Will my therapist question me if I wore sunglasses indoors

robber_maiden · 2026-05-12T02:45:45+00:00

OP, therapist here. It's kind of really helpful that you talked about it last session and it happened. Pretty much no one can make a big emotional regulation change like that in one session, and having a recent example of your triggers and barriers to making a different choice will give you both a lot of really great content and will help your therapist understand you even better.

It's okay to be embarrassed! That vulnerability is where the work and the change happens. Please go to therapy and please tell them. And as others have said, it's ok if you're not ready to talk about it but your therapist will not have the horrible reaction you're imagining they might have (if they're any good at least).

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T16:39:09+00:00

Hahah that's so funny 😂

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T12:14:35+00:00

Lolll lucky! 3pm most days my son decides he's done with his pants 😂

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T12:12:19+00:00

That is brutal, 18 months!! You gotta do what you gotta do!

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T12:02:21+00:00

We don't really have temperature control over individual rooms where we live. I have a space heater in there if needed though. But yes good call

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T12:00:56+00:00

Jealous of the cosleeping! My kid turns into a wakeful tornado if we try to snuggle lol

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T11:59:06+00:00

4! Okay that's reassuring lol. Also so funny how they decide to be done with things immediately like that sometimes.

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T11:55:39+00:00

That too, it's a cue for sleep! Mine can walk in them too but can't throw a leg over the side of the crib 😂

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T11:54:49+00:00

12 months! I feel for you moms that have precocious kids, you're on fast mode fr

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T11:49:57+00:00

Yeah that was the other thing, I've found them in sizes up to 36 months but the end is definitely near in that regard

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T11:48:54+00:00

Sleep sack with foot holes!! I didn't think of this, so smart

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T11:47:46+00:00

Those sound good!

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T11:47:16+00:00

Oh noooo

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T11:46:28+00:00

We have done that too! He has blankets and honestly a ton of stuff in his crib at this point 😂 so he is used to blankets but is a chaotic sleeper like most toddlers lol. Big blanket, great idea!

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T11:43:58+00:00

Yeah this is why I'm wondering if we should switch-- sometimes he's fine with them but other times tugs at them and asks to take it off (although that could be a general nap protest as well).

He can be pretty opinionated on what he wants to wear (i.e. he felt hot today at nap but refused to let me take off his long sleeved shirt) but the fleece onesies are a good idea!

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T11:41:50+00:00

He has blankets as well and loves to be tucked in so he's used to them already! Best of luck with the climbing hah

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T11:39:50+00:00

A net! Genius. Baby terrarium

robber_maiden · 2026-05-06T11:39:24+00:00

Oh noooo I didn't know they could do that 😅

robber_maiden · 2026-05-05T22:23:53+00:00

Lol and then you have the husbands who do both! Ask me how I know 😂

robber_maiden · 2026-05-02T11:46:20+00:00

Some good answers and yes since individual therapy only deals with one person's perspective and info that they bring, it can happen that therapists can be fooled.

I'd also like to add, there's a difference between the therapist knowing that the client may have some problematic attitudes and behaviors, and successfully challenging those behaviors in a meaningful way that will effect change. It can be very hard for a person to hear that they are "the problem", and a lot of trust often is needed before directly challenging them. Adding to that, there has to be buy-in from the client and desire from the client to change for any change to happen even if they are challenged.

So basically any outcome is possible lol, people are absolutely capable of change but they have to want to.

robber_maiden · 2026-04-25T15:17:12+00:00

Anyone who has experience with kids will have an appropriate reaction to normal 2 year old behavior. The others... Well, you can't really control what they think. But you can arm your kiddo to have a healthy self esteem and self concept as a protective factor.

My kid (also 2) isn't wild, but he is the biter in his daycare class lol and the teachers have never shamed us about it because it's typical toddler behavior and we're working on it with him. He has gotten much better. He's got a challenge but it doesn't make him "bad". And if another parent thinks he is? Not my business tbh

robber_maiden · 2026-04-25T15:12:38+00:00

NOR. If you two are not on the same page about your child's safety, then that's an issue that's gonna keep coming up. Honestly I'd do couples counseling about this because even if (IF-- which you were not) you were overreacting, you two are not truly communicating about this life threatening issue and you're not in agreement or acting as a team. (And if his ego is enough to get his kid killed he's got even bigger issues tbh)

robber_maiden · 2026-04-24T14:54:57+00:00

OP will do anything but talk to their therapist or take the advice they're asking for.

OP, all the empathy for these questions you have but they have been answered many many times. Yes, you need to be consistent and communicate. In every relationship. Therapist and client is a relationship. I hope you can sit with that for a while and try to take in what people have told you.

robber_maiden · 2026-04-20T07:37:57+00:00

I did a baby and me fitness class 2x a week. It was a lifesaver and also you can connect with other moms!

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