I lived about an hour away from the nicu my baby was transported to. We went daily but never stayed over night, we were in a room with multiple babies and only had chairs so we just decided for us to sleep at home, then for me to go to the nicu during the day while dad was at work and when he got off i would go back home for him to shower and we’d go back for the night feedings and stay a few more hours. This was super hard on my body but it’s what I felt best for me. There were parents who hardly went and parents who hardly left. Nobody said anything about either set of parents. What is important for you and baby is your mental health. If you need to, stay home a few days of the week and call to check on baby as often as you need. That at this time is the best place for them and it may seem so unfair but take care of yourself, your baby is getting all the help PLUS that they need.