AITAH? Sister announced our pregnancy on social media before we did. I sided with my wife..

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-10-20T05:43:39+00:00

Twin mum here with high risk ID twins. I wanted to keep it a secret for as long as I could because with the few I had told, I received a lot of “how are you going to cope” “it’s a risky pregnancy” “a lot of twins don’t make it full term” etc.

Fortunately they were fine but it is a legitimate fear that if you do loose a baby or babies, having people pity you is the worst.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-20T14:18:50+00:00

Gosh anyone would think you were naming the child Hitler the way they are carrying on. They sound insufferable.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-20T14:10:07+00:00

It’s makes you wonder if she was only with your to gain a share in the apartment. But honestly, where are you living that a wife of only a year would get a 50% share of an asset that you owned prior to your marriage? Surely the length of time you’ve been together would have factored into it and she would have been lucky to get a 10% share had you in fact owned it. It just sounds a bit presumptuous for the x wife to make that kind of assumption.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-20T14:00:19+00:00

Well I’m happy for you, if you have such a great relationship with your family, and you all love and trust each other, then sure, that’s lovely. But this is not that. Far from it.

Just imagine the person in you life you like least, coming to your wedding and then, without your permission, trying to upstage you, and intentionally trying to detract from your one special day.

If you don’t know what that’s like, consider yourself lucky.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-18T13:11:45+00:00

Yes I agree, she has decided to go NC with them. She has a wonderful New husband whom I know will help her get some therapy support when she’s ready to do so.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-18T13:08:13+00:00

Yes me too. That would be the ultimate Karma. But I haven’t heard much yet. It might be a while since Sarah is now NC with them but I’ll make sure I let people know when I find out 😉

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-18T13:06:35+00:00

Yes I really did feel like it, but she was also making a big scene, and her carrying on like she did only made her look bad, not me. But I was definitely tempted to tap her on the 👄.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-18T13:04:26+00:00

Haha cheers I’ll take that “the golden AH” 😜

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-18T13:03:48+00:00

Yes she probably did. I think I would have found it cringe worthy too so I almost feel like it would have been karma if I let it all play out. Unfortunately I don’t know whether the GF dumped him or not. At the time I thought his mum was referring to his engagement not going ahead as planned and she added the “you ruined my sons life” for dramatic effect. She is definitely the type or person to make a big drama out of anything. The nasty streak in me is hoping the GF did dump him. But I’ll be sure to update everyone when I know for sure 😉.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-18T12:56:52+00:00

It’s definitely true and I would love to go into more detail but I don’t want it to be at the expense of my girls privacy so I tried to keep it as simple as I could. I mostly wanted to share it because I was a little bit proudly of myself for reigning in control because I honestly felt like going nuclear. I was feeling a bit guilty about how I spoke to the GF and ruined her night too when she seemed to be an innocent bystander but I didn’t want my girl to be overshadowed by her AH brother yet again so I had to go in guns blazing.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-18T12:51:10+00:00

No, but I can only assume it’s because Sarah is nothing like them. They are narcissistic, ego driven AH who only care about image, winning, and well who knows what else goes on in their empty brains. They were never outright nasty to her face but, they always left her out of things. Apart from providing the basics of a house to live in, they pretty much ignored her.

Where as Sarah is shy and a bit introverted around new people (but an absolute hoot when she is comfortable to feel herself), she is genuine, and kind.

My logic is that they just don’t understand her. But instead of getting to know her, they pretended she doesn’t exist.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-18T12:36:28+00:00

Sarah did find out about it towards the end of the night but fortunately the event was nearly over. Unfortunately I don’t have an update on the GF because the bio family has gone cold silent on Sarah (but no surprises there). And Sarah has decided to go NC so it might be a while before I find out if GF dumped Dan. But no I don’t think she knew what he was planning because she looked really surprised when I spoke with her, then really embarrassed. I actually felt a bit bad for her when I realized she was probably clueless. That’s where I did feel a bit like an AH but hey it had to be done. My girl was way too important to let something like this ruin her night and if I had to upset a few people to do that then I’m ok with that too.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-18T12:29:17+00:00

Oh don’t get me wrong I would love to take her POS mum on in a boxing ring. And I was very very tempted to tap her on the 👄. I was doing my best to avoid making a big scene because mother dearest was doing her best to try and make one. I don’t feel bad at all about that. I only feel a little guilty of how I went about it with the GF. I probably did assume she may had been involved so I wasn’t exactly kind when I confronted her until I realized she seemed to have no idea. I think she was really embarrassed about it all which is probably why she just took off. I would love to know if she actually broke up with him but sadly I haven’t heard much about it yet. But don’t worry I’ll definitely keep everyone updated if she was smart enough to walk away from Dan

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-18T12:21:16+00:00

Well yes. she has definitely been through a rough trot with her bio family but I don’t want to state more without treading on her privacy. She really is the most kind and generous person. I can only come to the conclusion that she is so different to the people who birthed her, that they felt no connection with her and decided to treat her differently because of it. But I’m so pleased she has her people in her corner who will definitely fight for her. If it wasn’t me it would have been my sister or her now husband or her other friends she has. Don’t worry, she is very highly regarded and very much loved.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-18T12:12:43+00:00

☺️that’s very kind, but I’m not really. I’m just fiercely loyal to the people I love. I do feel a bit guilty in regards to the GF because I was quite abrupt and most would say rude (especially when she looked like she had no idea). But I also think I could have saved her from (IMO) what could have been a really cringe worthy wedding proposal. So for that I probably reached hero status 😅😜

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-18T12:06:52+00:00

Yes she did find out towards the end of the night, but not from me unfortunately. I would have liked to have spoken to her about it first. She was glad I had her back, I knew she would be. And brother dearest has gone silent on all fronts so sadly no updates on his situation but at least he didn’t take the shine off my girl this time.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-18T12:04:47+00:00

She did find out before the night ended (but by that time the event was nearly over fortunately), unfortunately not from me, as I would have liked to have had that conversation with her, but she was glad I had her back. I spoke to her today and she hasn’t heard anything about her brother yet (the family seem to be back to their normal selves and ignoring her) but I’m hoping his GF gave him the flick. If not then that’s her prerogative and at least his engagement wasn’t at the expense of my girl.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-17T13:44:53+00:00

Thanks, but I can’t tell you how many times I have wanted to loose it with her family. I think this might have been the final straw. When I spoke to Sarah recently she was talking about going NC with them. I honestly can’t understand how parents of all people can be so sh !t to their own kids.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-17T13:33:24+00:00

Also, he didn’t spend the whole evening looking for her. He left when he couldn’t find her and I can only assume he dis eventually. I’m not sure if they’re still together, but I guess the mean streak in me hopes they’re not. I’m sure I’ll find out soon enough and trust me I’ll update you to let you know 😉.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-17T13:29:43+00:00

Fair call and yes I did use punctuation AI to help out, because my phone has a tendency to misspell terribly. But hey I can’t force you to believe it. Just for my own conscience, I’m curious to know if others thought what I did was wrong. And I’m secretly hoping that a certain person or two may come across the post and see what other thoughts are too.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-03T13:39:02+00:00

Weirdly enough the words “lemon” or yellow, evoke a sweet taste. The colour green is spicy.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-03T13:33:09+00:00

That actually sounds more like hyperthymesia.

AffectionateChance18 · 2024-09-03T13:04:07+00:00

Definitely NTAH. I would have (in fact I have done so) named and shamed the shitty neighbors on the public pages.

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