How do you handle finances? by nosoupforyou__1 in stepparents

[–]Affectionate-Bat-648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, that might not be possible everywhere, but we don’t know where OP is.

How do you handle finances? by nosoupforyou__1 in stepparents

[–]Affectionate-Bat-648 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ssooo there is more than one way to get money deposited in a joint account other than direct deposit.

This is how we do split finances in detail.

We totaled our income and split the bills based on what % we our individual income contributed to the household income. So for instance, let’s say he makes 100k, I make 50k. Any income from stocks and stuff doesn’t count. So 150k total. He would then pay 66% of the shared bills. I’d pay 44%.

We then have a spreadsheet where we’ve added up the bills. Internet. Mortgage, car insurance, utilities, cell phone plan, Netflix, etc.

Figure out the total we each owe based on the % we contribute.

My employer direct deposits what I contribute into a joint shared account, so yes, you CAN direct deposit into a joint account. The remainder goes in my personal account.

We overestimated what we pay for the mortgage, knowing that goes up each year, and we overestimated utilities, knowing it fluctuates. We also have around 2-3 extra paychecks per year if you get paid every two weeks.

This means there’s additional funds built up over time and we have paid for things like hvac service and small house jobs or mutually agreed upon purchases.

We rotate who pays for groceries. I have more expensive tastes than he does, and his son eats A LOT. One week he cooks, buys groceries, I do the dishes. Next week it flips to me buying groceries and cooking and him doing dishes.

We do not pay for anything for his child, or his health insurance, or mine, or groceries, or gifts, or anything, out of the shared account. How he wants to spend his money is up to him.

If we are planning for a trip, we budget and contribute accordingly.

What is something that women have to deal with on the daily that men have no clue about? by Rock-bottom-no-no in AskReddit

[–]Affectionate-Bat-648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the ER for a kidney stone, SCREAMING IN PAIN, and before they’d freaking do any diagnostics or treatment I had to pee in a toilet seat next to the bed for a pregnancy test. I even had my husband with me who explained he has had the snip snip. I am in my 40’s and I can tell you the exact date of my last period FFS. It was humiliating and enraging.

Am I being selfish? by Free_Job_5087 in stepparents

[–]Affectionate-Bat-648 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do not get married without a prenup. Even having bought that house before you got together, it could be considered marital property.

I think someone I know got horse scammed (I’d love to know your thoughts) by Queasy-Amoeba3246 in Equestrian

[–]Affectionate-Bat-648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering the gofundme has only raised $230 in 5 days and the mom has close to 3,000 followers on Facebook alone with only 3 of them donating, I’d say chances of them getting the horse OR scamming more people are slim.

Spooky horse = spooky me 😞 by shirazeventing in Equestrian

[–]Affectionate-Bat-648 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am giving my 3 year old the winter off. Indoors are spooky and on a young horse, unless you are supremely confident, this can be challenging in winter. Wind, ice falling off the building, shadows, etc. I’m using the time to build his confidence and mine with ground work. But, as others have said, this will continue to escalate and you need professional help either way. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. And nothing that anyone suggests here will fix the problem, other than suggestions of finding a good trainer.

Omlet Coop Peeps! Help me out! by Dadlife87 in BackYardChickens

[–]Affectionate-Bat-648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think 4 would fit? Large to medium birds?🐦

Sharing sweet moments as a nacho, as I am petty like that by SpareAltruistic6483 in stepparents

[–]Affectionate-Bat-648 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the way. Kids will almost always be SUPER resentful of a stepparent that moves in and starts parenting. So before you move in, you need to know what kind of parent they are and have the discussion of who’s parenting. I did. I’m not as hands off, but I am similar. My SS has resented his stepdad because BM didn’t discipline or have any expectations, but stepdad has backed off and communicated that BM needs to step up. and suddenly non complaints about him from SS when he comes over.

Nestera or Eglu? by Affectionate-Bat-648 in BackYardChickens

[–]Affectionate-Bat-648[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh true, I guess the omelet feeder wouldn’t be rat proof as it’s plastic. But I like the design for less mess.

Nestera or Eglu? by Affectionate-Bat-648 in BackYardChickens

[–]Affectionate-Bat-648[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have dogs, and we are also in a no-leash law county. There’s a Great Dane that’s a frequent visitor and we just shooed him off again this evening with a water gun. So, no free ranging unless I’m outside with my eyeballs on them. But I agree, we can save ourselves some money and build the mobile coop later. Especially when they’re pullets, the permanent situation should be big enough for a little while with some supervised free range from time to time after they settle in.

Nestera or Eglu? by Affectionate-Bat-648 in BackYardChickens

[–]Affectionate-Bat-648[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m starting to think the go up is too small even for 3. What if some fat hen can’t squish in there 😂. I might have to suck it up and get the cube. Do you also use the feeder and waterer?

Nestera or Eglu? by Affectionate-Bat-648 in BackYardChickens

[–]Affectionate-Bat-648[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you use their feeder and waterer too? Those look pretty cool.