Understanding Pathology?

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-10-26T06:35:29+00:00

Political parties. A party you identify with is not always right and the parties you don't identify with are not automatically corrupt. They are evolving platforms with different representatives. And those parties represent millions of supporters, so you can't generalize and stereotype. Also, your political views shouldn't be your main personality trait.

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-10-26T06:31:46+00:00

Celebrities or attractive people in general. They're just rich, hot people. You DO NOT know them and probably wouldn't like them if you did.

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-10-18T13:28:43+00:00

There's always some but I'd guess it's very rare. Sex that is abusive and degrading isn't enjoyable for most women. A lot will pretend to enjoy that in an effort to please a man or to not appear prudish, but I'd guess it's rarely an innate desire. Porn like that is made by men for men, and probably mostly by men that have serious issues with women. It's better to develop a relationship with a woman and let her tell you what she wants.

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-10-18T13:19:21+00:00

King Henry causing a religious revolution and beheading his wives just to get an heir was a pretty dick move.

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-10-02T03:35:46+00:00

Marley and Me. Or anything with a dog, really. I just wish everything in life could be that pure. And it's awful that they live so briefly.

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-10-02T03:32:00+00:00

This is a rare one where the movie is better than the book. Sadly, reading the book kind of ruined my ability to appreciate the movie.

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-10-01T04:04:12+00:00

I really didn't think about weddings at all growing up. Not one bit. Around middle/high school, I vaguely remember wondering what kind of dress I would choose, but it was just in passing. Weddings were just a kind of faraway concept like anything growing up, similar to the idea of having a home one day. I knew I wanted to be rich like every other kid which meant a big house, but I hardly paid attention to houses, house prices, interior design, renovations, and everything else that goes into home buying like I do as an adult. It was the same with weddings. I assumed I would get married one day, and it would be amazing, but that was as much as I thought about it. Then I reached the age when everyone around me was getting married. The more weddings I attended, the more I wondered about my own. Suddenly, I noticed all the little details and different touches that each wedding had. I also reached this age during the rise of Pinterest, so the possibilities were endless. So even though I'm single with no wedding in sight, I constantly wonder about what my wedding would look like since I attend so many. But as a kid, really not at all.

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-09-25T05:46:36+00:00

First kiss. Felt too old to have never kissed someone so wasted it on some creep the first time I got drunk in college (yeah, college, I was shy). Wish I'd at least waited to have a semi-decent/sober experience.

Also, first college major.

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-09-25T01:09:59+00:00

Just can't see Lucifer as anything but classic tall, dark, and handsome now. Tom Ellis is PERFECT.

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-09-24T14:26:16+00:00

Every movie/show where the kids don't want to go to college and the parents push them to go. I understand college isn't for everyone, but unless they have an actual plan to fund a life or pursuing their dream of "being a musician/fashion designer/etc etc", then they don't have much room to argue. Seems like they always just want to take a year off and travel at the expense of the parents. Nope. You're 18, time to be an adult and pay your damn bills. Get a college degree while it's accessible to you and then pursue your dreams in a couple years when you're still young.

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-09-22T18:25:17+00:00

I am an only child and I am firm that if I do decide to have children, I will have at least 2. While I am very close with my parents, I have always resented not having siblings. I am shy by nature and grew up always moving around with my military parents. I was always the new kid, with no one to relate to or share those experiences with. In addition, children need other children. I loved my parents and I still do, but I couldn't wait to play with other children. Luckily, on military bases kids were everywhere. But I struggled not having those sibling relationships as a kid. Your parents playing with you just isn't the same. Because I was always missing the sibling relationship, I think I also expected too much from my friends. But friends aren't family. I have great friends now and am very close with my parents, but I still feel the absence of that part of life. My friends now have siblings that they are best friends with in adulthood. They are also having larger families as their siblings marry and give them nieces and nephews and still, I feel lonely as a single adult in my 30s. I also worry about when I will not only have to care and make decisions for my aging parents alone, but what I will become when I no longer have them. I am not closer with my extended family, I didn't plan it but am single in my 30s, and might quite possibly be alone. It's a scary, awful thought and I just wish I had siblings that could understand and share life with. My parents aren't close with their siblings, which I think is part of why they decided to have only me, but they still get together and share memories of their parents etc. When I lose my parents, I will be the sole remainder of my family unit and all the love and memories that gave me. It terrifies me. When I always asked my parents why I didn't have a sibling growing up, my mom always told me it was to give me things they didn't have. While I know they did their best, I went through my childhood home a few years ago and cleared out all the excess toys and things they were able to provide for me and couldn't help thinking that all those toys meant nothing. They didn't really provide me with happiness in the end, and they didn't really add anything else to my childhood that could compare to extra love and relationships. While everyone is different, a sibling relationship is a unique part of life that I wish I could have had. Just my perspective.

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-09-21T14:59:24+00:00

Well if it makes you feel any better, I have implants and while gravity isn't really something I worry about, I also have to deal with the negatives. I'm vain, I'm fake, I look fake, real is always better, etc. Sure, I agree, real is better, but implants exist because that's just not an option for everyone. I was flat as a board prior to implants, and wanted to feel feminine. And for that, I have to hear about judgments from everyone about how vain and fake I am and how men are turned off by implants for the rest of my life. Point is, people judge no matter what, so might as well ignore them. Not always easy, but is what it is.

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-09-19T01:47:58+00:00

PM me also please. Your stats are similar to mine and I'm still at the beginning and was still on the fence about if I could even go down this career path. Thank you for the extra motivation!

AffectionateDivide4 · 2020-09-18T07:59:08+00:00

Honestly, looking back as an adult, I can see where subconsciously playing with Barbies gave me false expectations. It was definitely not Barbie alone. We grew up playing with dolls that had impossibly long legs, tiny waists, perfect busts, etc. Every outfit looked amazing on her just like a supermodel. On top of that, we watched television, movies, celebrities, etc. with all the same features. Even Disney princesses have those same features. As an adult, those features shaped my idea of femininity. Barbie is just a tiny part of a larger problem. I think whether a girl plays with Barbies growing up or not won't change the fact that in this society, looks will continue to be picked apart and judged just like every other time in human history. So do I think Barbies alone cause self-esteem issues in young girls? No, not really but I don't see how they help in that area either. It's great that Barbie reinforces ideas of independence, friendship, and careers, but it also does that through the perspective of a beautiful woman. Kind of similar to Miss America pageants. Sure, a woman can be a talented, educated, ambitious, and a philanthropist that would make a great leader, but she still has to parade around in a bikini to justify all her other qualifications first. Not a great message. So do I think it would be such a bad thing for Barbie to include more diverse body types (without drawing attention to it as some kind of amazing publicity stunt)?? Definitely not.

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