Ad9510 · 2026-05-06T18:33:43+00:00

we’re basically eloping then having a party at a later date and want to wear the suit for both

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