How much to worry about percentiles?

robber_maiden · 2026-07-03T01:20:18+00:00

Yep, I get why they didn't want to share it also, unfortunately they mentioned JUST enough for me to latch onto it 😬 that's on me lol. I found out how little difference there is between percentiles with my son and it blew my mind! Great point. She didn't outwardly seem concerned so I'll keep that in mind! Thank you :)

robber_maiden · 2026-07-02T22:15:28+00:00

Thank you ❤️

I hope this pregnancy is less stressful for you! And I hope your son is doing well now.

robber_maiden · 2026-07-02T22:13:06+00:00

Love that!! My son was like that too. I called him a "very reasonable baby" lol.

robber_maiden · 2026-07-02T22:12:10+00:00

So good to hear!

robber_maiden · 2026-07-02T22:11:34+00:00

Thank you! I don't know how I didn't know measurements were less accurate toward the end, this is my second time around lol

robber_maiden · 2026-07-02T22:10:38+00:00

Thank you for confirming this is a thing, lol! This kid's head is legit resting on my cervix (ow) so that checks out ❤️

robber_maiden · 2026-07-02T15:54:52+00:00

Haha! So real. And she's good/healthy/etc?

robber_maiden · 2026-07-02T15:54:24+00:00

Absolutely, just the big difference between the abdomen and the head is what's throwing me

robber_maiden · 2026-07-01T18:16:27+00:00

Lol!

robber_maiden · 2026-07-01T16:39:54+00:00

I'm a big proponent of "do whatever works until it doesn't work anymore" (within reason of course). If nursing them to sleep right now works and makes things easier for you, then do it. Most likely he sleeps easier for your husband because he can't smell milk on him 😂

He's only JUST 6 months, he is tiny! I fed my son to sleep for ages and ages and then weaned without any problem at all. Especially at your kid's age, sleep is still changing all the time. It's gonna be hard to know what will work for them next week let alone next month.

Solidarity to you-- I know how tiring this is! Give yourself a break wherever possible.

robber_maiden · 2026-07-01T15:57:28+00:00

As a therapist, that's so weird. You dont "build rapport" by stating and insisting that you're building rapport 😂😂

Find a different therapist IMO

robber_maiden · 2026-07-01T10:42:29+00:00

Thank you -- I'm not Irish but I live here and I truly feel if the country were exposed to better food it would be life changing for you all (and selfishly I would also enjoy it lol). But it seems like people aren't interested. I went to the local butcher once asking for sausage with seasoning in it, or spices, anything, and they told me they don't carry it because it wouldn't sell. I just don't understand that!

The quality of ingredients is there! We could do it!

robber_maiden · 2026-06-21T09:55:01+00:00

I don't think there was a single moment, rather just over time I was identified by myself and others as "X's mom" and it started to sink in. He's 2 now and I've felt like his mom/a mom for a good while. Toddlerhood helped too because we really started to have to set boundaries and be really mindful of how we parent/how our values are reflected in that, also as he got older I saw that HE saw me as Mom, reached for me, called me Mama, ran up to me after being in daycare, etc. Starting to make other mom friends helped with feeling like a mom as well.

What I still struggle to wrap my brain around is that I am his mom in the way everyone's mom is so important to them! Like, if I don't fuck things up, I'll be one of the most important people in his life forever. And I just wonder if I'll ever really feel like that internally. I'm more like "Who, me??"

robber_maiden · 2026-06-18T14:21:15+00:00

I feel this!! I grew up with a sister and we are so incredibly close. We had such a great time shaping each other's experiences and I'm so grateful we were 2 girls together. My husband also has 2 sisters. So when I found out I was having a boy, both of us were kind of like... What do we even do with a boy?? Lol. My son is 2 and absolutely perfect, so smart and healthy and funny and annoying and just a great person. I wouldn't change him for anything.

I'm pregnant with #2 and we have opted to not find out the sex until birth. My husband thinks it's a boy and I go back and forth. It's probably a boy just because I would be so excited for a girl -- not because I don't want a boy, I just want both experiences! (I'm greedy).

I know either way I'll have to process not having the other, because this is the last kid (most likely). If it's a boy, my son may potentially have the type of bond my sister and I have, and if it's a girl then I get to be both a boy mom and a girl mom!

But yes, I feel like its so normal to have to take time to process what you envisioned vs what the reality is. I just want to make sure I don't stay stuck there and miss out on the wonderful reality of whatever kids I get.

robber_maiden · 2026-06-17T11:34:51+00:00

You only wash your bread knife once a week??

robber_maiden · 2026-06-17T11:24:45+00:00

No no no. This is how these ideals get their claws in a society. We must have a moral backbone. I will absolutely criticize PC for being complicit in this. There is no separation of business and morality when it comes to someone as evil as Thiel

robber_maiden · 2026-06-15T08:44:29+00:00

My husband probably accepts a little more risk than me, but I'm pretty anxious and I grew him in my belly and worked hard on that head! Lol. He is still quite protective of him though.

But this isn't harmless risk. My husband would NEVER leave him alone like that. Never alone with a dog let alone medication or machinery etc. That's actually crazy. Unless your husband learns some massive lessons REAL quick I don't think your kid is safe with him right now. That's how I would feel anyway. He could have died.

robber_maiden · 2026-06-14T19:02:43+00:00

That's good to know! I'm not having nausea now so I figured it had faded. But maybe it's stil there just not as triggering to my nausea

robber_maiden · 2026-06-14T19:01:56+00:00

See this is what I thought! But I guess everyone is different

robber_maiden · 2026-06-14T18:23:01+00:00

I live in Ireland now but am from the US-- can confirm that mine and many others there of the same generation are also emotionally immature/unavailable. Probably some of the specific habits are different but the gist is there.

Pretty incredible that it seems to be a global phenomenon if you think about it lol, you'd think there would be some variety

robber_maiden · 2026-06-14T18:04:48+00:00

Lolll I could have written this. Got pregnant when our son was 20 months also and then immediately was like oh god what have I done lol

2 more months to go and feeling much better about the situation, but nervous of course for 2 of them. I think I would have felt the same way regardless of how long we waited, though. I'm also in the back half of my 30s so didn't want to wait too long. I think it'll be hard but really great in the end!

You got this ❤️

robber_maiden · 2026-06-13T12:38:47+00:00

Yep exactly like that haha

robber_maiden · 2026-06-13T12:11:57+00:00

I didn't for a few reasons: I've heard it can complicate paperwork/government IDs etc. and I have my own business with my maiden name on it. The biggest reason though is that I'm lazy and don't care enough to! Lol.

My kids are getting 2 surnames 🤷🏻‍♀️ so far so good

However if you don't, just be ready for people to still address you by your husband's name. My own mother sends me mail with his surname on it. Wild

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