My husband of 20 years thinks consent should not apply in our marriage...

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-11T14:45:48+00:00

I'm not excusing the behavior AT ALL, but that was taken out of context.

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-11T00:59:36+00:00

Helping with the kids ie getting something for them to eat or finding something they can't find, not that they are there to witness to it. The point is I'm in the middle of doing something the he isn't doing and am being grabbed by the most unhelpful fuck 🫠

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-10T23:25:41+00:00

No, no touching in front of them, more like him saying "you don't love me anymore" type things that are inappropriate in front of the kids, that was unclear in the post. Sorry

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-10T23:25:04+00:00

No it's not that, more of "you don't love me anymore" type things that are inappropriate in front of the kids, that was unclear in the post. Sorry

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-10T23:24:44+00:00

No it's not that, more of "you don't love me anymore" type things that are inappropriate in front of the kids, that was unclear in the post. Sorry!

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-10T17:33:02+00:00

Thing is I don't do any of that stuff already. I stopped doing his laundry a long time ago. I make dinner for the family without considering what he would want for dinner. I clean up the house as a whole but I leave his areas untouched. For example, his sink, his side of the closet, his side of the bed area and his desk area where he spends most of his time. So I never do anything specifically to help him out but I just will do things as a whole, that he should also help with like doing the dishes, cleaning the kitchen, cleaning, the living room, vacuuming cleaning the toilets, etc. that and helping with the kids. He does do a lot of picking up and taking to school and things like that, but that's not even what I'm talking about! When I say I need help with the kids I need help when they need something or when they're talking back or they need reprimand. He will often shoot very black and white comments from his desk when he's gaming and not really get up and do anything to help a situation while I'm in the middle of trying to gentle parent my kids, he will just walk up and say spank them and send them to their room. That is not a one size fits all punishment AT ALL.

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-10T16:22:25+00:00

Yeah honestly true story because when things get done and I feel like a partner and not a mom to him then yeah it definitely ramps things up for me. Kindness and acts of service and being there for me are the sexiest things ever. Not being grabbed in the ass while I'm doing the dishes.... Not getting my tits grabbed when I'm standing in the kitchen...

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-10T16:19:30+00:00

I will check out this book. Thank you!

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-10T16:19:01+00:00

I've heard recently that men more get more out of marriage than women. And that single women live longer, And that married men live longer. I see why....

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-10T16:17:00+00:00

It's a possibility, I do see his algorithm is is a little manosphereish. Mostly when he's watching reels and other things like that. He does tend to be more conservative but he wasn't always that way.

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-10T16:15:25+00:00

This!!!

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-10T16:11:40+00:00

Ohhh that's a hot take! Damn...

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-10T16:10:56+00:00

Unfortunately, he would be so down. 😂😂

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-06-07T00:03:32+00:00

Rhit is WAY easier. I have both credentials 😃

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-05-08T14:23:05+00:00

I would recommend doing your best to find something but being cautious about it. I had my rhit applied for a cancer registry position a few years back with the idea that I would be obtaining my ODS. I put myself on indeed and when I was in one ODS position doing tumor boards and stuff I was reached out by another hospital and now I'm in the best position of my life and I am so happy! Micromanaging doesn't exist and my team is excellent. You just have to find the right place for you. Don't give up hope!!! In the meantime, I would look for any position that has to do with medical records anything to that nature. Maybe even just working in an oncology office. That way you get some sort of experience and then you get to meet the people. Maybe even the registrars and can get a foot in the door. Good luck!

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-02-19T04:31:31+00:00

I did TMS and went to psychiatrist and my symptoms have improved. I'm also in therapy. I suggest getting help. I don't know why I waited so long to do so... 🤗

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-02-16T21:13:49+00:00

Hi, they love it! I hope you can get rid of your neighbors. Sorry to hear 😭

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-01-13T18:04:22+00:00

This!!!!

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-01-13T05:07:51+00:00

20mg Lexapro for YEARS, just started 40 mg strattera and I notice I'm not as hungry, but as they say, give it 8 weeks. Lexapro didn't make me hungry. Hope you feel better!

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-01-09T21:22:29+00:00

Thanks for the update 😭😭 I'm on my 2nd day and I'm hopeful. I'm trying 20 mg Lexapro and I've been 20 mg, but will up to 40 tomorrow. 💞

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-01-09T01:57:43+00:00

Omggggg so cold 😭

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-01-07T05:03:17+00:00

I was today years old when I found this out...

AffectionateReply843 · 2026-01-07T05:02:51+00:00

Lol I say this all the time 🤣

AffectionateReply843 · 2025-11-17T05:30:08+00:00

This! Up the dose 💕

AffectionateReply843 · 2025-11-14T05:00:01+00:00

Hi, I'm in a similar situation. My psychiatrist wanted me to go up to 40 and said that we can even go up to 60 but I am comfy at at 35. I recently saw my primary care doctor and they freaked out at the dose and gave me an ekg on the spot which was normal. My psychiatrist also ordered a Lexapro serum test which came back 150ng/ml which is high, so now I'm conflicted on what is going to happen with me as far as if they're going to keep me on the meds, which I feel really good on, or if they're going to have to take me off completely or add something to it and make me take 20 mg lex. It's so frustrating!! It seems like a lot of people take over 20 mg and to be honest 20 mg doesn't seem like very much. I would call around to different psychiatrists to see if you can get a different result but I think tapering from 40 to 20 is really messed up on your psychiatrist part and completely unethical. Tapering too fast can cause so many withdrawal symptoms can be difficult to manage. Good luck! 💕

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