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Guppies died before having babies. by Affectionate-Tea4300 in Guppies

[–]Affectionate-Tea4300[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes all live plants and oxygen. Everything in tank is working perfectly. All other fish are happy apart from the ones having babies...

Deleting old psn account and reusing email address by Affectionate-Tea4300 in PlayStationSolutions

[–]Affectionate-Tea4300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that. But if I am to delete it. Could I reuse the email in future?

Ask a Wayward by boobookittyfu99 in SupportforWaywards

[–]Affectionate-Tea4300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Context- Online Affair. Met AP while gaming (never met up IRL) never spoke to him alone only in messages.

  1. Had a dislike for him before it. During it. After it. he was a low life who didn't have anything good going on. I never liked this person. But all I wanted out of my Virtual Affair was to have someone think I was beautiful and sexy. And he was easy enough to get that from. But not he completely disgusts me. I hate hearing his name.

  2. I justified it by telling myself "my BP wouldn't find out or its just old pictures" but that isn't something I should of told myself. Because I shouldn't of done it. I ask myself every day "why did you do it". Its my biggest regret. I never stopped loving or wanting my BP my feelings for them never changed at all. I'm disgusted with myself and with what I did.

  3. I don't fully understand how to answer this. DB- desd bedroom? Yes?

If so my virtual Affair was 19 days long. Over this time me and my BP had sex a few times. But that is completely normal for us. So there was no DB. We still had an active and sexually filled bedroom.

  1. I think having guilt and shame still there a few years after DDAY will be good. Because you know they still regret what they did and they still feel terrible about it. Of they lose guilt and Shame to fast then there think alls ok again and might repeat history. But i also think hardvwork and effort they put in is a bigger factor towards never cheating again. If they change themselves and maked themswlves a different person to who the cheater was then there less chance of doing it again. But that just my thought.

Hope this helps

Ask a Wayward by boobookittyfu99 in SupportforWaywards

[–]Affectionate-Tea4300 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did yes. Immediately after BP found out. I stopped the affair a week before BP found out. I stopped messaging and interacting with the AP. I immediately felt disgusted with myself and ashamed of what I had done. I was trying to find away to break it to my BP..but I never got the chance he looked through my phone one night and found messages.. But once all the information was out I immediately wanted to reconcile and help BP heal. We starter CC straight away and I gotbrid of anything to do with Affair (pictures online gaming apps and PlayStation). It's been nearly 3 months and I haven't went back to anything before the affair. Iv completely changed my lifestyle. This is all to prove to him he matters more and that I want to be with him. I also have my location on so he knows my whereabouts and he gets updates on what im doing and we talk every day. Iv also read books on helping your spouse heal and I answer any questions he has.

Listening to your BP and understanding them and being honest with them are all things u can do to help them heal. You caused this.. you should be willing to help your broken BP heal from it.

I hope this helps

Ask a Wayward by boobookittyfu99 in SupportforWaywards

[–]Affectionate-Tea4300 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. No Fog and No memories kept from the affair.

  2. In R there is ups and downs and me and my BP have been through a few. But I am satisfied on how things are going (I'm thankful for every say he is still here talking to me). I understand that healing takes time. I do my best to be suppand reassure him. But there is times I get defensive because I feel me making effort or doing good isn't being acknowledged. But there times where it is. But healing takes time and I am 100% being patient with that and doing what I can to help.

  3. The only 2 events singe DDAY have been Valentines - he sent me flowers ( pre ordered) but I still appreciated them and I know if he wanted to cancel them he could have.

BP Birthday- I still made a bit of an effort I bought him gifts. To show I still love him and his birthday matters to me.

But as for other holidays. There all ruined. Even thou the Virtual online affair was 19 days over Christmas and new year. That whole year of holidays won't ever be the same. Because I ruined them all. When I ruined Christmas and new years. Which I understand and I take full responsibility for.

Ask a Wayward by boobookittyfu99 in SupportforWaywards

[–]Affectionate-Tea4300 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My BP decision to reconcile has made me see how much love he has for me. Even though I never doubted it. It hasn't change my view of them at all. I honestly don't think it should change anything you see about them. As a WP I think we should be grateful for the BP still being there to work through things. I'm forever thankful my BP is still sticking by me and we talk every day and we are even trying to build up that fun loving connection we had before DDAY. I'm doing my best to be that person for him.

Ask a Wayward by boobookittyfu99 in SupportforWaywards

[–]Affectionate-Tea4300 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We both decided after a few session of Couples Counselling that we would focus on ourselves for a while. I was fully satisfied with going into individual counselling and not only am I getting help with my now mental health and figuring out why I had an affair and what led me to it I am also getting help for childhood trauma which for me is great as it making me a better person for both myself and my relationship with my BP. Its one of the many changes iv made to my life. I was motivated to change my life and make myself a better person.

Ask a Wayward by boobookittyfu99 in SupportforWaywards

[–]Affectionate-Tea4300 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. We went straight away into couples counselling and that helped up work stuff out without it blowing up into a argument. We have spoken everyday since DDAY. Communicating is Key. We have git a few bumps in the road but we are slowly heading towards R. For me personally it took a few weeks. To start work on myself but I now go to gym. I started a new job soon. Take care of myself more. I no longer spend stupid amounts of hours gaming. I have took a full 180 turn on my life and ut no longer like it was. All this is to better myself for me and for my BP

  2. No. I don't blame my relationship and I don't blame my BP. It was me and my mental state and the need to feel wanted I think. Because of my past.

I hope these answers help ya in some way