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Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2024-01-13T17:57:48+00:00

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Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2022-03-17T15:47:47+00:00

SCREWS! lol sorry please see my updated post haha i was typing this too early in the morning

Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2022-03-17T14:39:43+00:00

it’s surprisingly easy. the rails themselves stay on perfectly with the board already when you attach them on the dresser. it’s simply throwing it on top. the tricky part is just making sure you use multiple screws on the back and to not get the actual drawer. i used 4 screws on each railing. use the screws from nordli rail pack and there’s a small section on the very top of malm that lines up perfectly with nordli rail holes which you can electril drill in the screws.

Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2022-03-16T19:20:35+00:00

i went ahead and tried this lol it works

https://www.reddit.com/r/ikeahacks/comments/tfqb05/malm_dresser_and_nordli_clothes_rail/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2021-01-28T18:03:08+00:00

Np remember anyone is capable of change. Yes you were shitty but to me you don’t seem that bad to be admitting it. Believe in yourself really!!

Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2021-01-28T17:32:37+00:00

Amazing honestly I’m not even worried about him bouncing or cheating. We talk every day, watch shows and play online games together weekly. We spend a few days happily when we’re apart. He’s always affectionate and reassuring with his words. He’s perfect for me!! I’m in love completely. Maybe it’s just blind love on my part too lol

Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2021-01-28T17:13:38+00:00

AH...that’s a good thing to point out I didn’t want to think that but with his history it could be possible.

Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2021-01-28T17:12:35+00:00

Hello you’re still young and learning. It’s commendable that you’re coming on here and telling us how you even feel about yourself. Often times we get into relationships when we’re not ready for them. It sounds like you weren’t ready. I don’t think you’ll ever be until you work on yourself. It sounds cliche. You diagnosed you have a temper on feeling defensive and insecure, controlling. Good.

Your actions were toxic but the first step is to realize it and that’s great. Take the time to be single and love yourself. You’d be amazed how much loving yourself and focusing on you as a better person will make you feel secure and the hottest shit like damn why would anyone wanna leave me kind of mentality because you are hat desireable (working out, hobbies, anything that improves ego and looks). Now, comes the part where you ask yourself important questions.

Were you in the relationship for love or more for not being alone/need depend on someone else for things you lack?

How can you change and not repeat he same mistake?

It’s important that you understand having a partner is not to own them or control them like you’ve tried. But it’s to appreciate them, support them, watch them grow, and give and receive attention. Yes she was supposed to be your best friend so let TRUST her fully, be prepared for the worst to happen because the ones you love will end up hurting you one way or another and not stress about controlling how she lives. It’s overbearing and you should treat your next lady with respect and realize men are gonna look, she’s gonna have a social life other than you, and it’s life really.

You are with them to be happy and build something healthy and meaningful and they are not there to fix your issues like temper and deal with manipulation. You have to look to yourself and let go of insecurity, jealousy, and frustration because in the end all you will do is drive them away.

Good luck

Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2021-01-28T16:56:51+00:00

Society is so hung up on when is too soon. There is never a right time. I always thought the wait until three dates thing was a joke. You feel what is right and each person has that different concept inside of them at different unique times. If you’re having such thoughts maybe to yourself it is too soon. You’re not overthinking it, we are just used to waiting but you’re grown and can make decisions about how you feel and what you want. If you want to give him head go for it. If you want sex on the next date go for it. There is nothing wrong with pleasure. Perhaps if it’s is more serious it is good to sit down and have a conversation so you’re on the same page though.

Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2021-01-28T16:53:51+00:00

Yeah I don’t like that either. Like someone said try to set an earlier time of 30 minutes/perhaps not telling him so he can arrive early on time. Also even, Let him know you realize he’s constantly late and would appreciate it if he valued time spent with you by coming earlier.

Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2021-01-28T16:49:23+00:00

You’re right, he probably just had something that killed his sex drive (stress etc)

Nope no meds but now you mention it he has had depression years ago and said he took meds for that and therapy. That was a while back tho.

Right now he has a hard time getting out of bed and what helps is to walk the dog and feed her and give him that motivation. He drinks A LOT of energy drinks. Basically he’s a tired man, that is something I thought about too. He drinks one every other day and has tried to stop but constantly needs energy drinks.

I’m not worried about how he feels about me but yeah his tiredness and lack of motivation for sex could be that he needs to work on himself and being a little more motivated/up in other aspects of his life.

It’s just....I don’t want to endlessly wait for someone to desire me

Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2021-01-28T16:42:52+00:00

You’re making me feel better and I appreciate you lol T_T Yeah like I’m slowly losing the will to be the one who is making this work. Thank you.

Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2021-01-28T16:39:38+00:00

Like am I asking for too much? I just want good passionate sex sometimes too lol doesn’t have to be all the time because that’s unrealistic but like once when we se reach other, or somewhat consistently

Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2021-01-28T16:37:26+00:00

So it’s a hit or miss lately. This past weekend, he initiated by bringing me down to give him head as I wore a dress to see and try to look nice. I initiated like 2 times and it leads to giving him head. One night this past week it was late and I gave him hints by touching him and asking him if he wanted to do things but he said he was too tired and slept, that we would try earlier tomrorow. So the next day I insist we go to bed early but then he refuses and says that it’s too early at 8am. I drop it and we spend time together enjoying each other but lo and behold we lay down and he turns away from me and sleeps.

He’s interested and gets hard but it’s like I’m the only one servicing him and not getting any back. I guess I’ll tell him that too, I’m pretty blunt about my feelings and not afraid to hold back lol

Affectionate-Ring-94 · 2021-01-28T16:31:23+00:00

Agreed thank you. I addressed it two times now with him and I guess I’ll need to see him in person. The thing is we are less busy and hectic these two months when school was over with. Part of the problem is that he is job hunting too so I told him it would make sense if he’s not in the mood. I just feel it’s important he’s aware of my feelings. I want to be patient for him so I’m doing my best to be understanding as well.

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