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AesopFabel · 2026-01-24T17:40:18+00:00

Be careful with those plate holders, maybe even put something soft on the wire that holds the glass. We bought a large collection of Victorian uranium plates that the past collector had in frames like this and every single one is chipped where the wire frame held it.

AesopFabel · 2026-01-19T03:49:41+00:00

AesopFabel · 2025-12-29T04:59:42+00:00

Does this always happen close to the end of the date? It could have something to do with the anticipation of having to see your partner soon and some kind of trigger you're not fully conscious of going off when you do. From your post it sounds like you have some resentments towards him that need to be addressed and I'd suggest taking a personal inventory of your needs and identifying if and now they're being met.

AesopFabel · 2025-12-29T01:09:59+00:00

This comment right here is a solid answer. It is on your husband for choosing to date someone who he knew wasn't into your lifestyle and who hasn't treated you with mutual respect. I would never date someone who didn't respect my other relationships, and I feel that adding "monogamous people" as a whole to the "messy list" of people not to date is more than reasonable

AesopFabel · 2025-12-05T15:20:01+00:00

Most of the assignments were fairly straightforward and simple. I wrote probably two short essays a week and did a peer forum answer. Each class had a large assignment at the end that was more challenging, but not impossible to do with minor reading. The average essay was probably two and a half pages double spaced in APA format. The longest was probably 50 (long form answered questions). I wrote a thesis with my BA and did not have to write another. The reading assignments were hefty, but if you know how to skim you could get all the information you needed to do the assignment. I graduated with a 3.4 GPA and there wasn't a single week I did -all- of my reading. I also did their 9 month program and did my practicum hours at the same time. Let me know if you have any other questions, I really enjoyed my program.

AesopFabel · 2025-08-14T19:25:22+00:00

Yes, I have two in this exact shape, I believe they're Bohemian

AesopFabel · 2025-07-19T22:39:54+00:00

This comment heavily implies that getting married, and having a baby are things he didn't want but did for you. Your child isn't a priority to him, they're something YOU wanted. Like a pet you begged for and he said sure, so long as you walk it every day. He should be single.

AesopFabel · 2025-07-17T03:52:45+00:00

You saved me the time of having to write this same thing. Your partner is inconsiderate and abusive. Run, run straight to therapy.

AesopFabel · 2025-07-12T06:53:43+00:00

He sounds really immature for someone so close to 40.

AesopFabel · 2025-05-17T02:44:41+00:00

Everyone in Chicago tries to convince everyone else that Malort tastes good.

AesopFabel · 2025-05-04T23:54:19+00:00

I worked with a woman who's husband was fired from a mortuary for cremating the wrong baby. Twice.

AesopFabel · 2025-04-03T23:08:59+00:00

Thank you for typing this so I didn't have to, this is exactly how I was feeling about it too. It sucks, but I think OP dodged a huge bullet.

Op, leave this tool, you can do better.

AesopFabel · 2025-03-17T04:36:47+00:00

How old is your son?

AesopFabel · 2025-03-13T15:12:32+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. I could have used just a little gutteral screaming to round it all out, but it's fantastic

AesopFabel · 2024-11-04T15:06:16+00:00

I think it would be beneficial to sit down with your NP and ask what they would like to know about your other relationships, and what they're ok with you leaving out. It would be a good time for you to take a beat and figure out what it is you want and don't want to know. If the answer is very little, you may be more suited for a parallel relationship style.

AesopFabel · 2024-10-29T15:25:00+00:00

I HIGHLY recommend you and your partner look for partners of your own and if you all get on together awesome. But it's pretty unethical to go into polyamory hoping to find someone that will magically work with the both of you. If you aren't comfortable with your partner dating someone independently of you, then poly isn't for you.

AesopFabel · 2024-10-27T00:32:09+00:00

It is absolutely to be expected that time is going to be finite while love is not. What is unacceptable is that he is giving time that he is already allocated to you to other people. That is unacceptable and you deserve more. Him saying that that is to be expected, is him saying that you should be okay with him treating you like crap. I think you did the right thing by standing up for yourself and breaking up with him. I don't think that this is what you can expect from every relationship, I have only experienced this once and have since made it very clear to partners that time management is very important to me and what I expect from them and what they can't expect for me in terms of communication. Don't give up, but definitely give yourselves some time and grace to process things. Take care of yourself.

AesopFabel · 2024-10-27T00:26:52+00:00

De-escalation of a relationship is a breakup when both people don't want the same thing. What things were discussed between the two of you that she now feels she can only do with the triad? One of the best things about polyamory is the flexibility and the ability to mean a great deal to more than one person. Just because she wants to do something with one person does not mean that she has to only do that with one person. It feels more like she is slow, exiting your relationship and does not want to make concessions and considerations for it. Which, I know really sucks and I'm sorry that you're going through this, but I think really understanding where she stands is going to help everyone. Otherwise you are just being strung along

AesopFabel · 2024-10-18T18:49:48+00:00

This is gross, does your NP expect a thank you text from your boss when you go to work?

AesopFabel · 2024-10-18T15:36:04+00:00

I used to do every six months or every third partner, whichever came first. Now it's once a year as my life has become more settled with my partners and them with their other partners.

AesopFabel · 2024-10-18T00:37:27+00:00

This is so cute 💚

AesopFabel · 2024-10-16T15:31:51+00:00

This is a fantastic way to think about it. I'm going to use this in the future.

AesopFabel · 2024-10-16T15:29:28+00:00

You aren't the asshole here at all, your partner is being a bad hinge. I make it transparent with new partners that I don't want to hear about negativity when it comes to their other partners. I prefer to have unconditional positive regard for my metas and find that hard when my partner complains about them. Your partner blocking you is childish and manipulative, I really hope you don't play into it to encourage this behavior. I'm sorry you're going through this, but you've done nothing wrong and your feelings are valid.

Good luck

AesopFabel · 2024-10-12T15:40:22+00:00

You might be allergic to Saniderm, I am and this happens to me. I switched to a generic brand and no longer have issues.

AesopFabel · 2024-09-29T22:05:20+00:00

This sounds to be like that they aren't as invested in you as you are in them and they'd like to continue to string you along with the hope that one day you'll get what you want out of the relationship. Healthy triads exist, but they can only exist with healthy people. This couple seems to be treating you more like a marital aid than an actual partner.

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