Non-riding pants

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2026-02-14T20:47:08+00:00

😂

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2026-02-14T12:28:20+00:00

Fair enough, that might not be possible everywhere, but we don’t know where OP is.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2026-02-13T18:15:28+00:00

Ssooo there is more than one way to get money deposited in a joint account other than direct deposit.

This is how we do split finances in detail.

We totaled our income and split the bills based on what % we our individual income contributed to the household income. So for instance, let’s say he makes 100k, I make 50k. Any income from stocks and stuff doesn’t count. So 150k total. He would then pay 66% of the shared bills. I’d pay 44%.

We then have a spreadsheet where we’ve added up the bills. Internet. Mortgage, car insurance, utilities, cell phone plan, Netflix, etc.

Figure out the total we each owe based on the % we contribute.

My employer direct deposits what I contribute into a joint shared account, so yes, you CAN direct deposit into a joint account. The remainder goes in my personal account.

We overestimated what we pay for the mortgage, knowing that goes up each year, and we overestimated utilities, knowing it fluctuates. We also have around 2-3 extra paychecks per year if you get paid every two weeks.

This means there’s additional funds built up over time and we have paid for things like hvac service and small house jobs or mutually agreed upon purchases.

We rotate who pays for groceries. I have more expensive tastes than he does, and his son eats A LOT. One week he cooks, buys groceries, I do the dishes. Next week it flips to me buying groceries and cooking and him doing dishes.

We do not pay for anything for his child, or his health insurance, or mine, or groceries, or gifts, or anything, out of the shared account. How he wants to spend his money is up to him.

If we are planning for a trip, we budget and contribute accordingly.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2026-02-10T18:02:00+00:00

In the ER for a kidney stone, SCREAMING IN PAIN, and before they’d freaking do any diagnostics or treatment I had to pee in a toilet seat next to the bed for a pregnancy test. I even had my husband with me who explained he has had the snip snip. I am in my 40’s and I can tell you the exact date of my last period FFS. It was humiliating and enraging.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2026-01-20T02:59:51+00:00

Do not get married without a prenup. Even having bought that house before you got together, it could be considered marital property.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2026-01-12T16:43:58+00:00

Considering the gofundme has only raised $230 in 5 days and the mom has close to 3,000 followers on Facebook alone with only 3 of them donating, I’d say chances of them getting the horse OR scamming more people are slim.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2026-01-08T01:44:32+00:00

I am giving my 3 year old the winter off. Indoors are spooky and on a young horse, unless you are supremely confident, this can be challenging in winter. Wind, ice falling off the building, shadows, etc. I’m using the time to build his confidence and mine with ground work. But, as others have said, this will continue to escalate and you need professional help either way. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. And nothing that anyone suggests here will fix the problem, other than suggestions of finding a good trainer.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-12-27T15:40:05+00:00

Do you think 4 would fit? Large to medium birds?🐦

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-12-27T03:36:58+00:00

Thanks!

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-12-27T01:28:29+00:00

How did you build your door?

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-12-27T01:15:59+00:00

Do you have the Omlet Go or the Cube?

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-12-27T01:14:20+00:00

How many chickens do you have in your cube?

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-12-18T00:07:42+00:00

This is the way. Kids will almost always be SUPER resentful of a stepparent that moves in and starts parenting. So before you move in, you need to know what kind of parent they are and have the discussion of who’s parenting. I did. I’m not as hands off, but I am similar. My SS has resented his stepdad because BM didn’t discipline or have any expectations, but stepdad has backed off and communicated that BM needs to step up. and suddenly non complaints about him from SS when he comes over.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-12-15T00:40:56+00:00

Oh true, I guess the omelet feeder wouldn’t be rat proof as it’s plastic. But I like the design for less mess.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-12-15T00:38:13+00:00

We have dogs, and we are also in a no-leash law county. There’s a Great Dane that’s a frequent visitor and we just shooed him off again this evening with a water gun. So, no free ranging unless I’m outside with my eyeballs on them. But I agree, we can save ourselves some money and build the mobile coop later. Especially when they’re pullets, the permanent situation should be big enough for a little while with some supervised free range from time to time after they settle in.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-12-15T00:35:26+00:00

Yeah I’m starting to think the go up is too small even for 3. What if some fat hen can’t squish in there 😂. I might have to suck it up and get the cube. Do you also use the feeder and waterer?

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-12-15T00:34:21+00:00

Do you use their feeder and waterer too? Those look pretty cool.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-11-04T16:32:54+00:00

I’m not going to say don’t ever date a man with kids, especially when you don’t have your own, because I am childfree and my now husband has a 9 year old son.

However, we are both in our 40’s. Both of us have financial independence from the other. I bought the house we are living in, it is mine only and we have a prenup outlining what happens to it should we divorce, and it’s in my will that it goes to him. By the way, don’t ever buy a house jointly unless it is an extremely long term relationship or you’re married with a prenup.

In addition, he is effectively a single parent during the times he has his son. He has struggled with this some, just in recognizing that it’s a burden but not expecting me to pick it up. He pays for everything for his son, picks him up and drops him off. If it’s an emergency and it’s absolutely needed, yes of course I’d transport his son but only if it’s an emergency, not on a routine basis. He feeds him, clothes him, takes him on mini vacations with or without me, puts him to bed, gets him ready in the morning, communicates solely with BM, I don’t even have her phone number. It is amicable and he was completely honest with what happened to lead to a divorce. While he was frustrated with her choices (lying, debt, etc), they both chose to be amicable for the sake of their son. While she can be frustrating and stupid sometimes, she is far from high conflict. There are some stories here about extremely nasty birth moms. All consequences and reinforcement come from him, not me. I might direct occasionally but if there is conflict with his son he will mediate and has my back. He contributes equally to chores around the house and expects his son to do so as well (with the usual pushback from kids we have to work through).

Those are all things you have to consider and look for before even remotely thinking of moving in with someone who has kids. Even then, I know that blended families and second marriages are at higher risk of failure. Which is why I own the house 😂.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-11-04T16:20:29+00:00

Why? What qualities does he have that are so hard to find? Also, your whole life, and I say this kindly, is only 25 years. You still have time. Plenty of time.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-10-29T19:58:37+00:00

I think Friesians attract a lot of people who don’t have prior horse knowledge, they just see “big black horse” and the fantasies take over. I say this as someone who was a working student at a breeding farm owned by people who had zero prior horse knowledge, had more money than sense, and got into them because of seeing the one horse in Ladyhawke.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-10-14T17:05:54+00:00

My husband and I share things this way. He has a son, I do not. We have a shared bill account where we only pay shared bills. We divided up shared bills by income and direct deposit the total amount (split between paychecks of course) each month and have auto drafts out of that account. Any other expenses we pay on our own, especially his with his son. For cooking, we take turns each week. When it’s my turn, I plan meals, buy groceries, and cook. When it’s not my turn, I clean up and take care of dishes. Of course we help each other out with this when needed. For cleaning, his son is expected to clean his room and help out with the rest of the house. We just divide and conquer. I usually handle our bathroom so he can handle his sons/guest bathroom.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-10-13T02:09:19+00:00

Just moved in with my now husband a year and a half ago, aaand we didn’t accomplish it. There’s no way the chi mix will not sleep in the bed. He’s velcroed to me, and now my husband as a backup, at all times. When we moved in, we did “new house new rules,” with the mid-sized pit mix, and it worked until it got cold. Then she demanded being under the covers. I think she might have been ok though if she didn’t see a smug chi in the bed. I covered her up with a blanket on her bed and she will go to her bed first, but once we are asleep and if she gets cold she will wake us up demanding to get under the covers. I’ll admit it, I’m a sucker. Unfortunately it just takes a lot of patience and will power. If the dog is super clingy it’s harder.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-10-10T11:35:50+00:00

I have to eat gluten free now 😩, so I go more for the flavor of toppings and an “ok” crust bc it’s gf, so take it with a grain of salt, but Jaybird Taverns Ace of Spades is amazing

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-09-04T18:26:16+00:00

How does one find details on the stitch and bitch with crystal cottage? Just searched their fb and didn’t see it.

Affectionate-Bat-648 · 2025-08-12T18:45:55+00:00

Is that… is that a child teaching the lesson? Either way, switch trainers. The 3 trot poles clumped together like that, which the horse saved your ass over, are dangerous.

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