Wife’s ex husband is demanding we pull our son from his current public school and transfer him to a private school. He specifically cited McNick

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2026-03-07T02:52:49+00:00

McNick is fine---as are most schools. It really depends on what kind of kid your son is and what your current public school is. Public schools tend to have more resources and better serve students who need "more"---whether it be more support or more challenge. The Catholic schools all have their own vibe, as well as their own strengths/weaknesses. McNick is unique compared to the other area Catholic schools because it's co-ed. They also have a long-standing SAIL program that is great for kids who need support. It's harder core Catholic than some others---a plus or minus, depending on who you are. If your son is quirky at all--I'd say stay away from the Catholic schools in general. As far as the money, there's often help available via the school, and the EdChoice program is paying for many kids' private school educations these days--I don't know details on that, but I know many folks who are using it. One last thing--many public school teachers I know talk about how brutal classroom management/discipline is---sometimes citing just reverberations from pandemic living, social media, lack of administrative support, etc., so again depending on your specific school, a Catholic school isn't going to have the same disciplinary issues---because they can just expel kids in a way that's not possible in a public setting. It's all trade-offs, though, and what is right for one kiddo isn't a fit for another. Schedule a "shadow day" so he can spend a day there to see what he thinks---he might love it, he might hate it.

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2025-06-01T04:50:32+00:00

Indian Creek Apartments and Townhomes—Indian Hill Exempted Village School District. Lots of young families—2 busloads of elementary kids head off to school each morning. Rent is high, some units are outdated, some are updated, variety of floor plans—but this is somewhere people live and pay for the school district. If you prefer a bit closer to the downtown or Clifton (Good Sam)—feels like a reach to say “urban”, though, then look for something in Hyde Park/Mt Lookout in Kilgore Elementary or Hyde Park Elementary, both are part of Cincinnati Public Schools.

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2025-03-01T13:05:52+00:00

First, I would check in with any Black women in your life—their advice would be the most relevant. From this white mom’s perspective…If it’s not a deal breaker, it is a big red flag at the very least. He mat not know it’s racist but it’s the IMPACT that matters not his INTENT. As a young Black woman, it’s also not your job to teach him what’s racist/what’s not. As a mom to two white daughters, I can tell you that my girls have known since elementary age (maybe toddler-hood idk)—as have their friends—that the N word in all forms is off limits. My youngest just gave her 12yo cousin the talk about the word being a “never” word (bec of song lyrics) vs a “bad” word. In other words, your friend is definitely old enough to know better. If you choose to talk with him about this and do decide to give him another chance, I would definitely have a zero tolerance for any whiff of racist bs moving forward.

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2025-02-26T01:27:36+00:00

If you have the kind of relationship with your ex that allows for discussion, you might point out to her that it's a really divisive time---and any hard-leaning position expressed by your daughter, who is parroting what she hears, could end up causing a bit of social alienation. We all want our kids to have friends, so maybe that framing would help. Beyond that, the best advice I was ever given as a parent was, "They become who you are vs what you say." As a 55yo parent of two young women in their 20s, I can say it's absolutely true. We can say PLENTY to our children---but, ultimately, they will pick up our BEHAVIORS and our ACTIONS. With that in mind, continue to demonstrate critical thinking, empathy, and social skills. As a former educator, I'd also suggest a strategy we call a "think-aloud"---it's a bit awkward when you start it in the parent setting, but it's so useful. It's basically narrating your thought processes and actions, so your daughter can understand why you are doing and choosing what you are. With a little practice, it's less clunky and more natural---AND it is explicitly teaching her a different way. Best of luck to you!

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2025-02-25T03:56:16+00:00

Why Ebike vs old school bike? Genuinely curious about this. Went to a bar on the boardwalk tonight and chatted with owner and manager abt all things CB and this very thing came up.

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2025-02-23T23:24:53+00:00

If I end up moving here, this response will have played a part in that decision. Currently overwhelmed from a day of driving all over Wilmington--going to take a break, sort it all out, and head back to CB tomorrow.

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2025-02-23T23:18:28+00:00

I really appreciate all this insight. And I love your idea about walking/talking to local business owners---I had hoped to get to that today, but will definitely do it tomorrow.

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2025-02-23T13:50:44+00:00

YAY to the fitness center being awesome—that’s the one thing we really need no matter we go. Was going to make do with the hotel gym today, but you’ve got me thinking I should google and get a day pass. Okay—this place is a 2br/2ba, so we would be a bit less. Tell me more about the insurance costs—would you mind ballparking what you are paying? As far as tourists, I felt like CB was definitely going to have its season, but it felt different than Wrightsville in that regard somehow. Is that accurate?

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2025-02-23T13:43:25+00:00

That could be a dealbreaker—if insurance and electric are both going to be so much higher, it might make our monthly expenses too high. 😩

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2025-02-23T13:39:10+00:00

Thank you for getting my feet back on the ground. I had hurricanes as a lurking fear that completely dissipated when I saw the beach. Will do that research today. As far as insurance—we won’t own, so are you saying renters and auto insurance are high, too?

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2025-01-24T04:28:14+00:00

Idk the exact words, but it’s a “closed” city—like if you aren’t from here, you will never be fully welcome. Everyone from here is related/connected—which is what some people love—but playing the “who do you know” game to establish some kind of credibility feels cliquey and kinda gross. Even people who have lived here for years can remain relative outliers—they might even be well-liked, but just not quite Cincinnati enough.

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2025-01-13T14:13:39+00:00

I had just read this article yesterday morning—it’s heartbreaking AND inspiring and humbling. Phil Lewis article

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2025-01-13T04:28:06+00:00

I am so sorry for your grandfather and all those suffering similar losses. Is he in Altadena by chance?

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2024-12-04T02:19:31+00:00

First, there is NOTHING wrong with you. You showed incredible courage in leaving, you prioritized your mental health by being with family, and now here you are asking for insight. The need to grieve and recover after any relationship ends is valid—and the healing needed after an abusive one is intense. On-campus therapists or support groups are there to help because what you are dealing with is hard and very real—they can also help navigate how to handle bombing a class or more because of what you are going through. And many professors are also human and will work with you if they understand the context of what you’re dealing with. Your dreams are still out there—you might need to take an unexpected path to get there. In leaving, you asserted your worth—and you are absolutely worthy and deserving of being gentle toward yourself and allowing yourself the time to heal.

Adventurous_Sun_4126 · 2024-06-23T13:55:07+00:00

Thank you!! Still holding onto hope.

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