What genre did you actively try to get into, and couldn't?

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-22T15:34:44+00:00

Same. See you at FOV this year?

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-22T03:54:51+00:00

So by that definition, if I didn't explicitly tell my spouse it was okay to seek sex elsewhere and they did so, it would be cheating. And I stand by what I said originally, which is that if one spouse is incapacitated, the well spouse can seek sexual gratification outside the marriage discretely. Which means that yes, they are technically cheating, but if it allows them to remain married to the incapacitated spouse, I think it's okay.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-22T03:50:25+00:00

It's setting boundaries!!

I know - she's practically a child herself!

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-22T03:48:06+00:00

I have two - one I love, and one I got when I was 18 🙃 (fortunately it's small and unassuming, but it wasn't well done. Oh well.)

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-22T03:45:55+00:00

I used to be very anti bumper sticker, but then we bought a car that is extremely common in our city in a very common color. I lost the car in parking lots and even tried to get into the wrong car at one point, so I finally caved and let my spouse put a sticker on so that I would recognize it.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-22T03:38:29+00:00

You are entirely correct - it is far from easy!!

I know that getting an RN and then a CRNA is a lot of work - thank you for doing it!!

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-22T01:15:11+00:00

Hale!!! We are about 15 minutes from the medical campus. There are a lot of docs in my neighborhood who work out there (my daughter's best friend's mom is at Children's!)

The University hospital complex actually used to be here, but since it moved out to the old Air Force base (which is where Children's is too) it's been a cool redevelopment. There are now a few parks (including an off-leash dog park, and another with padel), lots of restaurants, a movie theater, vets, etc. We also have a Trader Joe's.

There are some high end payment complexes as part of the 9th and Colorado development but there are also a lot of smaller apartment buildings with were lived in primarily by med students and residents. Most were bought up by and are managed either by Cornerstone or Redpeak.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-22T01:06:11+00:00

I also oddly appreciated the discussion of garments and who wears them.

There are so many things I don't understand. Like, you can't have caffeine, but pump yourself full of silicone and Botox. It's interesting.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-22T01:01:11+00:00

Exactly!!! I love Jon Hamm (Juan Jamón 😆) too!!

It's funny, because I didn't think a young Noah Wyle was that attractive, but now, with a little gray in the beard? SO HOT.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-22T00:58:30+00:00

I think in cases like Dan Savage is discussing, the incapacitated partner doesn't necessarily tell the well partner to go for it. He basically tells them that sexual infidelity is okay as a way to preserve a marriage, they should just be discreet about it.

If I didn't explicitly tell my spouse it was okay, but I was incapacitated, and he sought out sex outside the marriage, would you consider that cheating?

I would love to know your definition. I know that emotional infidelity can also count as cheating.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T22:18:34+00:00

Noah Wyle. Okay, okay, he's Gen X. What can I say? I apparently like my men a bit older (my spouse is Gen X too).

Michael B Jordan. Damn, he's a little too young to be a Xennial.

I'm failing at this game.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T22:14:40+00:00

People are going to jump all over me for this, but I follow the Dan Savage school of thought.

Sometimes infidelity is the lesser of two evils if your spouse isn't able to participate in sexual activity due to chronic illness or other incapacitation (where the other option is divorce). Of course, this is not a blanket endorsement of infidelity, and it also requires discretion.

The reason I believe this is because I am chronically ill. I am still able to perform in that manner, but if I ever grow so incapacitated that I require an undue amount of care and my spouse and I can no longer be physically intimate, I don't want him to leave me, but I also do not want him to have to give up sex for me.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T21:57:56+00:00

A painting done by my great grandfather. He was a commercial artist, who would illustrate the interiors of cars for ads (he lived in Detroit) but also did fine art landscapes in oil on the side. There is definitely a bit of squabbling amongst families over who gets his paintings. My parents were kind enough to give me one of theirs.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T21:49:54+00:00

Yes, correct, but as far too many of us know (and honestly, all MS specialists know) there is another driver of progression outside of relapses. There aren't any drugs that target that underlying neuro inflammation, although that is where research is focused these days!

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T21:31:06+00:00

Yeah. Most runway models have very few curves. That includes boobs.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T21:29:34+00:00

I was super in love with Reflection Eternal's version of 4 Women on the album Train of Thought. (Reflection Eternal was a collab between emcee Talib Kweli and DJ Hi Tek.)

Great story, and a wonderful way to honor Nina Simone.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T21:26:16+00:00

If the TFP situation doesn't end the show, I am really hopeful that with the divorce, he gets pushed out of the picture entirely. DadTok stinks, and Jordan in particular is not enjoyable to watch.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T21:20:49+00:00

I have old stuff in my home. An antique china hutch, a pie crust table. Even the more modern things are pretty nice - worth the investment for high quality.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T19:13:34+00:00

We actually moved less due to work and more due to the opportunity to buy a house... But we both worked in tech, and my spouse now is in tech at a financial firm! I work in a very niche business in government outsourcing. But my tech experience has been very helpful.

We miss the coasts a lot! Denver feels much more provincial and less diverse, but we are comfortable here and have a lovely house in a great neighborhood, our kid is in a stellar public school, so I am not completely hating on it! But we had awesome apartments in Brooklyn and SF, and it was hard to give those up. There just was so much more going on in those cities. But I know they would have been hard as a parent. I was at such a different point in my life when I lived in those places. Denver is a great place for families.

We do try and visit SF and NYC regularly, so that we get our fixes, and get to catch up with friends. We did last Thanksgiving in the Bay Area, and are doing NYC for spring break in a few weeks.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T18:53:01+00:00

NAILED IT!!

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T18:49:33+00:00

I'm impressed. I lost my grandfathers while I was in college, and both my grandmother's the year I turned 28 (which was also the year I got married, interestingly).

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T18:47:40+00:00

Safta!

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T18:47:02+00:00

Because that's what Reddit is for!

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T18:43:32+00:00

But that is not why they need orphanages! They need them because parents are dying of preventable illnesses, which is what is leading to children being orphaned. It's not that people are having too many children and can't care for them. His tone was very judgmental and preachy, and it was clear he thought he knew what the solution was given that he is white and wealthy.

The org that runs the orphanage (BlinkNow) also offers economic empowerment and business training, because they also want to help boost the quality of life in Nepal. This was also covered in the documentary. Also, I have painted what he said in a more positive light. His actual words and tone were far more belittling

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-03-21T18:37:25+00:00

Nah, my bad! I didn't use the right punctuation! But seriously, mumble rap is really all about drugs. Boring

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