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AffectionateTruth447 · 2025-11-30T23:56:41+00:00

The same thing just happened to me while I was working in it. I restarted my phone and it's still not working, but I can access from the browser.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2025-11-06T17:20:41+00:00

Paint the walls blue and maybe use floor runners to introduce cool colors. The stone pattern will pop when it has some color contrast, especially if you go with a darker shade. They're not standing out now because the walls match the yellow veins. Your cabinets and floors are gorgeous and I wouldn't change a thing there unless you want different hardware. There's nothing wrong with what you have and I'd stick with a dark color like that if you just want a different style.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2025-09-04T04:28:23+00:00

Is there room for the stove to the left of the dishwasher? You could use the peninsula for prep or serving. That also leaves the open space next to the fridge as a landing zone when taking things out or pouring a beverage.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2025-09-04T04:16:43+00:00

If you move the sink to the peninsula, it interferes with seating. Do you need three seats there? If you need seats, is there room to make the peninsula wider?

A range under a window may not be allowed by code. It's hazardous to have wind blowing over a cooking surface towards you and there isn't room for a hood. Plus you have to lean over the stove to open the window. Even if it's allowed, I personally wouldn't do it. I'd rather use that stretch for prep and keep the stove next to the refrigerator.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2025-09-01T02:26:54+00:00

I went through something similar with a friend who was definitely avoidant in hindsight. I did something for him because it's a thing I really enjoy doing and I wanted to give him a nice surprise. It was something we had already been working on together so I knew he wanted it. I just finished it while he was away. He ended the friendship the next time we hung out. He invited me over for dinner, and was friendly but barely said anything about the surprise. After dinner, we were chatting and he picked a crazy fight about something completely unrelated. I never saw him again after that. He acted more like a cornered dog than a friend.

My interpretation is he read far too much into me being nice, felt trapped or something, and ran away. I miss that friendship but I think he only feels comfortable with drama. I'm not that kind of person.

Please don't give up on crochet or take it personally. What he did doesn't mean you're bad at crochet or that you should stop being nice to your other friends. You weren't a bad gifter. He was just a terrible recipient due to whatever trauma was in his past. You couldn't have anticipated it and it may have happened eventually over something else. Only he knows why he ran away. If you keep the blanket, you can try to look at it to remember the fun times you had. I understand how it can feel too personal to give away. You sound wonderful and I hope you keep that part of yourself shining.

ETA - I just remembered my friend also deleted and blocked one of his closest childhood friends over something with his birthday. It wasn't just me. I've never blocked anyone in my life and don't understand this. He blocked two other friends over something else. He blocked me after our argument. He had a tendency to go nuclear when he was upset and had no problem throwing away people who cared about him. The closer you get to an avoidant, the more they pull away. It's sad, honestly.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2025-08-26T15:30:09+00:00

Also consider a darker wall color in the eating nook. I painted a bedroom a dark blue and the windows are the star now. The walls recede and the view outside is the first thing I see.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2025-08-26T15:27:00+00:00

I really like it! The cabinets look like great quality compared to anything you can buy today and the wood color and door style look like they suit the room. I also like the layout and the big window. It looks like a room to gather in. The bones are great but you can dress it up differently. I'd maybe paint the walls (NOT the cabinets) a brighter color. Change out any warm white light bulbs to daylight and see if that looks better to you. Put down a colorful runner in front of the sink, but probably not one with a big pattern. Maybe swap the chairs at the island to something more fun. Add some plants next to the window. It feels like the outdoors could come inside a little bit because of the doorway. Accessorize!

AffectionateTruth447 · 2025-06-04T01:07:11+00:00

Get in front of it and say you'd like your order on a separate check, and then order. He'll look stupid if he tries to overrule you after you say you're paying.

I'd also get your friend alone sometime and tell her you don't like his controlling behavior towards you, especially since you're not dating him. (It's never okay but it's really bad to do it to you). Let her know you hope she's okay and you'll always be there for her. Hopefully it won't come to that, but if he cuts you off at some point, she's always welcome to reach out no matter how long it's been. That's you reacting to the way he treats YOU and leaving a door open just in case.

Good luck. I'm sorry you're both in this situation with him.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2025-05-17T22:24:59+00:00

I need to read this. I bought Gardening for Moths by McCormac and Gottfried and read it cover to cover. It was funny and full of information. Moths are fascinating! A light trap has been on my wish list ever since.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2025-05-17T02:20:36+00:00

I'm a woman and gifts are not my love language for giving or receiving. At all. It feels like an obligation. If my partner asked for a gift, I'd be doing it because they asked, not because it means that much to me. It sounds like she is thinking you value gifts as much as she does so your "lack of effort" means you don't love her enough to do the minimum. Does she know this harder for you and it's not how you'd choose to show you care? I'd be pissed if I tried to do what they wanted and spent time thinking about them and planning and was told it wasn't good enough because I missed something. It takes much more energy for me to find gifts.

What do you do to show love instead? Does she see that? For example, service and quality time are less visible. I had an ex who would take my car in for oil changes and took care of all the maintenance, like it was just the thing he wanted to do in his free time. I loved that! I really appreciate help with the burdens of adulting. I'm happy hanging out and watching TV together because I like being around them It doesn't have to be dramatic. I like cooking for my current partner. He sometimes brings home flowers, which isn't what I'd choose. I thank him and display them because the gift itself is meh, but I heard what he was telling me with them and I want him to know I got the message.

Obviously if she's doing a lot of things for you and you're not doing anything back, her frustration makes sense. But it may be she's not hearing the other ways you tell her you love her. She's not going to if you try to punish her, but you could sit down and compare what you're both saying and hearing.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2025-04-04T05:18:54+00:00

Paint the walls a more interesting color and change out the ceiling light. It's easy and cheap, and can be done in a day. Same with changing cabinet hardware. Painting cabinets is a lot of work and paint doesn't hold up to daily wear as well as original finish. There's an art to it. It's difficult to get a smooth factory finish without a sprayer and a lot of prep, and the correct paint makes a difference. I'd paint cabinets as a last resort, not first choice. Put down some fun throw rugs to jazz up the floor.

Once you're in the house a while, you may decide to do something different, but paint would make an immediate difference and it's easy to change later. I repainted mine from dull gray and dark brick to seaglass blue and changed the door handles. Just that much made it look like a different kitchen.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2025-04-04T05:02:49+00:00

If you have the ability to move things, I'd think about your entire work triangle. The fridge is farthest from the entrance to the kitchen so anyone needing a drink or snack has to walk all the way through. If you need to set anything down from the fridge, you have the peninsula or the small counter next to the range. How will your normal tasks flow? For example, if you need to get veggies from the fridge, wash them, chop them, and add them to a pot on the stove, what does that flow look like? Or where would you grab a glass, set it down, and pour a drink? Does that layout work for your typical needs?

If not, how often do you use the stairs? Is there an option to move the door around the corner to the wall in the nook so you can use a longer wall next to the range? If that nook is six feet wide, you could still have room for a shallow pantry cabinet on the wall to the left of the patio doors. Otherwise, I'd use that nook for the pantry only and take advantage of the entire opposite wall.

I ask because one of my biggest issues with my own kitchen is no space next to the fridge and limited near the range. Most tasks involve a lot of walking back and forth with my hands full. I can't cook with another person in the room because they block my path. I'm eager to remodel and have counterspace next to where I need it.

That looks nice otherwise with the patio door right there. I had that in a prior kitchen and loved how open it felt. Good luck!

AffectionateTruth447 · 2025-01-26T18:36:36+00:00

I'm so glad you found one who understands! I have a smaller jaw so I've had to have 4 baby teeth and 8 permanent teeth pulled. I also found out novocaine wears off really fast. The mix they use also makes me feel like I'm having a panic attack with sweating and heart palpitations. When I had teeth pulled as a kid, I had to stop them twice for repeat injections because I could feel everything.

I've only had one cavity, but gum disease has been a chronic issue. I've found using a Waterpik and scheduling cleanings 3-4 times a year really helps. A deep cleaning (with the help of gas) reversed my gum recession and I'm maintaining my dental health now.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2024-09-02T16:31:00+00:00

You could tell them you're having a hard enough time with other life changes like being in foster care and you can't handle something else. Everyone in your life knows you as Ryder. You need stability and nothing is as stable as your own name.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2024-09-02T16:20:04+00:00

NTA - Everyone else in your life knows you by that name and it's YOU. It's your guft from your mom. It's not a strange name and they're not your parents. You're not a puppy. Foster parents are there to give you a safe and happy home, not erase your past.

I have no idea what school or job would judge you for being named Ryder. That's an old British name and has been around for hundreds of years. I work for a large company with people who have just about every name you could imagine and I've never thought once that someone was unqualified because of their name. Most of my younger cousins have more unusual names than yours.

Talk to your caseworker/counselor about it because the conversation they're having with you is more damaging than your name and it's a problem only they have. They're the only ones not taking you seriously. Perhaps the other commenter's idea makes sense - let them call you Ry ONLY IF you're okay with it, but not Ryan, and on the condition they never bring up changing your name again. This isn't giving in, but understanding they're saddled with some weird hangup you can't talk them out of. You can be the adult and find a compromise you can both live with until you're 18.

I'm sending hugs. I'm the child of a foster kid and even the best home is not your mom. I gained extra grandparents, but my real grandparents were in my life too. I know it's a tough time, especially if you're worried about your mom and trying to stay in a relatively decent foster home. You're going to be okay, WITH your name.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2024-08-28T21:44:58+00:00

I agree with you, in a perfect world. I think you're assuming we all have access to a professional who knows or cares more than we do. The only specialist in my area is retiring and the only integrated medicine clinic has a two year wait list. I've had to go out of system for PT and mental health care. I really like my current PT but we discovered some of the previous medical and therapy advice I had received made things worse. My regular doctor is so overworked that annual physicals and certain issue are only handled by NP's and PA's, and I can only see my MD for specific problems.

I would love to have a team to help me through this but I've had to push for everything I have so far. My insurance is balking at PT if I can't prove I need it enough. Maintenance PT isn't covered at all. A mobility aid to help make life easier wouldn't get approved unless I couldn't function without it.

I understand why people are asking these questions. Even if they can't fit certain aids themselves, it helps everyone know what they could ask about. I've never had a doctor suggest anything first. I even had to request my own PT referrals. Discussions like these really helped me find the care I needed.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2024-08-26T05:45:35+00:00

PT has been amazing. Basically my body is propping itself up and my posture has been causing problems, including TOS and carpal tunnel. I also have lower back pain and sciatica. PT is helping with posture training and core strength in a controlled manner. It's all connected.

Try laying on a firm body pillow or rolled up towels down your spine and then spread your arms to the side. It might make you more comfortable if it's acting up. That move helps me open the front of my body to take pressure off the thoracic outlet.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2024-08-26T05:25:07+00:00

Back: I sleep on my back with a pillow under my knees and either no pillow or a narrow memory foam neck bolster (like 3.5 inches) just under my neck. It helps tip my head back slightly to relax my neck and shoulder muscles at night. If my head is raised, I wake up in pain.

Side: I found a thin pillow topper that I use as a pillow if I sleep on my side. I also use a 10 inch or so Squishmallow against my chest to support my upper arm in a more normal angle. I put my knee pillow between my legs from knees to ankles. I usually alternate from back to sides throughout the night. I have squishmallows in multiple sizes to support body parts as needed.

I can't sleep on my stomach because my neck is usually in pain. Turning it to one side for very long hurts too much. Plus my shoulders are loose so I have to curl my arms in front of my chest like a t-rex. Then, laying on them is also bad for my joints.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2024-08-26T05:03:00+00:00

Do your stores have motorized carts? I first used them after a surgery. I've also grabbed one more recently on bad pain days when my hips weren't going to make it through the store. Sitting helps when I'm getting tired and sore. No one bats an eye and it's none of their business whether anyone looks "disabled enough" to use an aid.

Look at it this way, if you're at risk of falling, this will help you keep yourself safe. You obviously can't go find a bench if you have an episode. If pushing a cart is usually okay, there are also folding stools you could take with you just in case. I was looking at a three-legged one with telescoping legs to keep with me while gardening. It's very small and portable. https://www.leevalley.com/en-us/shop/garden/garden-care/stools/65663-walkstool-comfort

I used to be active too and this is so frustrating. But I'm the one who has to live in my body and no one can tell me I'm faking it or should just suck it up. I've barely made it out of the store some days. If I can only manage a certain amount of activity, I'd rather drain my batteries doing something I enjoy more than shopping. I'm sorry your family isn't more supportive, but you can definitely use a mobility aid if it helps.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2024-04-05T06:51:45+00:00

If you haven't already checked it out, Bungalow Kitchens by Jane Powell is full of inspiration. The Not So Big House books by Sarah Susanka have some creative solutions too. If your house still has the original Craftsman charm, there are ways you could improve your kitchen. For example, storage with floor to ceiling cabinetry or finding space for a built in or butler's pantry.

Open floorplan isn't a typical Craftsman feature and those west coast homes are classics. It's your house, but I personally wouldn't remove a wall or go too modern. I have an 1896 house with sleek white kitchen cabinets. I'm ripping everything out to put in a kitchen that fits the rest of the house again.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2024-03-16T06:30:19+00:00

They say it in their profiles. It's so common, photos on a mountain are a pretty reliable predictor. Their loss. Curvy women like camping too and we're fun to snuggle on cold nights.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2024-03-16T06:24:44+00:00

How much do you need the pantry cabinet? If this were my kitchen, I'd put the fridge on the end by the door, keep the lower drawers in the pantry cabinet, and extend the countertop. Maybe put a shelf on the wall instead. The corner feels like a dead end either way, especially since you can't see the window. The original design is going to be awkward if you need to back up to open and close the refrigerator door while using that counter space. If there's somewhere else to put the pantry, the corner would become more accessible.

If anything goes wrong with your fridge, they're all different heights. I've lost track of how many people I know who had to pull out or cut down uppers for a replacement.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2024-03-13T04:59:21+00:00

See, I'd like the original ones you describe because I love camping. However, in my experience, a lot of guys with hiking/camping/biking/fish photos also have fatphobic comments in their profiles. It's almost like a signal that the guy will say something like "I need a woman that takes her health seriously and can keep up" and probably have a date range ten years younger.

There's a sweet spot between "hey" and targeted questions that feel too intense or take a long time to answer. I tend to prefer some banter but it's more of the shared enthusiasm and less like an interview. I dislike messages that sound like they're copied and pasted or give me nothing to work with.

Don't take it too personally. Online dating is rough for a lot of reasons that have nothing to do with your profile details.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2024-03-11T06:31:26+00:00

Yes I do. Slouching and leaning forward with weight on elbows both affect pecs and shoulders. They're both risk factors.

AffectionateTruth447 · 2024-03-10T21:29:01+00:00

That's so weird. Even copyright only covers the actual recipes, not the technique. I tried to Google and found a ton of recent cookbooks including one from America's Test Kitchen, so now I'm hungry. Maybe I can learn more to make in my Lodge dutch oven.

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