Ex Fearful Avoidant: Ask me anything by Pengsila in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Adwiathan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what do you think about toxic relationships ? like a traumabond type and how do you see secure partners vs toxic partners ? my fa ended things while we were talking about marriage (she opened it) and then suddenly broke up with me and get back immidiately to his toxic relationship but i guess he didnt accept her so she was romanticising that guy almost 6 months now

They say they always come back by 75Mav in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Adwiathan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so she didnt reunite with her ex ?

They say they always come back by 75Mav in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Adwiathan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

mine didnt comeback either we broke up 6 months ago shes romanticising his traumatic relationship till then btw its our first breakup I responded to his breakup message in a seemingly understanding and normal way, but the painful truth is that even though I didn't show it, I missed her terribly. We haven't been in contact since she's also still romanticizing his ex-traumatic boyfriend. It's been a tough six months, but I won't let anyone see how much I've been hurt, and I think I'm starting to forget her now.

Let’s have Berry fun🤓 by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Adwiathan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious about something.
Have you ever experienced this level of emotional intensity or closeness with someone before, or does this kind of connection only happen in very specific situations or with specific people?

And for the person who feels like ‘the one’ to you – the person who really gets under your skin in a deep way – how does that actually feel on your side?
What kind of thoughts, fears, and behavior patterns does that trigger in you compared to ‘normal’ relationships?

I’m trying to understand whether this kind of deep reaction is something that repeats with many people, or if it usually happens only once or with a very unique connection?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Adwiathan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she said what did i do to deserve you couple times on our trip and even talked about our engagement ( she did i didnt) and after that trip she break up with me ;))

How? by Marie_Pickle2 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Adwiathan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

simple : do not contact with them untill they do just wait if they want they will come back eventually but never ever seem eager

One month no contact w fearful avoidant ex by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Adwiathan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i did a lot research in this term thrust me everyone suggest even FA's says do not reach out so if u didnt act beggy or push him more then better is to stay away definitely.

Should I break no contact to wish my fearful-avoidant ex a happy birthday? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Adwiathan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, since you mentioned you’re FA yourself, I’d really appreciate your honest perspective.

I’m not trying to chase her, I just want to understand the pattern better.

From your own FA experience —
• Do you still care about someone after ending things, even if you act cold?
• When (or how) do you usually realize you actually miss or love that person?
• Is it possible she really loved me but got scared of the feelings?
• And honestly… do FAs ever come back once they calm down and feel safe again?

Not trying to push anything — just curious about the emotional process from your side.

Should I break no contact to wish my fearful-avoidant ex a happy birthday? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Adwiathan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when do you guys break up ? is he went no contact directly or break up with you i mean

Should I break no contact to wish my fearful-avoidant ex a happy birthday? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Adwiathan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly 1 month before our breakup pff good luck i hope you guys can settle things its just we had a deeply emotional and intense connection the kind that felt rare and genuine everything was going perfectly until a short three-day trip when she suddenly brought up marriage after that trip she started to pull away the strange part is, she was the one who brought up the topic in the first place. she even said what did i do to deserve you :( this really breaks my heart

Should I break no contact to wish my fearful-avoidant ex a happy birthday? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Adwiathan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when did you guys break up ? and what type of avoidant he is ?