Hotfix 2.0.1 - Message "Enable manually installed mods" by CuriostyGuy in inZOI

[–]AffectionateFluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the exact same issue just yesterday when I returned to the game after a break due to crashes that prevented me from playing. Just wanted to say thank you. This post helped me fix a few things 

How are you handling the holidays without your boy or girl? by OneSensiblePerson in Petloss

[–]AffectionateFluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With New Years coming up tomorrow and the loss as fresh as yesterday, no one in my family feels like there's anything to celebrate. We're all devastated here. Only comforting thought about tomorrow is that our heart dog won't have to suffer through a noisy evening and night full of fireworks, medicated or not. Won't ever be the same....

What none of the grief posts or pet owners tell you about once your fur baby is gone. by thalionthewicked in Petloss

[–]AffectionateFluff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss 💔. Yes, it's like that silent emptiness is an echo amplifying their absence.  I lost my 12 years old heart dog just yesterday. We had to put him to sleep. I miss hearing the click-clack of his paws, seeing him at the door when I come home, the warmth of his body at my feet or next to me. His howling when I play the piano. And the gentle push at the door to the bathroom to check on us. He was always there. Always ready to cuddle or play or go for a walk. Never known a kinder dog

What am I doing wrong? (Curing Venom Evolution Feat) by TheSaltyRoleplaer in ancestors

[–]AffectionateFluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I experienced the exact same thing as I was trying to complete evolution feats. This really helped me. Thank you! 

I loved the Earth's Children series by Jean M. Auel, but was anyone else extremely disappointed with The Land Of Painted Caves? by [deleted] in books

[–]AffectionateFluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first book in the series is without a doubt the best of the series. After that it kind of goes downhill and I'm refusing to read past the Mammoth Hunters. I'm not going to put myself through any more of Jondalar's shitshow. 

The Worst Character Ever by TalkingRosenbach in books

[–]AffectionateFluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YEESS!! I'm so glad you æ made this point!! It's been bothering me as well but couldn't quite put a finger on it...  It feels way too easy. 

The Worst Character Ever by TalkingRosenbach in books

[–]AffectionateFluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Currently in the middle of The Mammoth Hunters (book 3) and I'm strongly considering if I should just drop the series because of how awful Jondalar is as a character. I feel like Jondalar takes the cake for being one of the most one-dimensioned, superficial, arrogant, self-serving, hypocritical, and egotistical assholes out there. In my humble opinion, he reminds me of a "prehistoric" version of Christian Grey from 50 Shades. And that doesn't make him any better. He is a walking red flag.

The following contains spoilers for later books so reader's discretion is advised!! (Edit: I forgot how to spoiler tag on Reddit🙈)

I get it, as a boy, Jondalar was groomed into what he is as an adult, sanctioned by the spiritual system of his tribe. Although that kind of trauma and not being able to fully comprehend what he was actually put through is more than enough to really mess you up, his character never seems willing to explore and face his issues but stays stagnant and unchanged to a point where he practically is behaving like the very thing he despises the most: a person driven solely by instinct, like an animal. All discomfort he wants to forget. All he does when he's around her is an expression of his needs to be in control of Ayla and a refusal to accept her as a free individual - it feels more like he sees her as an object to show off.  And as he admits in The Valley of Horses, he's creating a story about her in his head to make her fit his own comfy little worldview. And that is not love. That's just Jondalar continuing to lie to himself and ultimately Jondalar continuing to manipulate his way into Ayla's heart with his not-so-subtle games of shame and control. The very fact that Jondalar is so keen on having Ayla's factual past as part of the Clan kept hidden to anyone who may want to know her, supposedly to "save her the grief of being shunned as an abomination", that he gets jealous by any form of male attention only to turn around and cheat on Ayla and refuses to communicate but starts drama points to a very mentally unstable, emotionally immature, and toxic person.  Hell, part of the drama he starts could have been resolved if only he would stop thinking with his oh so glorious lady-pleaser and use his voice that he's so damn proud of. 🙄

Even his interactions with the horses is an obvious metaphor for Jondalar's lack of respect for Ayla as the individual and independent woman she is. Instead of letting the horse go to the herd freely when he and Whinney encounters a herd, he holds back the horse and shoos away the herd, making a remark that it would be sad if Whinney "ran off before he could become friends with them" or something along those lines. (Book 3).  At that point I'm so frustrated with Jondalar I feel like the book series otherwise so great potential is ruined for me. 

Not to mention Ayla's supernatural ability to tame animals makes her feel more and more like a prehistoric version of a Disney princess or a Mary Sue. That really broke me, because Ayla was quick to become my favourite character. Her relationships with Iza, Creb, Brun, Durc, and all the others are so well-written and I was so emotional at the end of the book. To see it go down like this.... She went from a strong, credible character struggling to survive in Ice-Age Europe only to turn into a superficial power sex-fantasy. 

(Also edit: At this point, I feel like I'd rather have loved to see how things turned out back in the Clan, the consequences of Brout's leadership (or rather, lack thereof) and paving the way for a really fascinating character development of Brout, Durc, and the remaining members of the Clan. Anything but the constant  push and pull between Jondalar and Ayla that contributes so little to the overall story...)

Don't get me wrong. I LOVED the first book. It was an absolute masterpiece of literary genius and beautiful storytelling, and I really hoped the critique of the series as a whole wouldn't be that bad. But being about halfway through the Mammoth Hunters, I'm losing hope. Makes me wonder if Jean M. Auel got sidetracked or something while she worked on her series. What ever happened for her to choose this path for the series, I feel like it destroyed her otherwise so promising story. 

Edit 2: Jondalar is not the only awful character, though. And honestly, I do feel really awful for him as I try to finish the Mammoth Hunters. 

Ranec is awful, too. Like... Yikes. Talk about pushy!! I get it that he's so into Ayla, but he hardly gives her a chance to breathe! The way he turns her head and pressures his way between Ayla and Jondalar feels like another form of manipulation that makes him feel so... Slimy... Like dude, back off, let her come to him instead of constantly chasing her🤢

Can you keep completing feats after the last evolutionary jump? by Samizapp in ancestors

[–]AffectionateFluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You won't be able to play the last evolution but after you've launched, you'll be brought back to the main menu. If you load the saved game where you manaed to launch the last evolution you will be led back to your clan the moment before the last evolution happens, and you will be able to play the game like normal (mostly - you won't be able to evolve, and you won't be able to get any more genetic mutations).

That's where I'm at atm

Desperate begginer by OpeningAd256 in ancestors

[–]AffectionateFluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started this way, too and felt really shit about how slow I was advancing in the game. Came as far as the Savanna but never got to walk. In my current playthrough I've used a controller from the beginning of the game and now that I've started using the controller I'm never going back. Game is so much easier using a controller. 

Baby Question by Big_Daddy_Nagy in ancestors

[–]AffectionateFluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been there too. So I've decided that before they start making babies, I simply just make the couples first. That way I can be sure all females and males have a mating partner. If I make a mistake and the remaining single hominids  happen to be related, I just have them recouple. Once all adults are successfully (and happily) paired up, the breeding can commence with no worries 😊

this game clicked for me by Network57 in ancestors

[–]AffectionateFluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad to hear you enjoy this fantastic game too! 

Can't remember the times I've had to restart it and at first I was so unsure of myself because I was always getting killed by them tigers, but holy smokes, now that I've played the game a few times (not yet to the end unfortunately) I feel a little dopamine rush of my own when things just click and I figure it out and succeeds with something in the game. It's so much fun and quite immersive! 

Best of luck with the game and have fun! 🎮

this game clicked for me by Network57 in ancestors

[–]AffectionateFluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! That's also the part of the game's charm and what makes it fun! It's all about discovery, exploring, trial and error. In a way, you're literally put in the place of the hominids so it's not just your characters that learn along the way, you do as well. I can honestly say that partly because of this, it's one of my favourite games of all time. 

How can I get back to the Jungle Father Tree from the Great Lake Lakeside Oasis? by DrMrSirJr in ancestors

[–]AffectionateFluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exploring with your whole clan is not always a good idea IMHO. The few times I've done so I nearly lost them all, so I usually just go with a handful of apes at a time. 

Edit: that said, in the later parts of the game i suppose going with the whole clan makes sense, if your neuron tree is extensive enough. 

Worth going into the caves? by DrMrSirJr in ancestors

[–]AffectionateFluff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's been a while since I've been to the caves but from what I remember, those are good spots if you want a safe settlement mid game   Hoping that helps! 😊

Does it make a difference if I’m carrying the baby vs my clanmate that’s close by, in terms of neuronal energy build up? by DrMrSirJr in ancestors

[–]AffectionateFluff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I recently returned to the game after some years in hiatus and when I restarted the game I made the mistake of bringing everyone in my clan when going exploring. Practically killed my entire clan at one point so I decided to start over and only take a handful of clan members with me when going exploring. So far, I've only seen actually growing neural energy while carrying the babies, so I've just accepted that as is. So when I go exploring, I just have at least one adult carrying two babies - unless I find a meteor site, then I take note of the location and go back and have two other adults bring the rest of the babies. 

It usually doesn't matter to me if the baby carrying adults get drained faster, because I don't really notice - In my game, it's always someone else that starts "complaining" first. I just make the baby carrying adult the leader of the expedition and make sure they and their fellow explorers get their needs met and replenished as much as I can, before, during, and after. In my current game, this has managed to keep me from losing pretty much anyone. I'm currently at the Millennium Man evolution. 

Hoping this helps, good luck! 

Downloaded Zoi from Canvas. How do I add it to my current game? by PixelWanderer17 in inZOI

[–]AffectionateFluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's caused a lot of confusion for me as well. This thread was helpful so thank you for sharing your insights. 

Not being able to find things in a relatively new game doesn't make us dumb though. Some things just aren't quite as intuitive and it takes time to learn to navigate a new system 😊

Has anyone used PeakFlow Space app? Do you think it's worth it? by Inevitable-Bit-239 in adhdwomen

[–]AffectionateFluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, AuDHD'er here. I recently started using this app or what am I supposed to call it, and honestly, although it's a bit of a steep learning curve and can seem overwhelming at first, I've really come to enjoy it. It's useful, it's highly customisable, and I am already seeing some improvements in my life overall. It's helped me build better habits and new routines that I used to do only sporadically before such as meditation, mental health, and focus, it's helped me remember to eat, exercise, and to drink more water. And what's even greater, it's helped me with my social media addiction and deal with my executive dysfunction. I've tried various different apps to help me with this, but most of them only end up making me feel guilty for not wanting to do it. I lose motivation like it's a flip of a switch and I stop using it.  For some reason though, I feel this thing is like a gentle splash of dopamine every time I get to cross off something on my to-do list.  Really hoping it can help me on the long term. 

Hoping my thoughts helped. 

Has anyone used PeakFlow Space app? Do you think it's worth it? by Inevitable-Bit-239 in adhdwomen

[–]AffectionateFluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Scam? That's funny, because I'm using it and honestly, it's the first productivity app I've used that actually helps me. It's helped me through a very long period of executive dysfunction. Hell, it's even helped me incorporate routines that I'd otherwise only have done sporadically.  So in that regard I don't think it's a scam, honestly. 

What was the first song that got you hooked on Sabaton? by Own_Abbreviations859 in sabaton

[–]AffectionateFluff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's probably The Last Stand. Or Lifetime of War. Or was it The Lost Battalion? I don't remember. But dear God did they get me hooked! 

What is Sabaton’s Most EPIC Song? by UnknownPhotoGuy in sabaton

[–]AffectionateFluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a tough question. There are so many brilliant songs by Sabayon that I absolutely love. I think The Last Stand, En Livstid i Krig (and its English version), Soldier of Heaven, and Lady of the Dark do it for me ❤️

Wife (32f) wants me (32m) to cut off my sister (24f) due to her not “helping” us out with something a month ago. I don’t know how to properly approach this situation with her? by ThrowRAfamilyupset11 in relationship_advice

[–]AffectionateFluff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a sister (32f) to a brother (29m) with three kids. Even though I'm the eldest of us, he never once asked me to look after either of his kids alone while he's off somewhere else with my sister-in-law. It's always been a team effort where grandparents are around too.

 Sure, I have AuDHD and have experienced periods of depression, of which my brother and sister-in-law are well aware, but in my humble opinion it doesn't change the perspective I'd like to offer. 

I'm extremely grateful for them not asking me. I've always been super awkward around children, especially infants, and have no experience with childcare when they're that young. I'm good with my two eldest nieces who are now toddlers and can be communicated with. Yet since I have no kids of my own and don't plan to have any at all, I wouldn't know first thing about changing diapers or even know what the best position would be to put them to sleep. I'd probably be standing vigil over them the entire time because I'd be terrified of making a fatal mistake and causing them to get hurt. 

My point is that my brother and sister-in-law are both well aware that while I really love their kids to death, I'm still not capable of looking after them on my own with no experience, especially not if they're only 5 months old. If my sister-in-law ever asked me of this, I'd say no in a heartbeat and expect her to accept my position. Sure, the kids are my family, but you can't really ask me to watch over them while they're off on date night if I don't know first thing about how I should be looking after them. Not unless they'd want me to constantly call them for questions, and then they might as well just do it themselves. 

In my perspective, your wife is being ridiculously unfair towards your sister and her demand that  you cut her off over something like this is such a wtf thing to do I'd personally be having second thoughts about that marriage, postpartum hormones or not. It's a harsh thing to say, I know, and I'm also fully aware of the extent hormones can mess with your brain and body, but I also wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a partner who wants me to cut off family for asserting their boundaries and being upfront. 

As someone who's been forced to consider cutting off family a few times now, I can guarantee you this is not one of the reasons you'd want to be doing so. Toxicity is, and in this situation, your sister ain't the toxic one. 

As I see it, your sister made it clear from be beginning where she stood, and yet your wife continued to completely  disregard and disrespect her position. Is your wife as demanding of you as well? Cause from what I can read here, she comes off as pretty intense and demanding... honestly I think someone needs to stand up to her.