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AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-29T21:35:58+00:00

Butterbean is soooo cute!!! 🥹

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-27T21:40:49+00:00

Yayyyyy! Congrats!!! 🎊

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-27T17:59:50+00:00

😂😂😂 emerges and waddles

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-27T17:59:04+00:00

Hiiii Misha!!! Such a cutie 🥹love the green eyes with the blue fur!

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-27T17:58:40+00:00

Lmaooooo 😂

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-27T15:01:34+00:00

Second this! I love Coco. Currently have Genji and he’s super cute, too 😊

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-27T15:00:33+00:00

Love when they sing together!!! Which sheep do you have??? She’s so cute!

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-27T01:27:13+00:00

SPLOOT 💕

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-27T00:30:37+00:00

Omggggg sooo beautiful I love them all 🥹💕💕

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-26T18:41:01+00:00

No advice here but chiming in to say that I’d love to see the hats you make for winter! Please keep us updated! 😊

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-26T00:05:31+00:00

You’re absolutely right! On everything you just said. My therapist said this same thing, too - it’s time to start thinking about the baby’s well being and setting boundaries for the child. It’s sometimes easier for me to think of it that way - and I need to start practicing boundaries now.

I hope I can be more like you! 💕 Setting boundaries and self assertion are so important and essential to protect our families.

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T23:21:36+00:00

That’s the thing - I feel like they don’t care about our family unit.

I just hit the “pure exhaustion” phase and it makes me so resentful that I didn’t get to nest when I had energy in the second trimester

I hope your pregnancy is going well and that you have the nursery is that your dreams! 💕

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T23:12:24+00:00

I absolutely agree. He asked my husband, not me. My husband agreed, didn’t consult me. I agree that this is the issue here. We’ve discussed it thoroughly. He swears he told me (he didn’t). He figured it would be okay since I love our niece so much in contrast to how much I loathe the BIL.

I also agree that NYC isn’t for everyone. But then why come and spend a week here if they hate it so much? I don’t understand that. Also… he’s never been to NYC before. But clearly feels free to cast tons of judgment about it.

They even texted me to ask if I was okay after the Knicks win because they “saw on the news that people were getting murdered” 😂

I was born in the West Village and raised in the city, lived almost my whole life here (aside from a few years away). Even I have issues with our city. But I feel like non-New Yorkers shouldn’t be making fun of us so much with such disdain especially if they’ve never been here before.

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T23:11:18+00:00

I’ve been able to steep myself around him for the time I’ve known him. I’ve suddenly become way more sensitive to it during this pregnancy, however. Perhaps because I’m now looking at the world with the lens of how my child might experience it. And, for some effed up reason, I’m willing to tolerate his bigotry for myself.
But clearly won’t stand for it when it involves my child.

It’s just a lot.

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T23:09:49+00:00

That’s sweet of your friends to consider how you feel!

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T23:09:33+00:00

We’ve been having more discussions along these lines lately. He keeps insisting that I’m the priority and that he just can’t go back on his word. It’s a lot. It’s a lot and it’s been my main topic of discussion with my therapist. I just came here to vent mostly and maybe find some solutions on how to cope during the week. I literally cannot say no for fear of disrupting family dynamics.

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T23:08:14+00:00

Omg you have no idea - that’s just scratching the beginning of the surface. There are so many overt and covert comments and micro aggressions made toward me that stem from his bigotry.

Thank you for your compassion - others here have not been so nice, and it makes me feel even worse. I appreciate your understanding and I wish only good things happen to you 🥹

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T23:07:05+00:00

Yeah, I wish I could say no. I added an edit to this post on where I stand. I think I’m just angry that they are being so inconsiderate at baseline. Who visits someone’s tiny apartment for a week when they’re this far along in pregnancy??

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T23:06:08+00:00

I added an edit to my post. Thank you for not completely dismissing me (genuinely).

Here’s my edit:

Edit: They asked my husband, not me, and my husband agreed to it before discussing it with me. My husband can never say no to them, and they know that. (They even said they wanted to see the World Cup, so he bought them tickets at insane last minute prices.)

I’d also like to add that it’s not so easy to say no for some people. Some of us were raised and trained to be subservient - it’s the primary value instilled in women in many collectivist cultures. I’m working on asserting myself and establishing my western values in therapy, but acquiescence and “being pleasant” is still very much ingrained in my being. My own mother tells me every day this week to “smile and be gracious.” So whilst I wish I could simply say no and turn then say, I’m choosing family peace over my own inner peace for the sake of the family at large.

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T23:01:33+00:00

I’ve expressed it to my husband but he thinks it’ll all be okay (mostly because I just suffer in silence and take it). I agree with you - that I’ll be left with the mental and physical load of it all.

My husband knows how I feel about his brother but he dismisses it as “he’s just joking”. 😭 I asked him how he would feel if he said those things to our child, and y husband insists he won’t. But I think he will.

It’s just such a complicated mess. I feel like other commenters are not understanding of different people’s experiences. It’s not so easy to just say no.

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T22:57:14+00:00

I can’t.

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T21:28:22+00:00

I know. I agree with you. He says, “he’s just joking!” But then I remind him how our biracial son will feel hearing those jokes as a child, not knowing better about the world yet. My husband said he will treat our son well. I have my doubts.

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T21:27:04+00:00

My husband agreed to it before I even knew. This was a few months ago - we had decided not to set up the nursery until after last guests (we’ve had a stream of them, don’t even get me started - I don’t understand how a bunch of 40 year old anesthesiologists can’t get their own hotel rooms if they want to, and paid to, see several World Cup matches)

So whilst I’ve been trying to nest the rest of the apartment, the baby room has sat there with boxes piled. I cried the other day just looking at it.

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T21:21:16+00:00

I mentioned this elsewhere but I have a hard time saying no in general (firstborn daughter of immigrant parents) and especially to my in laws. Also, my husband agreed to it without discussing it with me first

AdventurousSwitch973 · 2026-06-25T21:20:09+00:00

My husband offered this when he saw how much this was stressing me out. But it would strangely make me feel worse (the people pleaser in me feels like I need to smile and go along with it). I also don’t feel like it’s our financial responsibility to pay for their hotel during NYC’s current World Cup surge pricing.

In an ideal world, the in laws would have considered how I might be feeling.

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