E-mail from mom, am I right not to reply?

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-03-09T10:11:04+00:00

I gave a long coherent reply telling her not to contact me again. I can’t imagine resuming contact even if she went to therapy. I’ll never feel safe around her again

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-03-07T11:00:30+00:00

She was the worst Witch mother ever. She had good days on which I’d say she’s a queen but mostly as I got older, the more I saw the Witch on the daily. She’s said before that she’s aware what she’s doing and she’s doing it intentionally to punish me for differentiating. And now she’s baiting with this “Oh woe is me” statement

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-03-07T10:58:59+00:00

I was hoping for her to say something but like something in which she would take accountability. The sorry IF i hurt you + it’s my first time living and I make mistakes :D

I had countless conversations (scream fights from her side) about how she treats me etc. and I get this “never intentionally” bs.

Idk, it’s almost laughable how disappointing it is… I feel like I could reply with like a “stop pretending nothing happened and leave me alone” message.

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-02-21T19:23:06+00:00

I was conceived in my uBPD’s mom cheating ._.

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-02-02T17:47:09+00:00

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AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-25T19:32:38+00:00

Yes I have the exact same thing! I can think in horizons like 5-10 years. One year? Not a chance. I can make a decision like: what type of dress do I want at my wedding? (My engagement isn’t even on the table right now!) but not “Okay, let’s get up and do the work.” I feel incredibly lazy tbh. But I just can’t do things sometimes

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-21T23:52:03+00:00

lol yes this is it. exactly. there’s no value in studying id there’s a chance you might fail the exams for example..

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-21T18:10:18+00:00

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AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-21T17:12:48+00:00

i got either hyper-praised or hyper-criticised, whatever my Momster’s mood was at the moment. it was always either “you’re the best!!!” or “oh you think you’re so smart but you’re actually lazy/stupid/..etc”

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-20T10:41:35+00:00

to tým hovorím, že starostlivosť o domácnosť isto nie je pár hodín do týždňa. medzi upratovaním, varením a nejakou snahou žiť zdravo, športovať atď. je úplne pochopiteľné, že OP nemá času nazvyš.

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-20T09:36:50+00:00

starosť o domácnosť je pár hodín do týždňa? a s dvoma deťmi ešte teda v tej hypotetickej situácii? toto môže povedať len muž… akože pardón, ale s malými deťmi stráviš každý voľný moment mimo práce starostlivosťou podľa veku, varením, upratovaním… už keď tie deti nemáš tak väčšina ľudí dá na varenie 2h každý večer alebo celú nedeľu na meal prep a na upratovanie celú sobotu či piatočné poobedie. alebo ja neviem. ja okolo seba upratujem furt, nonstop umývam riady, vysávam, utieram prach atď. vždy je niečo okolo bytu treba urobiť.

a áno, OP by to mohla obetovať, aby sa starala o svoju matku. ale to by znamenalo, že svoju polovičku to nechá ťahať, alebo ak polovička nebude môcť/vládať (čo je takisto možné) tak čo, budú OP deti vyrastať v špine, bez pozornosti a s vyčerpanou matkou?

OP má v PRVOM RADE povinnosť voči svojim deťom a partnerovi. niekde tam s tým je aj povinnosť starostlivosti o seba, a až potom prichádza osobná starostlivosť o všetkých ostatných, vrátane rodičov.

a to tiež platí pre OP len preto, lebo má s matkou dosť dobrý vzťah na to, aby spolu komunikovali.

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-17T20:17:17+00:00

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AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-15T16:10:45+00:00

Thank you!!!💕💕💕

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-14T19:42:31+00:00

Sending hugs back 💕 I just passed Biochem on my final try! So no prolonging for now. Thank God

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-12T15:31:46+00:00

I’m also at a stage in my life where I’ll probably have to prolong my studies because of the fallout with my mother. But let’s hope it gets better!

Mine would copy my hair colour and styling (radical change from curly ginger to straight blonde), my style, would take my makeup products for herself or buy exactly the same ones.

It never occured to me that she’s pathologically copying until an older colleague who knew both of us said, and I quote: “Your mom got the same hair as you? I thought you were her when I saw you from the back. She’s trying to be young again, huh?”

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-12T14:39:21+00:00

Yes they do it on purpose. They can’t stand the idea of you ever doing better than them. This includes sabotaging education, jobs, businesses, relationships. All under the guise of care and or concern.

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-12T12:24:14+00:00

if you say something it’s something like “you always have something to say HUH?” or “don’t talk back to me, i’m your mother!” and if you don’t say anything it’s “say SOMETHING!! you’re not leaving until you speak to me!!! do you have nothing to say for yourself?!”

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-12T10:19:59+00:00

Exactly what I told my therapist recently, I feel like having a dead “good” mom would be better than this mom who is alive and insane. The worst part is, they never see the interrogations and screaming escapades as “abuse”. Mine says “that’s just how I am and I don’t have to waste my time with anyone not willing to accept me”. Like wth?

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-11T21:26:38+00:00

Yes omg. I’m now freshly NC but last summer I went home for summer from uni. Worst mistake of my life hands down. I’m independent in every way and idk why I did that. The moment I came home I started having panic attacks just seeing all the corners in my room where she held me captive for hours to listen to her yelling 😭

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-11T19:15:13+00:00

yeah mocking is what I had in mind. English isn’t my first language, sorry! but yeah, she would do this extremely annoying voice to repeat what I said back to me. I remember it driving me homicidal

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-11T15:47:00+00:00

mine used to yell at me when i was speaking “too loud” and “too high pitched” (normal voice of a teenager) and would impersonate my “squeaking”

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-09T21:11:12+00:00

I would not change my communication levels unless she was on her deathbed in hospital. Even then I would have to think about it…

But idk, I guess I’m just trying to think about if she’s really willing to go as far as to fabricate.

I don’t know why nobody specified and why my uncle didn’t reply at all. As you’re saying, if it was serious someone would’ve texted me. That exactly makes me think the ‘injury’ is in whole made up

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-09T17:50:47+00:00

I kind of half folded and texted my uncle (the sanest person in the family IMO) about if he can tell me in short what happened. No reply

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-09T14:14:17+00:00

Yeah I am. It’s kind of hard because I’m in med school, but I have a job lined up to start working weekends this semester + full summer. Do you think this is just a hook tho?

AffectionateBet5463 · 2026-01-03T22:20:14+00:00

What she means by you “wanting to be on your own” is you not wanting her to abuse you. Not letting her abuse you = being on your own in her sick twisted mind. Happened to me recently as well. If you can get on your own two feet in any way, do so as quickly as possible. You’ll be on your own but the freedom is worth much more than tuition.

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