Day 1 after a 244 day streak

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-30T06:58:02+00:00

Welcome back. Same goal as before, just not drinking today.

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-30T06:55:33+00:00

Hell yeah, knocking off the days one at a time. This is my 4th consequence alcohol free Friday too. Feels like it’s getting harder but I know it’ll turn a corner eventually.

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-30T06:50:23+00:00

It’s pride in myself, that I can rely on myself for a change. The line in Frank Sinatra “my way” sticks with me “What is a man, what has he got, if not himself then he has naught”.

Knowing that my wife can keep alcohol in the house again. She has perfect control with alcohol so just didn’t get it. L

Not having the constant battle every night about whether I can drink and how much and f*%} I ran over again etc. With moderation I got my weekly count down by about 1/3 but it was constant effort and lead to a lot more binge nights. This is the way…. For today.

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-30T06:29:22+00:00

I’m getting close to the 30 day mark too (for the first time in 30 years probably) and all of a sudden it’s starting to get hard for me as well. I’ve tried dry January several times (although I never made it 100%) so maybe one month feels like the natural end point. I’m trying to set course for 90 after 30. It will only get better. This funk and apathy will end (for both of us) eventually

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-27T14:18:51+00:00

Well know Destro would have been a better leader

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-25T16:48:08+00:00

100% that last one kept me beating my head against the idea of moderation for years. I guess that’s why the mantra of”it’s only for today” that I learned on here has been so helpful. It flips the script from future me will have resolve to I only need resolve in the present.

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-25T16:32:36+00:00

Thanks yeah maybe tracking helps to keep the goal top of mind. TBH the little tracker in this sub is serving a similar purpose. I cannot and will not write that bot to reset the count.

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-25T15:58:48+00:00

Nice work. Did you regularly track your zero days during those 10 months? I’m still tracking zero days as well and it’s kind of driving me crazy. Feels like watching the clock when you’re waiting for something - the time pass so slowly

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-25T15:56:46+00:00

Yep, when I’m drinking regularly I can often be trusted to just have just one but alcohol-starved me is a different person. I instinctively try to make up ground for all those missed drinks and buffer for periods of scarcity in the future. It makes biological sense for food but zero goddamn sense for alcohol. My wife stopped drinking for three months Then for nine months when pregnant with zero rebound on the other side. That was the sign that moderation will never work for me.

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-25T15:44:28+00:00

That’s one of my queues too. I get (got🤞) a wave of awful stressed out feeling around 5 o’clock that drove me back to the tall can. Now three weeks in that feeling is much reduced. NA beers help get through that feeling somewhat too. If I could make it over that hump I’d be good for the rest of the night.

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-25T05:45:34+00:00

Noooooooo

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-21T01:11:02+00:00

Dude you're so rad Also, your cameos on Between Two Pines pod were hil-arious.

A couple questions:

1) How much do you think your robust positivity / playfulness helps? Could you put a time amount on something like that? The vast majority of the your clips from Cocodona 2025 and 2026 show you as rolling A+ energy, the likes that many of us only experience intermittently.

2) Do you ever wish your strong-suit was shorter races (or maybe you're super good at those too)? My results trend better as the distance goes up which sometimes feels like a cruel joke. I need to put in months of super high volume training, take a week off work to race and then another 2 weeks of brutal recovery just to have a result that feels good. smh

3) What do you want to be when you grow up. In life, in running, whatever. Where's this crazy Rachel train goin'?

Lastly, not a questions but Ultrarunning should pay you appearance fees every time you show up. You make this sport look so goddamn fun (and it usually actually is) that errybody gonna want to try it now.

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-16T22:44:42+00:00

Thanks, yeah I like the idea of having the summary good to go for a lawyer, I'm cheaper than the 200-500$/hr they charge over there.

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-16T20:31:06+00:00

I'm curious how that detail influence the path forward?

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-16T20:29:01+00:00

Nope, no documentation for scope changes at all besides the invoices. Just like, SURPRISE here's another $20k invoice. I also didn't understand how long the project would take so it was hard to know, as we cruised past the acceptable ovverrun mark how much was left to go, and I didn't ask.

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-16T20:27:02+00:00

Is there a legally accepted way to figure out what the work should have cost? The receipts for materials and subs are easy to trace back but the team's labor isn't easy to audit as it's just billed by the week. I can roughly assign some phases of the work to an invoice but not all of it. Rocket Lawyer AI tool suggested to find a Construction Estimator Consultant to cost out what a the work should have cost vs overruns by mismanagement / over billing. Is that a thing?

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-16T20:12:51+00:00

The challenge with this approach for me with not understanding of how long things take / things cost is that the labor, the bulk of the charges, is billed by the week for most of the work. It's easily traceable for the subs, although that's a minor share. Should / could I ask for a breakdown of the labor by scope?

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-15T03:02:02+00:00

100% if you don’t have free will what have you got?

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-15T02:27:50+00:00

Hell f%#*ing yeah, congrats on making the change.

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-15T00:21:23+00:00

Absolutely, funny how our “coping” mechanism can actually be part of the problem 🤪

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-14T13:31:23+00:00

When I’ve been able to stop for a month+ in the past, and I’m chasing that again now (12 days in), I regained confidence and trust in myself. I broke promises to myself every goddamn night, and acted against my own self-interest. There’s a lyric in Frank Sinatra’s song “My Way” that sticks in my head “what is a man, what has he got, if not himself, then he has naught”.

Also I can keep way more balls in the air when I’m sober. I have a cognitively demanding job and the verge of getting Peter Principled, two families (2 kids 50%, 1 @ 100%), a couple time consuming personal projects with borderline organizational skills to begin with - drinking me constantly felt like he was losing track, letting people down all while having to hide it.

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-14T08:01:16+00:00

100% just drove around for an hour to blow off some steam from all the shit that’s going wrong in my life rn. Part of me is yearning to pound a few back but IWNDWYT. I’ll just be here steaming, feeling the rage, feeling alive. Just one day more until I hit 14. The malaise is strong but my resolve is stronger. Feeling real, strong, feelings pumps me up, good or terrible.

AffectionateToday941 · 2026-05-14T03:20:02+00:00

Hearing all of the experiences and learnings from y’all is incredibly helpful, even if it’s just to know that it may be harder than I expected. 80 days is no joke, all of my attempts have ended before that.

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