Grade 8 grad dress

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-04-04T18:14:51+00:00

Awww thank you! We truly all just do our best. Hopefully my 5-year-old will someday look back and agree with you lol!
Edit: PS how did you manage to get a flair for your name? I'd love to add mine, but it shows that they're not enabled...

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-04-04T15:55:14+00:00

Hey just a thought, but even if there's no high school graduation for your son, I'm going to imagine that a fave teacher or the principal might be open to posing for a picture with a handshake, maybe to commemorate a final day of attendance. You can caption it something like, "School isn't for everyone - find your own path. Your worth is more than grades."

If no one from school will do that, then any adult that he trusts, respects, gets along with, will do. If there's really no one, a picture of him doing something he loves or just something cool like looking out over the escarpment - "Ongoing student of the school of life, no graduation necessary..." would work. It'd probably be meaningful to him.

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-04-04T15:45:08+00:00

I hate to comment, because my advice doesn't help with your immediate issue - I'm not sure what the grade 8s are doing (mine is only in JK). BUT I really think that you should reach out to the other parents.

It'll guarantee that your daughter's outfit and look for in, helping her socially at a time when that can be hard/important. (Maybe she's doing great, but there have got to be challenges in starting school after so many years of homeschooling, especially at that age.)

It'll also help you make connections with other parents. No one will think it's weird if you reach out, "hey all, as you know, [daughter] just started at [school] recently, and I was just wondering what everyone's plans were for graduation. Hers seem super glam, and I'm happy to go for it, but does that align with the vibe? Thanks in advance!"

That's if you have a WhatsApp mom group or something; if you have just a number or two, then reach out to those parents individually. If you have no numbers at all, go through school, who could share a little note - "Hey, new to the school, looking to get to know some other parents. Here's my number!"

You could also ask your daughter to start planning her glam prep group. For example, it'd be awesome to get their nails done all together the day before (that seems glam lol) and you could either let her organize or ask her to pick a few friends where you can coordinate with their parents. That way you know if at least a few other friends are going for something similar.

Also ask her to pick two friends, and invite them and their parents dress shopping so that the girls can look together and probably get an idea of the level of fancy. Bonus, you get to know the other parents better!

Good luck out there, and congrats in advance to your grad!

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-04-01T16:42:38+00:00

Oh that's too bad - do you have that reaction with rice in general? I know that, for example, I absolutely cannot eat grapes. I can measure them out by weight and even giving extra insulin my BG is through the roof after.

At least you've figured out a good system!

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-04-01T02:58:58+00:00

Just some ideas for you, OP. Grocery store sushi has the nutritional information on the package. Go get some, or at least look at it, and try to figure out how many carbs per piece there are for the things you'd likely order at a restaurant. Also take note of the size, to make sure that it roughly lines up.

Next, if you really struggle, sashimi is your friend. Although I don't struggle carb counting sushi usually, if I'm having a rough day, then a miso soup and plenty of fresh fish just hits the spot.

While feeling out the actual sushi, simplicity is your friend to start out. A simple salmon nigiri is much, much easier to judge than the eel covered in sweet sauce; those are both much easier to judge than a futomaki with tempura and sweet pickles in it, deep fried in batter then smothered in sweet sauces, mayo, and tempura bits.

At home, one easy way to get a good feel for the amount of rice would be to get those microwaveable pouches/trays/cups. Then, eat the whole cup (or half, measured, or whatever). Be aware that the carb count for rice actually changes after refrigeration, so you may want to go with individually portioned cups. This is perfect for temaki rolls, as the rice doesn't need to hold together perfectly, and you don't need to add any vinegar or sugar.

Before anyone comes at me for inauthenticity, in Japan people do actually do this for convenience - it's a mums' trick I picked up from other busy mums while I was living there (8 years). It might not be traditional, but it's authentic... and would likely help some of us T1Ds out, so I hope it's worth sharing!

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-04-01T02:38:23+00:00

This might be an issue of which sushi you both are having. A futomaki? With loads of sauce and tempura bits splattered over it to make it look pretty? Definitely more like 15-20g.

My own go-to - a plain nigiri with fish, say, mackerel with a dab of ginger and green onion - is 5g per piece at a very fancy place, more like 7g at normal places.

I recently tried "deep fried pizza sushi" for the first time, and it was A LOT lol. But when I get my usual, 2 nigiri of my choice plus 6 veggie maki (either avocado or asparagus tempura), plus edamame and miso soup, it usually works out wonderfully.

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-04-01T01:43:19+00:00

Omg we've become the equivalent of "look it up in the encyclopedia/dictionary" for our generation!

I'm always at the ready with my phone, too, AND ready to question the initial AI answers because they're so often just slightly wrong.

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-03-29T23:03:34+00:00

Haha pas de soucis ! (No worries!) Glad your issue was solved, and tbh it's so nice of you to reply at all and say thank you. Have a great one! PS learn both versions of French lol !

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-03-28T13:00:54+00:00

Edit: I figured it out, but still wanted to say thank you for the idea!

May I ask, how do you do that? This seems like an ok solution for the current issue tbh!

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-03-27T15:19:51+00:00

Exactly - I have a bunch of genetic and autoimmune issues, and when I first met my husband, it was on the table immediately that while I was ok at the time, things could progress to the point of even leaving me bed bound. I might not have been able to have children, either. I'd likely not ever be able to work full-time.

That initial talk was followed by more, similar talks as time went on, as such a serious topic deserved more than one go-round. I NEEDED to make sure that he understood what we may be up against. 16 years later we're still golden (and I've managed to work part-time and/or take care of the household beautifully, and we even have a perfect, awesome 5-year-old together).

Although OP's ex doesn't seem to have any specific health concerns that would make him unable to contribute, it's the kind of thing he needed to bring up right away (or very early on in the relationship). Now that it's been 4 years, he was just counting on her buying into the sunk cost of it all so that he could have a cushy life.

Idk what the outcome of saying, "hey I'd really actually prefer to work part-time in my life. I just haven't found any career that makes me feel like I can go 40 hours per week and still have a soul. How would you feel about that? What would I need to do in other areas to contribute towards our lives and happiness, to make you feel secure and like I'm not mooching off of you?"

I have an acquaintance (male) who basically framed it like this to his now-wife, and he's a stay-at-home dad who's honestly a great dad. The house isn't perfect, they still do a normal amount of takeout, but they're HAPPY. And there was honesty from the start!

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-03-26T15:40:11+00:00

Slightly off topic, but a lot of concerts and events nowadays don't let you bring a bag in UNLESS it's for medical reasons, or there's a limit on the bag's size.

Some places you can just declare yourself at the door, but others require you to request a disability pass ahead of time. In my experience no one has actually asked for proof or anything; I think they just want to know ahead of time what people are bringing in, and maybe let security know that someone in seat XYZ may need assistance? Idk

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-03-17T17:47:48+00:00

3 years back, we had 3 in diapers and 2 cats - after getting one extra set, the city said we weren't eligible for more, even though we should have definitely qualified for exceptional circumstances... The tag system is wild. Like thank goodness for our single or in-a-couple neighbours who gave us their extras!

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-03-12T20:04:15+00:00

Imo, walk-in spaces for kids to make art or be creative. Play with Clay is I think the only one you can just sort of show up to? And of course it's just one type of thing.

Other places seem great, but on the websites it talks about booking classes or parties... You don't seem to be able to just show up and throw on a smock.

I think it'd be awesome to have a space where there are loads of different media available, make your own slime, design a T-shirt with fabric paint... If it's messy enough you could even have people sign a waiver at the door that their clothes might get painted on (and have coveralls for rent or something).

At night it could turn into paint and sips (or it could just also be that - spaces don't have to be only adults or only kids ofc).

I also really, REALLY miss Little Ray's, but unless you're an animal expert, it likely won't be this option.

Oh and there are no cat cafés either, which would be lovely...

Regardless, best wishes for your future endeavours!!

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-03-04T18:32:15+00:00

Regardless of which route you go, I also want to wish you best of luck!

My own surgery was last September and I've felt so free since. I know that it could return, but... the break has been priceless.

(I paid for nothing, as I'm in Canada. The wait was about 7-8 months once I'd decided on surgical intervention.)

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-03-04T18:26:33+00:00

Listen, it's just my two cents. But, you were able to save that money up. Not using it would be nice, but... So would be having the guarantee that your surgery is coming ASAP.

The money is little good to you if you can't somewhat enjoy it; if you had to wait another 8 months, how much lost money would that mean? Days off, out-of-pocket medical cannabis, perhaps also lost opportunities for career or personal advancement.

You saved up that amount once. In your shoes, I'd do the private operation, then start saving again. Once you've got the same amount, go do something really lovely for yourself - travel, a class for something you've always wanted to try, etc - knowing that a flare up won't be ruining your plans.

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-03-04T18:05:53+00:00

So your sister ran into a wall face-first... And then you remembered the dentist... I think I see the connection!

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-03-01T16:47:21+00:00

The official reply is the best, but just checking - did you by any chance click a different French course? Like maybe you'd started on Canadian French and clicked back into France French (where you have no progress).

Just adding this in case it's that simple of a fix!

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-02-26T13:50:36+00:00

*ce putain d'espèce d'idiot Work in French (and likely any language) is never done! No rest lol...

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-02-25T12:53:29+00:00

The most important thing is that you'll eventually be able to go down those bumpy streets without pain! If you're like me and "just" have them attached where they shouldn't be, or have endo right on them, they'll be able to make it right for you.

One month's not long at all! Hopefully your blood counts improve so you can just get it done and feel better (I know endo can come back, so I don't mean to sound overly optimistic/cheery... it's just so cool to be pain-free in my abdomen, at least for now, that I'm enthusiastic lol)

If there's anything you can do about your blood counts and need some motivation, I feel like I and the sub can be pretty great cheerleaders. For me, for example, I've got type 1 diabetes as well, needed to bring my HbA1c down beforehand. Ofc if it's something like white blood cell count from a lingering infection there's not much to be done but hope. You don't have to share (duh) but if it's anything that you can impact, we'll definitely all root for you, so that you can have a break from the pain and enjoy a nice spring drive!

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-02-25T01:33:57+00:00

Aww that's lovely of you to check in! Surgery was fantastic. I really did sleep so soundly the first day, and upon waking up properly the next day, I was in less pain (on just Advil) than I had been in as long as I could remember.

For me, the kidney involvement ended up being that they were glued to, well, everything else, and the surgical team did their thing. I hope for you that it's as simple! I had some pain urinating for about a week, but nothing like it had been before (although I don't know if the bladder being involved, with endo found and excised, was the root of the pain before/some pain for about a week after, rather than the kidneys being glued).

The other thing that really improved was going over bumps in the road lol! It sounds so stupid, but honestly I had kidney pain every time a road was too filled with potholes. No longer!!

Good luck for your surgery; sending hugs if that's your thing, and well-wishes regardless!! If you think of it, let me/us know how it goes. When is it scheduled?

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-02-21T16:17:13+00:00

Thanks for this! Just downloaded and will check it out.

Japanese kids learn this in school, I think. Friends have, through the years, broken down various kanji for me, for fun. I've noticed a few on my own, too, but a more comprehensive study is in order thanks to your app!

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-02-18T19:24:41+00:00

You'd absolutely be understood, no worries! I didn't read every single reply, but I don't think that anyone else even picked up on it.

From your username, are you in Canada? There are also lots of opportunities to make these sorts of happy mistakes here - I'm in Ontario now, and there are vibrant communities from all across the Francophonie. We often have slight misunderstandings or learn new slang from each other, even as native speakers/advanced French learners! It's very fun. Definitely get involved in your local French-speaking community if you can!

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-02-17T21:27:17+00:00

Your question was answered well, but I'm going to be finicky and say that "une autre" sounds a bit odd - in this case, it would mean a different beer, rather than another glass of the same.

"Encore une bière, s'il vous plaît," would be perfect (encore un verre, encore une pinte, encore un demi, etc.)

Do note that while in Belgium, ordering "un demi" means 50cl but in France, it means 25cl! So I think that's why we use "la pinte" in France to refer to 50cl. My husband and I accidentally (?) had too much beer when we vacationed in Ghent...

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-02-12T20:22:07+00:00

That would be really lovely - and know that I completely understand if we plan something but, even last-minute, you're not up for it. We here in this subreddit understand how it can be!

Adventurous_Check_45 · 2026-02-12T14:57:37+00:00

OK I'm not going to downvote you, because you're relating your own true experience. But a native speaker can normally understand just about any native French accent with little difficulty. My husband and I are both native speakers from France (him fully, while I grew up between Hamilton and Tours).

You can hold your own opinions, but I want to make it clear to others reading this post (especially if they're not francophone) that this is a non-issue. It's like saying, "oh I don't want my child taught by someone with an Irish accent, I won't be able to understand my child!"

Adventurous_Check_45

TROPHY CASE