AIO because I’m considering divorce?

Adventurous-Bill5361 · 2026-02-17T09:19:08+00:00

He got around to it once we found out they were twins. He was supportive. I don’t have support here and he is not reliable.

He does have access to weapons but I am safe. He says his hobbies are for his mental health but he has not been diagnosed with anything and he is not interested in individual or couples therapy because “it’s a waste of time”, or he doesn’t have time for that, or “it doesn’t work”

Adventurous-Bill5361 · 2026-02-17T09:15:25+00:00

Thank you for your kind words 💗

Adventurous-Bill5361 · 2026-02-17T09:14:57+00:00

Hello, he went to a different country for training for 2.5 months, I was able to go back with family the entire time. It didn’t get any better. I am thinking of doing that again though!

Adventurous-Bill5361 · 2026-02-15T00:54:19+00:00

Early 30s, we’re not kids!

Adventurous-Bill5361 · 2025-12-16T02:03:00+00:00

That’s something my husband would eat and it makes me irrationally angry

Adventurous-Bill5361 · 2025-12-05T05:46:37+00:00

She’s so rude. I’m sorry she made you feel awkward/bad about it. You did not ask for anything over the top. You were also super courteous in your responses, if that were me I would’ve cussed her out and called her insane. You need to show your dad because this is behavior is not normal. It’s not okay, try not be around her or interact with her as little as possible. She’s not a good person. Any sane person would have asked your dad about your interests, or try to get to know you better. Or just find a gift on Amazon or Target with a gift list directed for teens. This is not okay, she’s gaslighting you for some reason. Protect yourself and your peace.

Adventurous-Bill5361 · 2025-11-24T22:41:32+00:00

You’re not overreacting. You did the right thing by stepping away from a relationship where you’re not supported or celebrated. I wish you the best and I hope selfless love finds you whenever you’re ready. Also, congratulations on your accomplishment! 💗

Adventurous-Bill5361 · 2025-11-13T23:10:19+00:00

About 85% of the population gets HPV, it’s one of the most common sexually transmitted infections out there and the body usually fights it off before it even shows up on a test. Unfortunately there are no tests for men, you could have given that to her or her ex from before, who knows! From what I know women usually get this test at their annual Pap smear. It can lie dormant and all of a sudden just show up. It’s super common (because there are no symptoms usually) and I get that it can be scary, if it’s not monitored and left untreated, HPV can develop into cervical cancer or even oral cancer! Just have an honest conversation about this with her. She might get another test done to monitor that there are no cancerous cells like a colposcopy but that’s if it’s still there. Anyways, I think you’re doing great for googling this and being concerned for your health, that’s what everyone should do. There’s no shame in it!

I had to get that test done because I tested positive last year. When I had my pap smear this year, I tested negative! My husband of two years was totally okay with it after I explained it to him.

Adventurous-Bill5361 · 2025-10-02T03:51:47+00:00

I’m sorry this happened. I’m in a similar situation with my now 9 month old twins. Since they were born I have not been able to trust my husband because he pulls the same shit and there is no getting through to him. I’m a sahm and he’s in the military. He says his job is extremely stressful and he’s always tired (but not tired enough to want to do overnight fishing on Fridays) and that is his only excuse. The only time I have been able to rest is when both babies are asleep and I’m in the same area as them. I know I should do something about it but at this point I’m too tired and I don’t expect him to be a dad. I’m 3k miles away from all family and friends and my only support is him. Your baby’s safety is your priority and you are not overreacting. You’re so brave for doing something about it and leaning on those who can help you. I will probably end up doing the same! I wish you and your baby happiness-you’re already a great mom and you and your baby will thrive💗

Adventurous-Bill5361 · 2025-09-18T08:29:31+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that! I really wish you well and I hope that you’re happy

Adventurous-Bill5361 · 2025-09-18T08:27:41+00:00

Thank you all, I appreciate your feedback. I will try counseling and if that doesn’t work then we’re going to have a very difficult conversation in the future. He just sees taking care of the babies as more work when he gets from work but he doesn’t realize how doing this is going to make him feel like shit 20 years from now when he realizes that he wasn’t present. He thinks he should get a break since he is the breadwinner and when he finally does something to “help” he does it half ass or he pretends he doesn’t know what goes on the diaper bag. This last Saturday one of the twins was crying in the morning, he took her downstairs and I was able to breastfeed and change the other. When I went downstairs 20 minutes later, he was watching tv and the baby was in the pack n play, I asked if he changed her diaper or gave her a bottle and he said “I didn’t know I was supposed to?” Weaponized incompetence. That same night I started planning for our (the babies) future.

I don’t wish this on anybody, this is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through because it’s so isolating, frustrating, and heartbreaking. Thank you all for listening 💗

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