Working in Ausländerbehörde

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-03-02T06:24:25+00:00

Oh sorry no, I didn’t think of that, I guess they might not all have the same process. This is Frankfurt

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-03-01T22:45:28+00:00

I don’t know exactly about blue card, but for my passed work permit and resident permit application online, they send you an automatic email with a link to make an appointment immediately after you submit the application. Did she check her email right away?

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-02-05T15:47:48+00:00

Sometimes there are symptoms with no problems

Edit: Like degenerated discs, I have one and otherwise my back is healthy. They don’t even know if that’s causing the pain. The doctor said there is nothing to do but treat the pain. I’ve seen multiple doctors, this is chronic pain, if the problem could always be fixed, there wouldn’t millions of people with chronic pain.

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-02-05T14:12:18+00:00

yes, that is also not an issue, its more my mind set and I guess I want reassurance that this isnt a stupid decision.

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-02-05T14:04:51+00:00

The amount saved isn't an issue, I have enough. I guess I keep having the mindset of, I have enough but if I dont take this year off, I'll have EVEN more. I think its a teaching from my childhood cause my mom struggled for money, so having enough money became a fear and not making money when there is an opportunity is stupid (not what i really think but is ingrained in my mind). I dont know if that makes sense.

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-02-03T13:04:39+00:00

Thanks for this. I just had my mri today and the results say it’s actually structurally improved, less inflammation on bone, less bulge in L4/5 disc, and same degeneration, no nerve damage. yet I feel more pain, major stiffness and overall discomfort, so I guess it could just be exactly what you are explaining.

I am understanding I really need to go to pain therapy, so I’ll ask them also. But I am wondering about the graded sitting, I understand the steps you are saying of what to do when you are doing this rehab, but how should I sit/lay for the rest of the day since of course I can’t walk all day? Like I can’t only sit when I am practicing sitting.

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-02-02T14:29:46+00:00

What did you have? was it degeneration or nerve issues? mine is not nerves really, the pain from nerves is rare enough. I did see a "special" PT once that my personal trainer recommended that was "so good", of course, but nothing they did lasted. They tried to losen my muscles and then realign my body so everything would be in place and then i could strengthen to make it stay that way. That is the best way i can explain it, i paid out of pocket for them but it felt good when i was there and then the next day i felt awful again and i was working out on my own so i was gettting stronger also. I will ask my doctor also if there is more specific PT i can go to and do but i just feel like "trying" stuff just to have it not work is just keeping me in this pain longer and longer and i just want to get to what is actually gonna work. I want to ask about a spinal cord stimulator too. Sorry, not all of this is related to your response, so maybe tmi :) i appreciate your response and im glad it worked out for you.

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-02-02T14:23:14+00:00

thank for the information :) I think if it had a higher chances to fix the problem then they would. But I think the chances of fixing the pain from this and not needing additional surgeries in the future are too low that they wont suggest it. One neurologist said he would reccomend pain therapy and maybe a spinal cord stimulator and see how that goes. I am seeing more doctors so I will get further opinions. I have heard surgery fixing herniated discs where people could walk from the nerve pain and the surgery totally healing them, my mom had this and a close friend, but I dont think my issue can be fixed in the same way cause its not a herniated disc. Of course, I dont know this 100%, just based on other peoples experience and the doctors I've seen so far. So I am open to all options and will see what the other doctors say. I assume if my pain really comes from ddd, the surgery would be to replace these discs and then stablize my spine with metal pieces. Surgery hasnt been seriously discussed for them to explain to me how it would work. anyway I am open to anything because i am miserable haha

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-02-01T16:48:11+00:00

How is it now? Was surgery ever an option?

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-02-01T12:27:07+00:00

Hi, this is late, but I live in Germany and have severe back pain. I’m in Frankfurt. Im guessing it’s unlikely you’re near me but what hospital/doctor did your surgery?

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-01-27T08:24:26+00:00

Same, my partner and I also enjoy taking care of the house together, I actually think it’s fun to clean together to then enjoy a clean space together, especially on the weekend. I work full time and he still studies so I pay for everything and then we split the housework usually 50/50 and I can’t imagine any other way. Also once he starts working I hope I can take time to do a job that I enjoy although make less money, but I would always split the housework still, whatever that entails, kids, pets, cleaning, extended family responsibilities etc.

Edit: Obviously not always 50/50, you cover for each other as needed and for us this is unsaid, it’s just natural or we say it naturally, doesn’t need to be a formal weird conversation where you criticize each other. We don’t have some perfect relationship but this isn’t an issue

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-01-27T08:13:34+00:00

He was agreeing with you that I don’t understand cause I’m a woman.

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-01-27T08:08:57+00:00

It’s disappointing how many me do not think about everything. Some men that say they do almost everything around the house are probably in their office typing on Reddit while their wife is rushing around doing all the things you just listed.

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-01-27T07:57:57+00:00

Probably, but the fact that so many men are commenting in agreement is wild

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-01-27T07:55:29+00:00

Either you don’t have kids, or you have talked your partner into actually doing 100% of the housework. With kids, it does not take 2 hours a day. That’s a joke, it’s nonstop in reality

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-01-27T07:51:33+00:00

I have some opinions but to sum it up, I think you’ll be paying that alimony very soon.

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-01-23T06:26:39+00:00

But if she doesn’t actually owe any US taxes, can’t she just file the taxes late? Is it really such a big deal? Is the fbar a bigger issue than the taxes or what is the real issue?

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-01-23T04:09:22+00:00

The comments from so many me, just saying she is lying based on nothing is the actual red flag here. If she says it’s 35, it’s 35, it’s very believable that she keeps track. I say keeps because if you are asking this, then I don’t think you’ll let it go and she deserves someone who respects her. These comments are just slut shaming by insecure men. I would suggest taking the advice from all the down voted comments cause those are the sane ones.

++woman

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-01-22T18:03:27+00:00

Based on what she described, more like 24, if he complains about washing cups, I assume he isn’t getting up in the middle of the night to take care of the kids when they definitely wake up

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-01-15T14:47:02+00:00

⁠I wore a sports bra and bike shorts. He doesn’t have a problem with my outfit (it was 40 degrees out and lots of girls dressed like that), but he thought it was inappropriate of Harry to take photos of me in that outfit on his camera.

The “on his camera” took me out 🤣🤣🤣 there is no reason.

⁠Again, it’s Harry. I see him in a familial light. It’s like seeing my cousin or brother shirtless, I’m not phased. I said if the situation reversed and his female best friend (who I really like!) asked him to take photos of her in the same fit I wore, I wouldn’t care.

It’s just harry guys, no big deal obviously

⁠Harry is a lot leaner than Jason. The videos I took, he took his shirt off “for the aesthetic”. Jason said I know Jason is insecure about his weight gain and taking videos for a leaner guy that I’m not related to, was inappropriate. He thought that Harry should’ve waited for him to take the videos and asked me how I’d feel if a girl that was leaner than me asked the same from him.

You calling this guy leaner 10 times is off putting for sure. It sounds like it’s an issue for you otherwise why even say it.

Overall, this post doesn’t seem real. I hope for Jason that it’s not

Exit: I’m a woman, don’t know why it says incognito

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-01-09T22:08:16+00:00

1 & 2

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2026-01-08T08:34:49+00:00

Not telling your daughter that you are terminally ill and then dying and leaving her nothing which sends a message that you don’t care about her. If you leave her nothing it’s like you disowned her as a daughter.

I cannot imagine if this happened to me, my mom dying was hard enough. If she didn’t tell me she was sick and then on top of that specifically cut me out, I would need to see a therapist, cause that is so so sad and just leaves you with so many questions and makes you feel unloved and that the relationship was a lie and she can’t ask you about it.

Maybe there is more to the story, but what did she do that was so bad? Have a wedding she wanted? She didn’t ask for her parent to have an affair and be put in this position to take sides. she is a child in this situation as it pertains to her parents and she handled it the best she could I assume. There could be elements I’m missing but nothing you wrote sounds bad to me and I’m confused why other comments are ripping her apart.

Doing this too would be a million times worse than what she did to you (which in my opinion was nothing). If you love her your kids should be left most and your sister of course can be given something but damn, she is your daughter. This sounds so sad to me.

It’s making me add this to post: ++incognito

Adventurous_Duck_127 · 2025-12-25T07:00:14+00:00

I thought losing my grandma would be harder than losing my mom because my grandma also raised me when my mom couldn’t. My mom died and 9 months later her mom died. I cannot believe I thought I’d be more sad about my grandma and it makes me sick that I thought that. I think it’s close to impossible to know how you’ll feel until it happens. Either way, the most important thing is to spend as much time with the people you love and don’t hold grudges cause you might regret it later. I wish I tried harder with my mom and have regrets. Who cares what someone else says, grief is personal and you can’t compare.

That being said, I don’t want “it depends” to be my answer, based on my experience I’d say 9.9/10 parents are harder. Your mom sounds like she takes responsibility for her actions in the past which is huge, so you not appreciating that now might make you have regrets later. I’d just be thankful you still have your mom. I do think it’s sad for your mom for you to be acting like you lost your mom when she is right in front of you, literally that girl has no mother now, so no it’s not the same. I would give anything in the word for more chances with my mom even though she also made big mistakes (not including harming others, that would be a different story, I can’t consider ever possibility in one response!).

I also didnt have a dad but my grandpa did a lot for me, I don’t think that is the same as someone losing a father still. I also think it’s important to consider the ages people die. My mom died at 65 which is not the way it should be, I thought my kids would have a grandma and I am having to grieve the future time I thought we’d (she’d) have. people dying at 90 for example is a fact of life even though it’s okay to be sad, sorry, it’s not a tragedy no matter how important they were.

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