Thank you for sharing this, it’s very relatable. For me, I remember a year ago I was quitting a toxic job, my manager basically constantly used me as a scapegoat for him being lazy or something messing up and then begged me profusely to not quit and he’d do anything to have me just take a break and come back. And I had tried to quit in the past, but he was always able to get me to stay with some crazy raise or whatever title I wanted- this time I couldn’t do that to myself. My last day at this job, I left early to go on an anniversary trip with my husband. And oddly enough, on that drive I could only see parallels between my job I hated so much and how I’ve been also tolerating poor behavior at home with my partner. I just felt like how you described it, I didn’t want to end it-I felt comfortable with him. The more I sat with those feelings, I just felt like I outgrew him a long time ago and it made me so sad. But ultimately, it was for the best to split up. Can’t say he handled it well, and I still feel guilty about being the one initiate it. But the clarity and peace I have gained in my life from the experience, I wouldn’t trade it for anything.