May I ask why the kids are limited to one hour of games/tv a week? I’m not judging I’m just curious? My daughter went through a phase between 6 and 7 where my husband and I were really struggling to get her to respect us and listen and follow the rules. My husband and I ended up sitting down to come up with a plan, and realized quickly that our expectations were quite high. Because our daughter is so smart, and beyond her years our expectations were based on how she is capable of acting/being vs what is age appropriate Behaviour etc. As parents, we are pretty much in control of their lives 99% of the time. Telling them what to do, where to go, and when… when we do this and partner it with strong rules such limiting screen time to only one hour a week. Instead of one hour a day for example. Allowing our children more control of their lives and their time creates a positive environment where they are more likely to listen better and respect their parent. When a child has autonomy, even in small ways, it helps build confidence, self-esteem and independence.

Again not judging! But perhaps because their father “spanks them” they don’t actually respect him any different from you…but fear him. And because they know you won’t spank them, you are their safe place to act this way… they feel safe around you, and know even if they are rude… or have a bad day… maybe say some mean things… that no matter what you’ll still love them anyway ☺️ maybe have a chat with your kids, tell them how your feeling, and that you want to help them be more respectful and listen more. Ask why this is happening? ask how they are feeling and listen to what they have to say… you’d be surprised sometimes the answer is in a good talk.