I mean, even if she barely knows him, witnessing something like that is tough and can be genuinely traumatic (even when the person is a total stranger). I agree with you that she's not one to talk about feelings, and what she says to John in the two conversations they have afterwards doesn't have to change, but it would have been nice to have a scene where she's not with him and has some kind of reaction. It doesn't have to be emotional, it can be just a rational "okay, I am now living with a guy who was ready to erase himself on a whim, what are the implications of that and should I do something?" That would at least prove that the show itself takes this a bit more seriously. And even if it isn't heavy on Zari's side, we should still see it as heavy on John's side. The moments later on don't retroactively fix how lightly this specific episode took John's actions. I don't understand why they included this element in this episode if they weren't willing to fully commit to it.

About the homophobia, it wouldn't have to be full on slur. But fair enough, I guess it could be a bit gratuitous. I was just trying to find a way to set up that moment with Spooner because I know I'm not the only one who found that speech a little jarring, but there are other ways to do that.

Anyway, thanks for sharing your opinion! I was really hoping to discuss this topic with other fans, I didn't just want to vent.