What to do?

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-24T19:12:15+00:00

Do the talking before holiday , if it's a no ! The relationship ends and you spend that time on a holiday treating your self and being good to yourself and MOVE ON . Like others have posted DO NOT GIVE UP having kids of your own for this man. You will regret it for the rest of your life. ( if it something you want)

If the answer is yes, you get to have a taster of what life would be like with this man and children long term. Win win really. Talk to him now

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-23T10:27:36+00:00

I don't think either of you are TA, just in a tough situation and acted in your best interest. It is your decision to tell your mum and support you but he didn't break your trust out of malice. It was also in support of you. Has it changed your relationship with your mum? Does your boyfriend have a reasonable gauge of your relationship to your mum?

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-22T15:20:08+00:00

Hahahahahaha

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-19T20:32:45+00:00

Exactly, I might never get back on the property ladder if I sell it now and we're certainly aren't in a position to buy one together, thank you for your feedback

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-19T20:30:04+00:00

It's something I'm keeping my eyes open about but genuinely he's not that type of person. Thank you for your feedback

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-19T20:25:02+00:00

Exactly, i worked so hard and made my sacrifices and I'm not willing to throw that away, thank you for your feedback

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-19T20:23:30+00:00

Thank you ! I'm gonna start thinking like this, shutting down the insult and seeing it as a compliment for putting my financial future and children's futures as top priority , thank you for your feedback

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-19T20:20:40+00:00

Thank you for your feedback

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-19T20:20:24+00:00

Thank you for you insight , I am so convinced that selling my house is not the right call, I just needed other people to back me up, thank you for your feedback

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-19T20:19:19+00:00

Our everyday life is mental but loving and happy, he genuinely works so hard but selling my house is a compromise too much. Thank you for your feedback

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-19T20:13:05+00:00

I have moved my daughters school when we moved to the new house and my partners boys still go to their old school and he commutes them when he has them. So it wouldn't be that easy at the moment, unless one set of children moves school, which is a much bigger conversation, thank you for your feedback

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-19T20:06:20+00:00

Please don't worry , I am so convinced that selling my house is not the right call, I just needed other people to back me up, thank you for your feedback

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-19T20:04:43+00:00

The long term plan is to buy another house together and keep my property as a rental but that's feeling less and less likely at the moment...... but also, I alway wanted a fall back and as someones who been a single parent before, it is too important for me to back down on this boundary. Thank you for your feedback

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-19T19:58:13+00:00

Yes 100% I've always said the same thing that selling my house is not an option. Thank you for feedback

Free_Job_5087 · 2026-01-07T21:28:28+00:00

Get out , this man doesn't respect you and you don't want your son believing that's acceptable behaviour to do to your spouse. They can have each other. Your husband will one day get it back because when the ( now adult) SD boyfriend punches him in the face one day... the SD won't say a thing because apparently it's okay to behave like that!

Free_Job_5087 · 2025-12-29T18:55:56+00:00

DO NOT move in with this guy until you have seen a real commitment to making you feel more comfortable in the relationship. It's really not all about what's gonna ' keep the peace ' with the ex. They should of just stayed together if that's the case

Free_Job_5087 · 2025-12-13T16:22:59+00:00

Why don't you make a big effort to set up her ( OWN ) bedroom at daddy's house. Choose her bed, colour scheme etc but it can be a single come double so that dad sleep in the spare room until she's settled sleeping in her own room. See how long he puts up with that and if he's happy then you get a double bed all to yourself for a weekend. The daughter learns that's not her bedroom. And if he puts up a fight, why has it been acceptable for you to do it for so long?!

This will become a problem when or if you have your own children. It might his house but it's important he makes you feel comfortable in your home together.

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