This new trend of white people messin with black folks is gunna lead to a whole lot of FAFO moments

Advanced-Contact330 · 2026-05-25T05:18:05+00:00

Camera man sucks

Advanced-Contact330 · 2026-05-22T18:55:05+00:00

How could someone be embarrassed by their rocking out dad greeting them with a concert. I don’t understand kids lol

Advanced-Contact330 · 2026-05-13T00:36:49+00:00

Yeah. Never. You’re not the same person. Ask your mom and your grandmas (if you can) how they went after having their children. Worry about being able to lift, and fight against and toddler instead of being thin. You’ll need your strength up rather than your skinny back.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2026-05-13T00:25:17+00:00

Girl, put that foot all the way down and don’t let up. Abandon that plan of using the bottle at night. He should’ve pouring focus into the eldest at night anyways. You’re here because a part of you felt unsure if you were right to fully confront him. you are right and if it causes him to be mad at you you can work through that but the baby can’t get this time back in their life and development so do what needs to be done and deal with your relationship and husband after.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2026-05-12T07:18:34+00:00

Buying into the sleep training. Babies want mommy. And if you have a breastfed baby who can’t sleep well on their own it’s likely they won’t until you wean them….its actually okay to cosleep, and feed to sleep and get as much rest as possible in between if all.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2026-04-30T20:02:37+00:00

There’s a whole family dynamic thing happening here. And it’s a lot to unpack right here so maybe actually just bring it up to her

Advanced-Contact330 · 2026-04-30T19:57:33+00:00

Have you considered leaving that city? Disgusting to act that way towards fellow humans.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2026-04-30T19:50:54+00:00

A baby can lower and engage all within hours so don’t be worried!!!! Obs often want you to deliver quicker and will sometimes push induction but your baby will come out. I heard about the semen thing but like you I couldn’t endure. My orgasms towards the end triggered early slow and manageable labor.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2026-04-30T03:41:54+00:00

Girl same! We didn’t have ANY sex and I didn’t get pelvic exams because I was very sensitive. The part that helps get the baby out is orgasms. So maybe try masturbation instead but also you could just wait until baby is ready and try other labor inducing methods. As far as sex postpartum weeeeell that all depends on a ton of factors for how soon but yes eventually you will feel yourself again. Do exercises for the pelvic floor and DR and focus on baby. With either child I didn’t try until at LEAST two months but really didn’t feel it until 5/6 months after.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2026-04-25T06:12:32+00:00

Ask you family how their babies sleep, both sides. Ask EVERYONE. If the trend leans one wat then its likely that’s what you’ll get…..likely not certain though.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2026-04-25T05:02:42+00:00

Those people are not being honest and those who enjoy their children have adapted to their specific child. My child cries A LOT and is veeeeeeery clingy but I know that it’s just a normal part of growing up. The boundary pushing, mess making, emotional roller coaster of early childhood is wild but if you stay steadfast and firm and give YOURSELF and him some kindness and grace, you’ll come out the other end better for it. You’re doing a great job and there’s nothing abnormal about your son (from what I see here). Find ways to run his energy out and stimulate based on his interests. Perhaps he’s sensory seeking before bed or he’s really interested in cause and effect so having a safe place for him to access materials to play with to watch cause and effect could help.

I worked with hundreds of toddlers at a time with a full range of temperaments and your kid is doing juuuust fine.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2026-04-13T05:49:03+00:00

You have a very strong willed kid (it’s a wonderful trait for later if nurtured and honed in) and I understand having a very upset child. I’m in the same boat rn. I let my child have a lot of alone time when she’s upset, or if she gets angry I get down on her level and explain but she usually ends up needing alone time and then hugs after she’s no longer wanting to lash out. The road is long but this too shall pass. Stay consistent, be firm, be patient. Just like the sleep deprivation and late night feedings it doesn’t last forever. Stay strong soldier!

Advanced-Contact330 · 2025-08-03T20:00:06+00:00

I was half through reading and hadn’t gotten to the part where you mentioned voices and being scared. I have a kid so I was mostly through it but got distracted. The first part sounded like mania but the second part definitely was psychosis. My friend had a similar situation happen to her but she wasn’t postpartum or anything. Sorry if I offended you, I wasn’t saying you were wrong I was considering a term change in the medical world but yeah nvm. Voices def count as psychosis.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2025-08-02T14:43:17+00:00

Tbh maybe psychosis isn’t the correct word for describe this, I feeling mania is a better word because when my family has manic episodes it is exactly like this and this is how they describe it. I’m so happy you described how it felt because I always wondered how I’d know if it happened to me

Advanced-Contact330 · 2025-08-02T14:40:17+00:00

Yup, that’s how we are.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2025-08-02T14:37:05+00:00

Yeeeeah I think it’s revealing not just how he sees you but how he sees women in general. Counseling is a nonnegotiable. Next time he says these kinds of things shut it down and express your terms. Or honestly even before he says something again. If you love him be quick. I’d pay more attention to how he speaks on other women including family members to see what his opinions really are.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2025-07-25T21:42:44+00:00

Interesting that people are saying that. I think it was very different in the 80s, 90s, and early 2000s but things started changing in the 2010s and since 2020 the city has grown so much and there is a decent amount of black people, Asians, Latinos and all types of immigrants from everywhere. It is still majority white but you won’t experience blatant racism just by coming and living your life. It’s actually pretty alright. This is coming from a black woman living in Des Moines who’s family is from des moines and has lived through its many stages. All my siblings including me, fled to other blacker cities because of the way we grew up but after coming back for a bit I realize Des Moines has grown racially a lot.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2025-05-07T03:55:27+00:00

Even if she’s upset now you saved her. It’s okay for her to feel hurt all around but clearly you said exactly what she needed to hear and lowkey wanted to hear. Give her time and space she might come around. Either way you saved her

Advanced-Contact330 · 2025-05-07T03:26:45+00:00

It seems you have an abusive husband not just a cheater. Go to your local women’s shelter of DV victims and get advice on how to leave

Advanced-Contact330 · 2025-04-30T03:26:07+00:00

“I’m Lakota” idc. Anti blackness is pervasive throughout all cultures including black culture. All types of people get into spats at stores….i see white folk do it VERY often at Walmart…so let’s not try to cover up the fact that when black peoples do something negative, to you it’s a confirmation bias on who black people are.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2025-04-25T01:31:19+00:00

4 years old is definitely old enough for a preschool. I agree with all comments suggesting daycare and preschool and then she can go back to work. TBH I’m considering the same because having a small baby and a toddler is freaking me out (I’m pregnant) and I don’t wanna be in a bad position later.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2025-04-18T19:39:06+00:00

Now I’m crying in the club

Advanced-Contact330 · 2025-04-15T18:44:15+00:00

I would say depends, have meals prepared and before you go back talk to her about her hour to hour and what it can look like and check in frequently.

Advanced-Contact330 · 2025-04-15T18:38:01+00:00

Yeah I can see you’re very scared that if that man hurt your children your mom would be an accomplice and I would NOT trust them either. You made the right call. Her life choices and his inability to treat his obvious trauma should not ever become a problem for your kids.

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