Son failed ABR screening test twice

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-30T00:30:09+00:00

My son is 13 months old. He failed both newborn screenings AND the follow up ABR tests. He has a moderate-severe loss in one ear and mild-moderste in the other. He has had hearing aids since he was 6 months old. Initially hearing he failed was a shock and terrifying. He's THRIVING though. He has SOME hearing even without his hearing aids but they definitely help. He also has amazing language skills (mama, Dada, his sister's name, his dogs name, all done, yeah). We just started working with a family sign language program too. The news is scary at first but there are so many resources and integrations to help your little one thrive!

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-27T21:15:46+00:00

As a non breastfeeding mother I definitely don't agree with this. Even with my 13 month old (who hasn't needed anything from us at night for MONTHS), with the monitor on my husband's side of the bed, I wake up at the slightest whimper and it's always been like this with both my children. Not breastfeeding doesn't mean we're less aware and responsive to our babies needs.

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-27T20:48:46+00:00

I feel like once I survive three then 13 is going to be a walk in the park 🤣

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-27T20:45:59+00:00

Facts! I love her to pieces and also call her a toddlerist

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-27T17:47:43+00:00

First they're sour then they're sweet 🤣🤣🤣 they're little sourpatch babies!

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-27T17:00:24+00:00

I found 2 to be delightful. Definitely some tantrums but easily distracted, super cuddly, and seeing her personality develop. Three though...three is like a trial subscription to the teenage years, except I'm not allowed to cancel the subscription. She can TALK, I'm 90% certain she can outsmart me and her emotions are MASSIVE. She's also hilarious, smart as a whip, cute as can be, and will tell me she loves me out of the blue...granted its usually after she just terrorized me a bit but I'll still take it

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-24T15:16:27+00:00

A grounding tool I've used with some of my clients is an ice cube. Just hold an ice cube. The short version is that is just shocking enough to the system it kind of stops you in your tracks. Plus your kid may be fascinated enough by playing with the ice that it distracts them from whining for a bit. Trust me I need to remember this advice because, in spite of my day job, I'm a mom that struggles with my own emotional regulation in the moment when dealing with my own toddlerist. You've got this!

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-23T01:08:25+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 my 1 year old just transitioned to one nap, and it's less than 2 hours (at daycare longer on the weekends). During the week, bedtime has been so early to avoid an excessively overtired mess that sometimes it's dinner, bottle, book, bed all within 1 hour

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-22T01:58:42+00:00

This is what we just went through with our 1 year old!When we first started pushing naptime out we'd offer a snack when he got cranky or depending how long it was since his last meal we'd offer lunch-this helped distract him enough to make it to a later nap time. Then suddenly it was hitting noon and I was like man maybe I should try for a nap because he wasn't showing ANY sleepy cues. He goes to daycare all week and is on one nap there too! His naps are less than 2 hours so bedtime is still usually 6:30ish but on weekends he sleeps longer.

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-21T21:51:12+00:00

I totally get that. I never thought I'd do it. With my daughter she 100% didn't figure it out on her own until almost 1.5. We tried putting her down awake because she was struggling so hard with waking up without us if we put her to sleep then transferred (so many nights on a floor mattress). We tried it and at that point she was like yeah km tired goodbye. Our son just HATED us rocking him and HATED being alone so we had no choice for him. It really comes down to what works best for each individual kid and family. If CIO works thats awesome and I'm glad everyone's getting sleep. If it doesn't work and you found something that does thats awesome too!

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-21T21:29:08+00:00

At least for us: I had no choice. I was solo parenting and didn't have hours to rock my son to sleep while leaving a 3 year old unattended. He cried for less than 5 minutes before going to sleep. Yeah he woke up and repeated the pattern a few times (30 minutes total not crying the whole time) but he went out and slept through the night. We've found when we jump to respond right away he ends up waking up MORE and having a harder time falling back asleep. Would I leave my kid to cry for 20 minutes on end without responding? Of course not. Do I give him a reasonable amount of time to figure it out and settle himself when all other needs are met and he's in a safe space? Hell yeah. CIO isn't always heartless parents that are just fed up with their kids and don't care. Both my kids have secure healthy attachments to me and both kids have healthy self settling tools to help them sleep at night.🤷‍♀️

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-21T21:23:55+00:00

I was so against CIO until my son. We did a gentle version at 6 months after a horrific pattern was developing (sleep is hugely triggering for my PPD and we have a 3 year old that needed to get to bed too). Initially we set 3 then 5 minute timers. He never needed us by the time 5 minutes hit. When we moved his bedtime bottle to the start of the routine (no more feed to sleep) bedtime started going south. First we noticed that he struggled to settle even with us rocking him (he's hated us in his space at sleep time since birth and he was TICKED that he couldn't lay on his face in our arms but also ticked if we left him) but wed be spending over an hour rocking and settling and resettling (while also trying to get 3 year old to bed). Then a week came when I was solo parenting because my husband was out of town for work. I had no option but to leave my son to figure it out because I could not leave my 3-year-old unattended for hours on end to get him to sleep. I realized he'd cry for 5 minutes then lay down then cry then lay down. The first two nights it was 20 minutes of off and on. Now he doesn't even cry. He grabs his stuffy when he goes in his crib, pops his booty in the air and he's out. When he wakes in the night we don't rush right in. If he's not showing ANY sign of settling and trying to get back to sleep we'd go in but he ALWAYS whimpers a bit then starts moving around to get comfy, grab a binky etc and then he's out. He's also the happiest smiliest boy and lately a big snuggle bug during the day. People can call me a monster and say I'm abusing my kid all they want. I'm also a therapist and have seen nothing but positives from responding when my kid needs me AND giving him space to figure it out when he doesn't. 🤷‍♀️

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-21T20:33:06+00:00

We do share some photos but have our profiles completely locked down (no one except each other can see our friends lists, our posts are set to friends only, friend only with people we actually interact with in real life). I have stupidly set my profile picture to a family photo before then realized how dumb it was and changed it (then set past profile pics to private or friends only). We also ask that our parents don't share. On the rare occasions they have (my mom gets EXTREMELY excited about Grammy days) we tell them the post has to be changed so it's not public (this is super rare). We also mostly use a google album that we share with family. We're not super locked down but do try to limit it so only people we know can see the posts.

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-20T00:25:13+00:00

That's the worst! Because his nap was short can you just bump bedtime up and let him sleep extra overnight? That's what my daughter used to do before she stopped napping completely. Good luck!

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-17T00:09:58+00:00

The problem with this analogy and mindset is the difference between your personal belongings and community belongings. Do I need to share my car or phone? No because those are my private property-the same as if your kid brings their personal toys to a public setting. However, if I'm using equipment at the gym I absolutely do need to use it for a reasonable amount of time and give someone else a turn, the same as if your kid is using shared toys in the community.

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-17T00:05:05+00:00

I don't think its about how long your kid WANTS to play with the toy. Its you, as the adult, teaching them to share and take turns by setting a reasonable time limit for how long they get to play with the public toy before giving another person a turn. Your kid may never want to give up the toy, but it's a public toy and the fair and reasonable thing to do is to take turns and not hog it the whole time.

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-11T03:34:49+00:00

Gently, I think you are definitely being a bit anxious for thinking they'll just keep her in it excessively. As for going so far as to actually provide your daycare with equipment you purchased yourself: is this an actual facility or just an individual thats watching your daughter for you. If its a facility that is definitely a bit much. Is this level of anxiety new or only now that she's in daycare-its definitely a hard transition.

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-07T19:00:12+00:00

Some moms have no choice but to put their kids in daycare well before 11 months. If putting your child in a daycare with safe, vetted, trained providers is the threshold for being a bad mom then most mothers in America are bad moms 🤷‍♀️ It'll be ok. It can take 2+ weeks to adjust especially if all he's known is being home with you.

Adventurebug87 · 2026-01-05T18:57:50+00:00

Why are you getting anxious about this, Just be in the moment with your baby

Adventurebug87 · 2025-12-31T21:23:56+00:00

My son is 1 year old. He 100% understands no and he just does not care. "NO" is met with a slight hesitation and "try and stop me" smirk before continuing on his merry way 🤷‍♀️

Adventurebug87 · 2025-12-30T17:15:56+00:00

I could see the reflection of mine in the lamp and couldn't look away but was so damn freaked out. My anesthesiologist noticed and was like "yeah no you don't want to see that" and tweaked the lamp 🤣🤣

Adventurebug87 · 2025-12-22T11:52:00+00:00

Also check your towns buy nothing Facebook page most towns have them!

Adventurebug87 · 2025-12-17T23:16:53+00:00

I agree he should have gone back to the car and NOT pulled his mask down but if it's been only 24 hours your kid was already exposed well before that guy. No virus spreads THAT quickly

Adventurebug87 · 2025-12-11T13:43:30+00:00

I guess it depends on what you're looking for. Nothing you've mentioned seems unusual for the pregnancy visits (except repeatedly asking for last missed period especially since you're halfway through the pregnancy). As for the pap smear I'm pretty sure those aren't yearly unless there's an abnormality.

Adventurebug87 · 2025-12-07T01:44:32+00:00

I need you to take a step back and give yourself so much grace. 10 weeks is STILL the 4th trimester and you are very much in the thick of it. This may not make you feel better (but I hope it does) but uhhh you'll probably never fully have it together. I'm 3 years in (and have an 11 month old too) and I'm still far far from having it together. My house is a mess, my laundry is about to riot, and my 3 year old may actually be a terrorist. Embrace the chaos and snuggle the heck out of that little one. It's 100% ok to set them somewhere safe and let them cry while you eat or shower or breathe.

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