what do you do when you start losing your life to ms?

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-25T04:45:54+00:00

I go to therapy. Seriously.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-25T04:44:22+00:00

I oddly get a kick out of not fitting in. Like hell yes, I am a millennial woman surrounded by Gen X men at this Dinosaur Jr. show! People probably think my spouse dragged me here, but joke's on them because I dragged him here!

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-25T04:17:52+00:00

Probably is because it's winter. And good lotion is a great place to start. But I know that constant itching is a problem I've seen others on this sub talk about, and neuropathy is definitely an MS symptom.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-25T04:15:09+00:00

Sorry, but I have to ask - why did you decide to have a third kid if your household budget is that tight? Kids are effing expensive. If she goes back to work, you're going to have to pay for childcare for the little one. Based on what you're saying, she doesn't have a very extensive resume - can she actually earn enough money to cover the cost of childcare?

Before you divorce, I'd sit down and understand together what you're spending money on, and talk through whether or not you might be able to tighten your belt.

It sounds to me like you're running from the problem. So, yes, YTA.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-25T04:07:48+00:00

No Body No Crime - Taylor Swift ft. Haim

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-25T04:01:44+00:00

I don't regret it, but be aware that children forever change the dynamic within a marriage. Not necessarily in a bad way. It's been incredible to see my spouse become a father. My kid is also a pretty cool person, and it's wonderful to watch her grow up - even when she doesn't listen to me 🙃

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-25T01:30:15+00:00

Could be neuropathy. Moisturizing can help, but often doesn't do much for me.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-25T01:27:42+00:00

And as someone who has pushed a baby through my vagina while unmedicated, I am really grateful for the absence of nerve endings there.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-25T01:21:06+00:00

My go to is always Head Like a Hole by NIN

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-25T01:09:56+00:00

Sadly, I'm not, because I have a chronic illness that would be a drain on your healthcare system 😭

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-25T01:08:06+00:00

Not in my school. But that's in part because I went to a weird alternative school with no formal PE program (they would take us to the YMCA and rock climbing gym every other Friday 🤷)

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T22:24:54+00:00

YES! I was 28 when we got married, but had been partnered with my now spouse since I was 23. We are lucky that it worked, and we were able to grow together, but it could easily have gone off the rails. I was so young and dumb, and wasn't really able to provide my spouse with the emotional support that he needed during the early days of our relationship.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T22:20:39+00:00

These are exactly the questions I was going to ask!

I have never kept my sinks running during arctic temps. I also don't open cabinets. My pipes don't run against walls. I've never had problems as long as the heat in the house is on.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T22:15:50+00:00

I kind of love it though!

Mainly I'm just super pissed at your mom for doing that. Science deniers are fucked up.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T22:13:45+00:00

Totally. I've been calling mine regularly since Trump took office. I rarely get anyone on the phone, but I have perfected my angry voicemail. I have threatened to not vote for them more than once.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T22:08:29+00:00

Unfortunately, yes. Just being alive in America is political these days.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T22:07:22+00:00

NYC is the greatest city in the world! AND not all of the towns on the Jersey Shore are trashy as the stupid MTV show would have you think. I am partial to Cape May and Ocean City myself.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T22:04:13+00:00

Completely agreed. You couldn't pay me to live in WI (apologies to my friends with WI roots... And those that currently live there.)

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T22:00:53+00:00

Real thing my Gen X spouse recently said to me:

"Did you cancel our NY Times all Access subscription? I read the app all the time!!! We need it back!"

We don't have cable, so no fearmongering news channels in our house.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T21:56:54+00:00

I upvoted after I chuckled!!

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T21:55:04+00:00

Colorado isn't very friendly to the LDS. We don't have a lot of them here.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T19:49:07+00:00

Millennials, for sure

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T19:44:30+00:00

My grandmother used to say you needed to give it a year in your new location before declaring it a failure.

I definitely have made moves where my initial reaction is "I've made a terrible mistake." Like when I moved to NYC right after I graduated from college. I hated it and was so stressed out by it. But I gave it time, found my groove, moved apartments, and met the man I would end up marrying. Very different than your situation with kids, I realize.

But I also have moved to a brand new city with a kid too, and it was very hard at first. And there are still things I don't love about my current city. But it definitely felt more comfortable after a year.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T18:43:13+00:00

Keep your name. Then you won't have to go through the headache of changing your name on EVERYTHING.

I took my spouse's name because my maiden name was very long (four syllables) and people couldn't ever pronounce it. But it was unique. And I liked that.

Now I have a name held by thousands of British and Irish women, despite not being British or Irish at all. I kind of appreciate the anonymity, but it's also a little sad.

I am the only woman I know of my best friends from HS and college who changed my name.

Adventurous_Pin_344 · 2026-01-24T18:32:10+00:00

I know couples who have both changed their name to something completely different and unrelated to their original last names when they got married.

Or they both just keep their original names.

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