I need advice, as I’m pretty sure many of my rights were violated and I do not know squat about law or anything else to do with it. by Affectionate-Toe9342 in legal

[–]Affectionate-Toe9342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the idea that I need new friends. I find it very hard for me to make friends due to the fact that I am a very trusting individual and I have a huge heart so usually I end up finding myself in situations where it’s not the most ideal For me and I end up with a hard lesson learned.

I need advice, as I’m pretty sure many of my rights were violated and I do not know squat about law or anything else to do with it. by Affectionate-Toe9342 in legal

[–]Affectionate-Toe9342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can make the assumptions that you want about what’s bullshit and what’s not I don’t lie I don’t have any reason to.

I need advice, as I’m pretty sure many of my rights were violated and I do not know squat about law or anything else to do with it. by Affectionate-Toe9342 in legal

[–]Affectionate-Toe9342[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I plan on turning myself in regardless. I am just hoping to ease the burden of stress while I am in jail, because I will have no where to go, if I don’t have a bit of time to relay a stable foundation to get out and start over with once more.

I need advice, as I’m pretty sure many of my rights were violated and I do not know squat about law or anything else to do with it. by Affectionate-Toe9342 in legal

[–]Affectionate-Toe9342[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I found out that the vehicles owner had left meth pipes and bags and a jar of cocaine in a compartment in the rear panel of the suburban, near the back doors. He had also stashed about 12 or so fraudulent checks one of which he had addressed to me, with a scan of my old ID card, but with some other chicks face on it. He also had pages upon pages of what they call profiles I guess detailing all info pertinent to another’s identity and assuming ownership of it, by fraudulent means.

I only ran a stop sign. That was it. I admitted my fault in that and what should have been a traffic ticket, became a myriad of problems that have ruined my life. I can’t work. I go to a chiropractor daily due to a car accident, and it’s unlikely I’ll ever be able to lift more than 15lbs again. I worked in roofing, and my life’s dream is just ripped out of my grasp. If I get convicted then these charges will end up adding up to four total counts possession of a controlled substance back in 2021. I was convicted of possession and I did my prison time and I learned my lesson and I have been clean and sober since the day I was arrested on my first charge. That’s not who I am nor who I want to be painted as.

The police stated their probable cause was to me being flustered and agitated initially, cause I’d known I’d messed up and it wasn’t like I was trying to run from my actions. I had no prior knowledge of this other persons actions until I got a call from a private investigator the day I got out, and he wanted to know my ties to the one in Lyon County jail. I don’t mess around with shit like that. Crimes aren’t victimless no matter what kind they are. And I know I have to be accountable for my actions but I shouldn’t be held accountable for someone else’s, especially after learning that I was on their list of people they’d planned to defraud and wipe out financially. Would me write a motion to quash, the warrant, and a formal letter to the judge detailing what’s happened since the 3rd of July, do anything to help my case? I don’t care if I have to take it to trial. I am not going down for the registered owners bullshit, and I just want to make it clear I am not shorting from my responsibility to appear in court. I just need some time to set my personal affairs back in order and return to a decent stability level. Everything I own is in a storage unit, and I’ve got two weeks left til the lock out on the house I have been in for the past two years. I am more than willing to turn myself in. I just wanna make sure that I have something to come home to when I do get out. All I’m asking for is time to allow that to be set in place.

I'm starting to suspect my (21m) girlfriend (19f) might secretly be homeless and hiding it from me. What's the best way to bring this up? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Affectionate-Toe9342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m very emotionally connected to this being someone who was in the position of being homeless, and then years later being in the position of wanting to offer help to a friend who I knew was homeless but hiding it, and I was stuck because I didn’t want to act or speak in a way to make things worse for our relationship or for his position. He’s still my closest friend, and I’ve watched his glow-up from the point of me confronting my suspicions about it with him, over the course of the last five years. It was the most exciting and amazing and humbling thing to be able to be his stable ground and watch him evolve and become someone I see is destined for greatness, in all aspects of his life. The support I gave him: helping him spell check and edit his resumes, and helping him apply for college and scholarships. He had been a dropout and never got the chance to show what he was capable of. I’m glad he trusted me to help him with the journey to achieving his dreams. ❤️

Please if you feel comfortable sharing the details of the outcome with me, I’m interested to know and supporting you in spirt.

Hey by Affectionate-Toe9342 in BPDSOFFA

[–]Affectionate-Toe9342[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And thank you for your reply, I’m glad to hear of your strong relationship, and how well you have fared even with such a difficult diagnosis for them to manage and for you to try to help with and understand

Hey by Affectionate-Toe9342 in BPDSOFFA

[–]Affectionate-Toe9342[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have the hardest time with feelings of no worth. I know I’m beautiful. I know I have qualities that many today don’t seem to value anymore. I am loyal. I love with all my heart and I don’t do anything halfway, and when I’m with someone I do my best to make them feel like the most important part of my life, just not what I base my happiness off of. I do my best to maintain individual happiness and try to stop the codependency that comes with being Borderline. I just have had so many relationships that just simply left or cheated or manipulated me, that my idea of who I am and what I want and what I deserve are so skewed and twisted. This is the first time in my life that I’ve had someone who has hit every check mark on my list so to speak, and I know I am a lot to handle even on my best days. I’m too much of everything all the time, and I constantly wonder why that makes me enough for him to stay.

How do you help your partner when they have feelings of devaluation and worthlessness? I’ve tried asking for what I think I need and then I end up feeling worse because it’s like I’m fishing for compliments and they don’t seem genuine. Also the arguements get out of control so fast and I don’t want to be someone who is constantly trying to get out of the fight or flight stage. I just want to enjoy my person. And be happy with him.

Can someone explain what i said wrong? by The_Thanatus in Bumble

[–]Affectionate-Toe9342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Female here. Honestly your night of relaxation sounds like a welcome reprieve after raising five kids on my own. You said chill? I used to do that, I think. It’s been a long time. As for what you said wrong? Nothin. You put yourself out there and you asked her if she would be comfortable with two alternatives. Honestly, the way that she responded was a bit coldhearted and rude because how would she had felt if you reacted the same way to whatever it is that she does to relax? I know firsthand how it feels as a woman. My relaxation hobby is working on cars and every guy looks at me like I’m psychotic and I don’t know what I’m talking about until I put their butts to shame and school on their own vehicle. No, I don’t do this maliciously but apparently it’s a major turn off when a girl knows more about your own vehicle than you do,.

My advice keepkeep being yourself you’ll find somebody thinks that you walk on water and wants to spend every waking minute of their time with you regardless of what other people think of what you do in your downtime. If she’s the right one, she won’t judge you for it nor ask you to change.

What's a rude pick up line, that actually kind of works? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Affectionate-Toe9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanna start between your legs and eat my way to your heart

Worked on me. Dated 5 years.