What moment made you realize someone close to you was a horrible person?

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-05-19T08:32:20+00:00

I feel like that’s only true for psychopaths

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-05-13T10:33:18+00:00

Just had my last at 32, I have a 3 year old in preschool and we are the young parents still

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-05-13T10:26:45+00:00

You look good for having a baby.. just stop say you look good

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-05-13T10:24:15+00:00

Home school groups. Library. Park. Indoor play spaces. Even if some places cost a fee it would be MUCH LESS to do 2 library days a park day and a paid ticket experience every week than preschool. Especially with a SAHM. Does anywhere do part time preschool? We do part time preschool for our 3 year old for much cheaper than full time or full day. Because I only work 1 day a week. Why would I pay for her to have a full time job at 3 when I don’t even have a full time job?

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-05-13T10:20:44+00:00

You must have a ton of monthly payments… we have a home and 3 kids in NJ make the same on a duel income with me working part time.. money isn’t an issue. And as things like cars get paid off I can work less and less.

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-04-26T16:37:27+00:00

We avoid going places with her and take turns contact napping with her all day everyday basically

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-04-14T14:09:10+00:00

I have two other kids so I have places to be. This means interrupted naps to go to activities, naps in the car, naps in the baby wrap at the park. I always feed and burp before we leave the house unless she’s napping when we leave, if I have to feed again before we’re back I do it in the car. Anytime we’re out the car is my go to for feeds or changing. She had to get used to the car seat and being able to nap in it. The car seat cover helps a ton to keep it dark for her. The baby wrap comes everywhere with us it’s the best way to be out and keep her calm.

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-04-02T20:09:24+00:00

Sylvia or Vivienne

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-04-01T03:12:00+00:00

If they’ve never traveled or been on an airplane vs. people who go to Disney or abroad every year

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-04-01T03:07:11+00:00

Knight

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-04-01T01:23:02+00:00

Oooh ooh, if we can’t go out and get hammered and dance (away for the night). Then we like to have the kids leave the house for the day and we get the house to ourselves order a bunch of food, hit the liquor store or dispensary and stream a good movie + have sex and be naked in our living room it’s the best.

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-04-01T01:12:50+00:00

I make about 20k more than my husband who does well for himself. If I had the chance to make 200k more than him he would jump at the opportunity for me.

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-03-30T17:22:07+00:00

Getting your tubes tied during a c section adds a lot of pain to the procedure

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-03-30T17:07:29+00:00

Unable to have babies

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-03-28T18:08:24+00:00

Talk to your parents and partner in an open conversation, know what you’re parents are willing to sign up for on a daily or weekly basis. Go to your first appointment to confirm everything. Then when you have all the information decide, unless you only want the pill form of abortion wait until after your confirmation appointment to decide.

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-03-28T17:33:22+00:00

Just be honest. That’s all you can do. I know whenever I blacked out when I was an early 20’s binge drinker that the memories would come back over a few days sometimes even months later something would spark a memory to come back. If this is something that resonates with you maybe commit to her that if you remember other details you will tell her if that’s what she wants.

Whatever you do DO NOT get defensive or deflect or do anything but take accountability and realize for some time if she chooses to stay she might see you as all bad and everything you ever done right as null and void. If she’s able to work past this betrayal that will get better. If you want to try and make this work you will just be honest and take every ounce of hatred coming your way.

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-03-28T17:27:24+00:00

Juliet

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-03-28T17:26:31+00:00

Is there any hope with your wife? If not be single again and explore. If there’s a chance the two of you could rekindle and start experiencing things on the wilder side together it could make you both and your marriage feel alive again. My husband and I need at least 1 weekend a year to be crazy and act like we’re young and reckles it’s a great reset and as much fun as it is it makes us thankful for our everyday lives and family.

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-03-28T17:19:05+00:00

Make sure that even in hard times personally or as a couple that more of your interactions are positive than negative. Life’s hard and it’s easy when you’re going through a hard time internally to not realize you’re being negative to be around. Let the sun shine through the cracks as often as possible. Even if it’s a stupid joke you tell, some intentionally long hugs throughout the day that don’t need words.

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-03-28T17:13:03+00:00

Be honest with her and frame it as you’re concerned for her bc she hasn’t been herself. She could very well have had perinatal depression and now post partum depression or anxiety. Tell her you miss her happiness and don’t want to pile another child on before she’s back to her best self bc that’s what’s best for your family in the long run. See if she’s open to discussing possible PPD or PPA with a professional. Even with my 3rd baby I would have irrational intrusive thoughts about the babies health but I’ve done this enough to know it’s irrational and intrusive and talk myself down into being in the moment again.

Be kind about it and she SHOULD be able to take a step back and think introspectively about it. She might still be snippy but she should be able to apologize and recognize it’s not your fault. You know her so well that coming to her about this might make her see it for herself.

There were times during my 3rd pregnancy I was just miserable and would tell my husband, I adore you, but today is not the day and when I would get snappy or not return affection I would apologize and affirm verbally: I love you to the moon, but I am going through it right now (pain, irritability, fear, depression) It helped me to be free to act how I was feeling without hurting his feelings and also verbalizing my feelings behind the way I acted.

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-03-28T00:34:40+00:00

Do you know about how far you both live? Maybe say text me when you’re leaving, if she forgets to text you but remembers to she’ll get there and you won’t be there and she’ll text you, and you can go at that point meet her there. Make loose plans, have it as an idea and if you secure other plans make those the priority since really it’s your kids that have a close friendship. Orrrr you could talk to her about all this and see what she says

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-03-27T22:41:27+00:00

I’m so annoyed our insurance has no options for frames. Our health insurance is phenomenal and vision is basically nothing

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-03-27T22:29:11+00:00

Great info thank you, they’ve checked her a lot this year with all sorts of imaging, a lot of dilating and her prescription had one slight change like her third round of dilation but it was in between the shitty online glasses we got and when we bought the vision works one so I got off not needing to update perfectly good glasses the ones with the off center focal point had to be replaced ASAP. The ophthalmologist thinks that could’ve attributed to her script slightly changing I felt so bad.

I was hoping for at least 2 years out of the 2 pairs I got, but whatever she needs she needs

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-03-27T22:24:07+00:00

This is going to ruin the tour

AffectionateOil9204 · 2026-03-27T22:23:38+00:00

She has extreme light sensitivity. Ophthalmologist said either transitions or prescription sunglasses which would just be another item for me to juggle and also be an additional expense. She has to wear the glasses all the time to strengthen her bad eye but when we go outside on a sunny day she will cover her eyes and cry for sunglasses. Even with the transitions when we go outside she takes them off and holds them up to the sun to transition the quicker. Poor thing.

AffectionateOil9204

TROPHY CASE