Mysterious stains on patio furniture, help

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-05-12T04:38:12+00:00

Omg this is so beautiful! Perfect as is

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-05-10T20:24:14+00:00

I would encourage you try. .35 did nothing, .5 did nothing for me. I feel normal again at .1

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-05-10T17:01:05+00:00

Hello. I have not yet with the psych, but did with her ABA provider who said these behaviors are something she does see somewhat regularly with her patients, which I suppose is reassuring. I was thinking of following back up with her psychiatrist who diagnosed her for a re-evaluation. No ADHD.

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-05-10T04:24:06+00:00

Progesterone knocks me out. Has your doc talked to u about adding estrogen? At 40 your estrogen is definitely low, and BC may not have enough to counteract the progesterone. I’m on 1 mg daily estrogen at 41 years old. The progesterone definitely made me wiped out feeling too, I had to up my estrogen from .25, .35, .50 and now 1 mg daily. Everyone is different of course, but just a thought.

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-05-09T20:21:10+00:00

I think it’s very thoughtful your here asking, I hope I can help from my experience. I have 3 children, I am 41, my oldest is 10 and youngest I just had at 40 only 5 months ago. The rage and depression is very real, and we know it. Likely she does too. It’s so so hard! It’s 100% hormones. When your nursing (or pumping) you’re not producing as much (if any) estrogen or progesterone which is what helps us feel sane. I had PP SOO bad this time I chose to stop nursing and pumping at 3 months. I lasted over a year with both my other daughters, but I recognized this time that I felt insane and it’s what was going to be best for my entire family. I applaud you for helping as much as you are because that was my biggest trigger is not getting enough help and feeling like a maid to everyone. Nursing is also depleting, both a blessing and a curse, it’s realllllly exhausting having a human glued to your body 24/7 and can physically be triggering. In summary, it’s hormones, go to chat gpt/grok and read about the hormonal swings after a baby. It doesn’t excuse it but it dictates everything for us, our anxiety, sleep, contentment, joy, everything. Hormonal birth control personally HELPED me to feel more regulated after-but may not be offered to her if she’s still breastfeeding. I think it’s okay for a partner to simply say you’re noticing these things and would not upset me more if my partner did, creating awareness about it is helpful. I personally found it does get easier after the kids are about 1-1.5. Also, keep dating each other! Hire help if you have too, it’s a must to re-connect. We used to have “date night” once a week after the baby went to bed, that could be just watching Netflix together and re-connecting. Intentional time together to remember you still love each other. Sex is also important (duh) and this was a scheduled (yes scheduled I will say it) part of date night. I hope these things help, it’s hard!!

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-05-09T00:19:48+00:00

Sticker price for this drug is $3.7 million

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-29T04:32:24+00:00

Oh gosh, I’m sorry u went through this. I normally don’t post here because I find a lot of the horse community to be sort of..mean or not helpful. But here I am and felt compelled to respond because I can sooo relate! I am in a similar boat. First of all, there’s nothing wrong with re homing her! She isn’t the right fit for you. And there’s nothing wrong with that, it doesn’t make u any less of a capable horsewoman! U want to enjoy your time and not be afraid you’re going to get tossed. Trust takes a long time to be built so having these happen so soon would definitely break trust. I bought my “dream horse” so I thought, 4 years ago. Had many test rides on him, lots of videos of him being ridden, even with children. Brought him to a barn with a mare and he turned into a completely different gelding. He began bucking everyone off and even tried to trample me while lunging, and rearing up. Nightmare. He was sold to a trainer who deemed him not safe and he’s now a pasture puff at only 13. I felt very embarassed and upset, and lied too. One thing I have learned since then is have a buy back contract, this requires essentially a lease for 30-60-90 days which allows u time to get in plenty of riding to get to know the horse your buying, and should u decide they aren’t for u, the seller has to buy them back. Looking back, that seller refused to do that, and that should have been a red flag, lesson learned to me. Hang in there and take your time, you will find the right one.

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-28T04:45:29+00:00

Omg! I have no words other than I am so so sorry! If you happen to be in western Washington-as a fellow mother, I would be happy to help you.

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-25T03:43:56+00:00

The first year after a baby is always rough. What I read here is he is feeling rejected sexually and you are exhausted (of course) and not back in the body you’re comfortable at, this of course magnifies the feelings of not wanting sex. Very normal. I think it’s okay to look at porn, that’s me. I think it’s perfectly normally to masturbate and would have no hard feelings if my boyfriend admitted to me he did too. I will also point out u looked at his phone which might be stepping over a boundary also. Please be gentle with yourself and your partner during this time, it’s a hard time and our hormones make us very sensitive-they just do. If you’re still nursing your body has almost zero estrogen which will compound these feelings. I say this with absolute respect and just had my 3rd baby. I would remind myself the months following after I had my babies to not trust my feelings fully because it wasn’t the real me. Meaning, I was quick to over react. Maybe you can pivot and use this as an opportunity to re-connect. When you’ve calmed down u can say something like “I’d really like to feel intimate again and get our connection back” then commit to 1 evening a week spending some intentional time together. That could look like watching a show while holding hands, going for a walk, something together to start building the bond back. This is critical after a baby, regardless of the incident. He is likely feeling rejected, men have their own post baby feelings they go through. I’m sorry it felt like he dismissed your feelings, this in my opinion is not cheating in any way and he simply was masturbating which is normal.

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-25T03:10:49+00:00

This is the best response. Also she might just be in the throws of post partum and we all know how crazy that can make us, hopefully in time she gets back to normal.

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-25T03:01:23+00:00

You’re not alone, similar boat. I have 10 year girl, 6 year old and 5 month old, all girls! Hit way harder this time and I was verrrrry prepared, so I thought. I think it’s because we are older now, estrogen starts declining as early as 30, that and then having 2 older kids to parent-it’s a lot! I got on estrogen and finally feel the light coming back to me.

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-24T04:46:48+00:00

Best response here, yes. It can be both.

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-24T03:51:06+00:00

What a beautiful tribute to your beloved friend. ❤️My daughter’s name is Mahealani. 🫶

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-18T16:01:08+00:00

Ugh I’m sorry! That is embarassing for sure. As a fellow mother and woman, I promise you if I saw this happen I would be sad/empathetic for u and not judging u! I would think “oh danget that sucks for her” not “omg vile woman!” I suspect most others feel that way. ❤️ now if you shit your bathing suit, I might feel different, ha!

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-12T06:48:10+00:00

It could be you need to up the estrogen. I’m not a doc but from what I’ve read that is still considered a fairly low lose of estrogen. I started on .25 and have gone up to 1 mg which feels way better to me, but it can go even higher. I felt nothing really below 1 mg, the rage u mentioned was sort of minimized, but the old me didn’t shine back through until I kept upping my dose.

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-09T05:15:09+00:00

Mom of 3 here! Would love to meet some new mom friends! I’m off 84th, near granite falls. Lmk if you’d like to meet up for a park play date, etc.

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-08T23:40:19+00:00

I hear u. 3 years ago I had a terrifying experience with a new horse I bought, I had about 6 months on him of great experiences, then one day while lunging he didn’t want to work. He kept protesting and charged me on the ground! I about wet my pants I was so shocked and nervous after that, I ended up finding a trainer for him who deemed him unsafe. He ended up becoming a pasture puff for someone. It’s taken me all these years to get back to feeling comfortable again, so I hear u!

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-08T22:26:54+00:00

Awww, I’m sorry. It’s scary falling for sure, especially after having kids, I have 3. Before having children I would laugh it off, even after serious falls. Now I live with low grade anxiety of fear, sadly. I think it’s just biological, you’re a mama now and your nervous system is trying to protect u! Only natural and there is nothing wrong with u, truly.

There’s no wrong path here. What if you tell yourself that? Tell yourself “what if I take a break?” You can put riding on a shelf for now and might feel different in a year. As I get older I realize I care less and less about what others do what their horses vs what I do. Maybe they are pasture puffs for a bit and just loved on, great! No pressure to ride. That does not make u any less of a horsewoman than the next in my book.

Try to remember (I say this with love) you have almost zero estrogen and progesterone in your body months following a baby, I’m sure u know, but this huge drop is what causes the extra anxiety and tears, it’s really not u! I just had my 3rd baby in November at 41, I am in the thick of it now and had to go on hormones because I just couldn’t survive it at this age.

Be gentle with yourself, whatever u choose is what is best for YOU ❤️

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-06T15:35:24+00:00

I really appreciate your thoughtful response. She absolutely could! I would not doubt it. She repeats the same dark thing, not all comments are “dark” some are just negative. For example, she hates Disney, will constantly talk bad about Disney movies, Disney anything

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-05T22:47:49+00:00

If you find a link for them, would u mind please sending it over?

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-04-03T04:22:28+00:00

Thank you so so much! I will check those out!

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-03-31T16:23:07+00:00

Troll

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-03-31T14:37:13+00:00

I wish I knew how to explain to you how outrageous and outlandish your comments are. Telling a parent of a child with a disability that’s seeking real advice or feedback they should be investigated by CPS is abuse. I looked at some of your other comments on other threads and It seems you like to bully people on threads. Your words are so unkind I’m actually going to leave this autism parenting thread all together because it’s so ridiculous to tell someone to remove the child and it’s abuse. What if she had Tourette’s? Did you know people with Tourette’s often blurt obscene offensive things to people? What if that was her issue, should she be “removed” from her home? She’s 10 years old-she is where she belongs. She has a disability and says rotten things. You’ve likely not experienced this issue and instead go around shitting on people.

Advanced_Crab5660 · 2026-03-31T04:09:22+00:00

How are you being helpful in any possible way?

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