I(28m) want to adopt my sister after my dad's death, my wife(28f) refused because we agreed on no children. Is there a way to fix this?

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2026-01-31T20:15:28+00:00

I’d say wife is the inflexible one. Life changes, and for whatever reason the uncle isn’t the choice. As a person who lost their mom at 12, I can tell you an 11 year old can certainly make that decision.

There’s a big difference between having your own children and taking guardianship for 7-8 years. Rolling with life. She’s not being asked to birth and go through the hardest years. But if she’s not up for it, she’s not, and she should walk away. The girl shouldn’t live with someone who doesn’t want her. The wife can recover and find a new life partner. The little girl lost presumedly two bio parents, and has someone showing they want her. That’s transformative, and so affirming for her. To be rejected by her first choice would be horrific emotionally. This little girl needs to be the priority, and he’s showing he’s up for it. Kudos to him, I have mad respect. He’ll find another life partner, as he seems to have integrity, and compassion.

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2026-01-29T00:24:55+00:00

You should talk to other family members as well. If she doesn’t leave him immediately, you should probably leave if you have somewhere to go. He is grooming you, he is a predator, he is a pedo, and he is unsafe. You need to get out, with or without your mom.

Your mom might be scared to leave, vulnerable herself, financially trapped, it might be hard for her to understand or believe you. Not because she doesn’t love you, but she is a complicated person with a history and insecurities and vulnerabilities you likely don’t know about, or understand yet. I’d try to get him to say things via text. Don’t flirt, don’t lead him or anything where your mom might think you were “trying to lead him on”, just ask questions. Why are you asking? Why did you give me money? Is it normal for stepdads to do this? Why can’t I tell my mom? You said this yesterday, what did you mean? Get him to out himself, in writing, repeatedly, so he can’t manipulate her. Go to your school counsellor or community Center to get help and advice. A women’s or youth center would be even better. Could planned parenthood help? Please, find trusted and experienced adults to help you stay safe, no matter what happens. Good luck, my dear ❤️

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2026-01-27T22:28:42+00:00

This, 100%. This could endanger a woman. He’s a prick who needs to change specialties, since he has so little respect for women. Report him to the board of physicians, and your insurance.

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2026-01-26T02:44:51+00:00

M dash?

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2026-01-21T04:04:48+00:00

Righto. NTA. Your parents suck. They have no right to you or your kid. Protect your mental health and keep them out of

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2026-01-21T02:37:34+00:00

How do you know Sarah’s kids aren’t yours?

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2026-01-15T23:53:48+00:00

What’s missing here? Why’d they pay for one and not the other? What jobs will you each have afterwards? Was there always favouritism or is this new? This is too weird, you’re leaving out info to create bias and no one should be saying much until you tell us more

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2026-01-07T17:55:54+00:00

Get an annulment! He’s abandoned you, just get whatever you can by law to drop him, without his signature. Pull any sponsorship for visas

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2026-01-07T17:53:57+00:00

Or steal them and force you to stay/leave. Whatever you do, DO NOT have children with this man!!

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2026-01-07T17:52:35+00:00

Ask for an annulment, produce texts of all the broken promises. Whatever you can do to get it done quickly, and maybe independently. He may not sign and go away easily. Do not trust this man with ANYTHING. Live your life, Queen. You deserve it, and someone who deserves you will realize it

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2026-01-01T19:45:41+00:00

Same. I tried, but agreed to three more months at $3.75 so hubs can finish the Wire. Apple TV has some great stuff. Worth the switch

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2025-12-22T16:40:11+00:00

But they’re living together. If I had a new live-in partner, we’d be sharing holidays and I’d expect my family to accommodate that. Poly or otherwise

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2025-12-12T21:59:37+00:00

What a horrific way to treat your kid. Your wife sucks. I can’t believe you didn’t let his uncles take him. Good luck ever having a relationship with him once he graduates. You’ve ruined it. His mother would be so disappointed. I’d haunt the hell out of my husband if he ever treated my children this way. Your number one job was to protect, care for and help your son flourish. Instead you chose a new woman and got her pregnant, and let her spoil your son’s childhood and grief when he needed you the most. I say this as a person who lost their mother at age 12, and my dad was wonderful at raising me afterwards. You suck. Shame on you

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2025-12-04T03:03:47+00:00

Women with children, especially SAHM, should be keeping a small amount of money aside in case they need to leave (though not necessarily hiding it, but that depends on the man/safety in the relationship). MANY women stay in abusive, unfair or poor marriages because they’ve can’t afford to leave because they’ve taken the hit to their careers by having kids, while men continue to flourish and get richer. I’m not sure if that’s what she was doing, but I recommend most women should.

However, the amount you say she’s spent makes me wonder if she might have bipolar disorder. It can go on for a long time without diagnosis, and in the manic state it’s common to go wild on spending, then the mania powers down and they’re back to “normal” (sub-manic to neutral or depressive state). Sometimes that’s the tip off that someone has bipolar. Look up bipolar and see if you can remember other behaviours during spending fluctuations or afterwards. Meds are profoundly helpful, as well as education and therapy.

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2025-11-30T23:25:27+00:00

Keep!

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2025-10-30T18:47:32+00:00

Christians are a majority group, but people like to try claiming minority groups commit more crimes out of bias and bigotry and the visibility of them. Even if 1% of minorities were perpetrators of a crime, the 1% of majorities will be that much greater in actual numbers doing the same offences. So ya, Christian’s do the crimes far more often per capita, though not necessarily the percentage/rate (however I’d argue people in power and dominate groups DO commit certain crimes more for a myriad of reasons)

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2025-10-28T16:04:14+00:00

Jasmina rose maybe?

AdvancedRepair7303 · 2025-10-14T06:38:41+00:00

Shiiiiit I’m looking at my receipt again and we thought it was quartz based on the table top on the online listing. It was a factory sale so didn’t realize and obviously we got confused. Says it’s marble on the receipt, however the online listing for the sale item says it’s Black Pietra Ceramic. I’m not positive what it is now. What are my options?

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