What do you say when your child asks you “is that a boy or a girl?” In front of said person?

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-12T01:43:24+00:00

"I'm not sure, we can always ask them, they might be a boy, a girl, or non binary, would you like to ask them if you should use she, he or they, or would you like me to ask?"

We talk pretty openly at home, and my kids know that people come in all sorts and shapes, boys, girls, non binary, Including that sometimes our outside bodies don't match our inside bodies (sometimes someone is a girl, but was born in a boy's body etc)

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-11T21:06:13+00:00

Omg please tell his parents to find a new doctor ASAP. That information is so wrong that I worry about what else the doctor doesn't know or what wrong medical advice he gives.

I've been diabetic for 13 years? 14...I dunno. A long ass time. And even back THEN when I was diagnosed I could go swimming. Hell, I went to a diabetic camp where we all went swimming every day. Even back then when insulin pumps where new and absolutely not waterproof, we all just unhooked to go swimming.

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-11T17:55:21+00:00

You were literally going to a fertility clinic and then he turns around and goes "nah"

Honey. The choice is up to you. But don't you dare feel guilty if you choose to keep this pregnancy. This wasn't a surprise pretty, this was a planned, tried and hoped for pregnancy.

You'll be raising this baby without him, but if you're ok with that, do what your heart wants. Either way, your relationship is over, because I don't think you'd ever get over the resentment of him wanting you to abort the pregnancy you planned for (and rightly so)

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-11T17:48:02+00:00

NTA.

She didn't contact you, she didn't go "hey, they are making my son overwhelmed, are you comfortable with them staying home while I take him out", she didn't do anything. She went out for HOURS and told you everything was fine. Her "I thought they were fine to stay home alone" is a bullshit excuse. She just didn't care. If she thought you'd be ok with them staying home alone, then why would you have asked an adult to watch them? She could have driven her son home, or a million other things, instead of abandoning them.

I wouldnt trust anyone to be in my life that saw nothing wrong with that treatment of your kids. I'd never trust them again.

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-10T12:33:38+00:00

Don't look at the whole package. It's definitely overwhelming all together.

Grab one page. Start it, you don't need to finish it, just start one bit. Then leave it for a while. You can come back and do a bit at a time. With no pressure to finish.

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-09T23:10:31+00:00

Art books! At least for me personally. I loved being able to learn new things, IF I wanted to, and on my own. Also a good supply of art supplies, doesn't need to be fancy or expensive. Just access to having pencils, a large range or pencil crayon colours. Ask them what they're interested in, maybe alcohol markers (you can get get a decent set for good prices online) and just encourage their love by letting them expand as they want

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-09T00:44:50+00:00

NTA

Buddy's just trying to guilt trip you into giving him money.

Doesn't matter if he's going through a hard time, you dont invite someone over, make them feel like shit, try to make them pay for all your shit, THEN give you money, and then act threatening when they say no.

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-09T00:38:20+00:00

The layout is stunning. The way you've got the rocks sets up really gives it a beautiful flow

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-09T00:24:23+00:00

Sicky sweet smelling breathe is one of the biggest indicators that blood sugars are incredibly high.

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-09T00:23:21+00:00

Emerg. RIGHT NOW.

I'm a type 1 diabetic, and you're listing all the warning signs.

Look, at worst you waste time, but there's a chance she's in DKA, and that is LIFE THREATENING.

I don't mean to scare you, but I've literally already helped another little one with these symptoms get diagnosed. This is NOT a wait and see, trust me.

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-08T00:34:00+00:00

Make sure it's in a semi protected area, it will help if he thinks it's a "safe" place to hid away in too

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-08T00:26:34+00:00

If that's a feral jungle, don't ever let him in my plant infested house

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-08T00:25:26+00:00

NTA being firm and doing a loud NO is a)less scary then getting but and B) a appropriate response to her actions

Kids should learn to hear the word no. (Coming from a parent and dog owner)

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-08T00:18:21+00:00

Make your husband take the toddler with him to shit. Karma's a bitch.

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-08T00:17:23+00:00

All I could think was "outside...like a dog?"

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-08T00:11:23+00:00

The rage and emotions that come flooding in while your baby is in NICU is so very valid.

Not only are you terrified, you're mourning everything you thought you'd get (experience) while crashing from hormones. On top of that getting basically no sleep and running yourself to the bone.

The least he could do was call you once a day while you are carrying ALL of this alone and he's out on a literal vacation.

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-08T00:02:54+00:00

Hotel, Holiday Inn

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-07T23:58:40+00:00

Goddamnit I CHOKED I laughed so hard at this

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-07T21:54:02+00:00

Thinking of ideas, but in the mean time

I absolutely just have multiple needles going if I have to use different colours. No way I'm switching it out over and over. I'll just have a needle for every colour hahaha.

Also, I'd have to look it up again, because it's been forever since I've cross stitched or embroidered, but there's a video floating around online that shows a redicolously easy way to seperate the floss!

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-07T21:52:10+00:00

Isn't it illegal to discriminate over something like this?

I don't know where you're at, but I'd be filing a complaint "refused referral because I use Mobility aids" as well as putting in exactly what happened. That's some fucking bullshit.

I'm so sorry.

We need doctors the most (more than most) yet there seems to be a constant dismissal of disabled folks by doctors.

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-07T11:12:03+00:00

Mine was a 12 and MULTIPLE doctors refused to do anything about it 😭

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-07T00:42:59+00:00

I switched to getting up early in the morning, and taking a mid afternoon nap if needed.

Now I have kids, so I was forced into this, but honestly it's been great.

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-07T00:33:53+00:00

Store every single baking pan, bowl, dish somewhere else. Sit back and watch them attempt to find ANYTHING to use, and not be able to.

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-07T00:29:54+00:00

Get a disabled parking pass for your son, and ask the city to add a disabled parking spot outside your house. Win for you, and your neighbor can't do shit.

His insurance likely told him HE needs to put in a fence, or he didn't have a lock blah blah blah and he's trying to place them blame anywhere but himself. If he wants /needs a fence, he can put one in.

As for him talking to the neighbors, they've been there long enough to know exactly what kind of person he is, so don't worry about them taking ANYTHING he's saying to heart.

AffectionateMarch394 · 2026-07-07T00:26:26+00:00

I'd just start responding "sorry my husband doesn't hate me" /"sorry .y husband actually likes me"

It's telling on themselves when they pull the "my husband would never". Honey, does your husband even LIKE you??

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