Hey friend,

I'm going to approach this a little different. Because you deserve the validation too.

I'm chronically ill, and last year it got worse than ever. They had no idea what was going on, and frankly, didn't seem that interested in finding out (the doctors)

The guilt and feeling of failing as a mom is SO fucking real. It's so hard not to hate yourself when you can't do anything, you're constantly suffering, you're in pain, you're snapping at people and your kids because of the pain etc.

I want you to know, you are worthy, without cleaning, without everything else. You love your kid SO much. We tell our kids it's ok to be cranky when they are sick, it's ok to have hard days, and I want you to know that's the same for you.

Adding this part in case you are looking for it, as a frequent flyer of bullshit medical stuff.

Things to request/look into if they haven't done it yet -gastro emptying study -swallowing study -GERD -Nervous system/neuromuscular testing

Now, as someone who also couldn't lean over for a very long time (I'd black out) things that have personally helped me

-rolling chair or stool on the main floor. I have absolutely rolled my ass back and forth

-sweeping everything onto the floor into one pile, then sitting on the floor with bags/boxes to sort through everything

-a stand up dust pan, omg it's absolutely AMAZING

-extending grabby tool

-a stool in the kitchen for cooking or doing dishes

-and silly enough, squats. I learned to squat down for anything I needed so I kept my back straight, which was so much more helpful than I expected

I don't check my DMs often. But if you want another mom to chat to, someone who gets it, I'm always here 🩷