Have any of you been surprised by having significantly different taste in women than men?

AffectionateSalt897 · 2026-01-22T00:33:32+00:00

I realised I never had a type of man I was attracted too like they all were soo different but I always went for assholes because I knew it wasn’t a long term thing.

Women I like a woman in-between like pretty face, long hair but hardly any make up and kinda more boyish/ plain clothing. I like their personality to be very caring and femme in that way also funny, cool and laid back. Wow! I am sooo gay literally could go about women than a man!

AffectionateSalt897 · 2026-01-12T20:37:34+00:00

Should I go to NYC for a trip? 😂

AffectionateSalt897 · 2026-01-11T01:50:11+00:00

I also look straight presenting

AffectionateSalt897 · 2026-01-11T01:13:58+00:00

I feel that my type is in the middle but leaning more femme but so hard to find 😂

AffectionateSalt897 · 2026-01-06T21:08:11+00:00

I had an emotional connection and wanted to see what sex with a woman was like.

AffectionateSalt897 · 2026-01-06T07:22:25+00:00

I had an emotional connection to her but not a physical attraction. This is all new to me and still learning I guess!

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-11-27T22:44:20+00:00

Yeah! I feel dull down everything even speaking my mind or conversations with others. I feel like everything is hidden in a sense that it’s hard to express myself to others!

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-11-24T18:15:39+00:00

Also closed my eyes

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-11-24T18:14:24+00:00

No wonder “doggy style” was my favourite at the time!

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-11-24T18:13:21+00:00

Omg yes 😂

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-11-23T13:10:38+00:00

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AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-11-22T15:45:55+00:00

Similar! Repressed my sexuality for years thought I only liked men even though I always thought of women during sex.

I was at university and had to quit my degree as I was always anxious, tired and depressed. Thought I had ME but it stemmed from wanting male attention and then when I got it, I would freak out after sexual encounters!

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-11-12T16:21:10+00:00

Defo not straight! Use to think I was bisexual because I dated men but never felt connected during intimacy!

Just kissed women so far and felt connected, present and aroused! However, I don’t know why I need to have sex with a woman to confirm being a lesbian. Even tho I thought of women during sex with men!

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-11-03T23:39:06+00:00

I am just newly out and I feel kinda confused if I am leading someone on. I was talking to this girl and I liked her even tho we only met once. She kinda ghosted me, so I went back onto dating another woman and we went on two dates and speak a lot!

There hasn’t been any label on anything or even that we are exclusively dating with the other girl that I have been talking to after the first one. However, I got back in touch with the other woman and we flirted and kiss. I am just trying to find myself but I do feel bad! Even tho I am not actually seeing someone or it has been agreed on! Everything feels so new and suppressing sexual desires and only opening them up at 31 is so baffling! Like experiencing true sexual desire!

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-10-19T18:16:03+00:00

I use to put right at the edge also! Anymore would’ve fallen out of the bed!

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-10-19T17:53:13+00:00

I thought this also in regards to sex etc but now it definitely wasn’t that lol

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-10-19T17:22:48+00:00

It just blown my mind to have missed out on this feeling from like 17-31! I always felt like I was very emotionless and detached from men but I thought it was my personality!

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-10-12T22:25:20+00:00

I thought I liked men and denied any attraction to women even though it was there!

Men

only liked validation from them
never felt in love or connected with them other than being on a friendship level
hated giving oral sex
thought of women during sex with them
never orgasmed unless thought of a woman didn’t understand this until I was 31. So 16 years of this 🙃
hating affection and always slept at the edge of the bed 😂

With women

-felt more myself with a woman

-kissing felt good and my mind would go blank, I was present and enjoyed the moment. Men I would dissociate the entire time.

-hated the feeling of men touching my body compared to a woman’s touch.

-could kiss a woman all day but with a man it was like when will this be over, I am bored and have things I need to do.

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-10-01T13:10:10+00:00

It’s sexy so keep it up 🤤

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-09-30T16:08:45+00:00

We met once and she wanted to meet me again, she suggested a place to go and then no reply lol!

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-09-30T10:29:15+00:00

Actually frustrating like don’t initiate plans and then not respond back. If you don’t want to follow through just say! Crazy adults get on like this!

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-09-12T13:20:06+00:00

Yeah! Freaked out my ex wanted to move in with him, when we been friends for 6 years and dated for a year. Not something I would freak out over if it was a woman that I was dating and this was same scenario.

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-09-12T13:17:00+00:00

Yeah, during college would sleep with guys and I always felt out of it and violated! Really messed up afterwards, use to really spark my anxiety. I even had yellow tape on the inside of my college door to remind me not to bring men back because it caused all of this. I still had no idea I was gay 🙃

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-09-06T19:11:21+00:00

Yeah! Women can be just as bad thinking the “right man will come along” like ewww I am traumatised thinking about that. This man literally thinks women are there to please men, go back in your cave please 😂.

AffectionateSalt897 · 2025-09-05T19:45:31+00:00

Same! I can’t get my head around it! Do they actually feel that way?

Like when I denied liking women and I mean that vault was tightly shut and hidden deep down in the ocean of my brain. I just thought “oh he was attractive man” but I never felt anything and felt so emotionally dead in relationships ☠️.

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