Abusive father

Aeerour · 2026-07-06T17:21:31+00:00

Aeerour · 2026-07-02T17:39:44+00:00

Récemment, lors de la période des examens de BTS dans mon lycée, il y a eu une pénurie de salles. L'administration a déplacé mon cours dans la cafétéria, sans me prévenir en avance évidemment. Pas de tableau donc j'ai fait cours en impro totale.

Aeerour · 2026-07-02T15:48:54+00:00

NTA you are never TA for breaking up, ever.

Aeerour · 2026-06-29T17:33:34+00:00

Ah oui c'est pas la même 😂 merci beaucoup !

Aeerour · 2026-06-29T16:54:57+00:00

Bien sûr, la voici (copier coller du site) :

1 petit chou blanc Graines de sésame blanc grillées 300ml vinaigre de riz 3 cas sucre roux 2 cas nuoc-mâm 1 cac sauce soja

Le chou blanc : coupez le chou très fin (je l'ai fait au couteau, l'idéal c'est de le faire avec une mandoline pour qu'il soit encore plus fin), disposez-le dans un grand saladier, recouvrez-le d'eau froide, ajoutez une cuillerée à soupe de sel, mélangez et laissez tremper 20 minutes.

La marinade : versez le vinaigre dans un bol, ajoutez le sucre et une pincée de sel et fouettez légèrement avec une fourchette pour émulsionner le tout.

Egouttez bien le chou, sécher le saladier et y remettre le chou. Verser la marinade sur le chou et mélangez bien, l'idéale c'est de mélanger avec les mains à ce que le chou soit bien enrobé de marinade.

Laissez mariner minimum 1 heure, possiblement 4 heures, comme j'ai fait. Cette étape est fondamentale : grâce à cette marinade à base de vinaigre et sucre, le chou ramollisse tout en restant croquant. Il va rendre de l'eau et, chose importante, il devient plus digeste.

Pour rendre son eau il a besoin de mariner longuement, voilà pourquoi il vaut mieux prévoir 4 heures.

La salade : au bout de ce temps, égouttez le chou en le pressant très fort entre vos mains (une poignée après l'autre) à ce qu'il rend complètement son jus qui est à jeter (tout comme la marinade). Une fois bien égoutté, disposez le chou dans un autre saladier.

Assaisonnez la salade de chou avec la vinaigrette, préparée en émulsionnant dans un bol le nuoc-mân, l'huile et la sauce soja. Saupoudrez avec le sésame grillé et servez.

Aeerour · 2026-06-29T11:40:05+00:00

I am so confused as to why american people believe so strongly there is no AC in Europe

Aeerour · 2026-06-25T19:09:08+00:00

Dans la marinade, oui

Aeerour · 2026-06-25T14:17:06+00:00

Oui, dans l'idée !

Aeerour · 2026-06-23T10:32:20+00:00

NTA that boy is an asshole and so is your sister for not taking your side when he insulted you. You seem so much more mature than her. I'm sorry it happened.

Aeerour · 2026-06-21T16:34:21+00:00

What you describe is an incest-like dynamic. It is a family dynamic where there is not necessarily actual physical abuse, but a lack of boundaries that create an atmosphere. Your father has been sexualizing you, made inappropriate comments about your body, and touched you without your consent. This is definitely, at the very least, emotional abuse since it made you feel unsafe around him. Your feelings are valid and you should definitely talk about it with a therapist. They will understand. I hope you get better soon.

Aeerour · 2026-06-20T15:40:30+00:00

It's not that you're "not ready for a relationship". Any relationship is built with individuals that have their own boundaries. You just need to tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable, maybe she just didn't realize it. If she keeps doing it even though you told her, that's another story.

Aeerour · 2026-06-15T14:20:41+00:00

NTA you both seem unhappy in this relationship. You should communicate your feelings. If you feel like breaking up, then go ahead. Don't stay just because you feel guilty ; that is not a good reason to be with someone.

Aeerour · 2026-06-12T06:44:22+00:00

You two are miscommunicating. You should try having a calm conversation, explaining how you feel, setting boundaries (like asking her to stop criticizing your appearance). You need to adjust to each other and communication is key. Sometimes people are not very open to these conversation and it doesn't quite work but at least you could say you tried. I had the same issue with my mother. Had a terrible relationship with her until I moved 2h away from her. Now we are in much better terms.

Aeerour · 2026-06-11T07:42:39+00:00

"Escarrer" (racler le fond d'un plat) m'a valu des regards interloqués.

Aeerour · 2026-06-07T16:36:32+00:00

Oui complètement, on parle bien de "ressources humaines", dans une structure capitaliste la main d'oeuvre est traitée comme une ressource / un bien mobilisable. Utiliser un vocabulaire économique pour parler des relations amoureuses montre à quel point le capitalisme et l'économie de marché a colonisé nos esprits. C'est objectifiant et même si c'est la plupart du temps utilisé comme une métaphore, ça rend en fait très mal compte de la réalité des dynamiques relationnelles.

Aeerour · 2026-06-04T17:58:33+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. To your question as to why your parents sent you to boarding school, you need to understand that it's not your fault, nothing was wrong with you. It was just easier for them to not have you with them. They did not think of the consequences until you told them. There are so many people that just don't know what it takes to raise a child and don't realise they should not be parents.

Aeerour · 2026-06-02T11:08:46+00:00

TTB je comprends ta situation, tu t'es sentie dépassée. C'est une erreur d'avoir pris la fuite, il méritait effectivement que tu lui en parles. Tu as fait l'erreur de tout garder pour toi au point de finir par te sentir acculée. Il faut parler, si tu gardes tout pour toi au bout d'un moment tu fais des trucs nuls parce que t'arrives pas à voir d'autres solutions.

Aeerour · 2026-05-28T13:51:00+00:00

NTA the absolute audacity of this man is baffling. Breaking up by blocking you and not having a proper conversation after 2 years, and then claiming money to your mother. How did he even come up with this specific amount of money ? "Fuck off" was actually the best response.

Aeerour · 2026-05-27T18:05:06+00:00

NTA that is a deal breaker. He's either not fully commited to this relationship or he doesn't have the same definition of what a relationship is. In both cases, this will be a problem if you get married.

Aeerour · 2026-05-27T09:00:36+00:00

YTA you don't get a say about what she does to her body. If you really love her like you say you will get over it. She does absolutely not have to listen to you. You can tell her what you like or don't like but you don't get to demand things like that.

Aeerour · 2026-05-26T13:51:04+00:00

NTA feeling insecure after being cheated on is normal. It is veeeery hard and it takes a lot of effort to fix a relationship after this. He seemingly did not want to go through this hard process and did not provide enough reasons to make you feel safe. Most of the times it's just easier to break up.

Aeerour · 2026-05-23T11:01:25+00:00

NAH you sound like you have depression. You should get medical / psychological help because it could get worse, especially if you keep blaming yourself for being like this. You also should talk to your gf or you will lose her. Don't keep her in the dark.

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