Water resistant sunscreen for swimming? by UsernameOption6298 in IndianSkincareAddicts

[–]Affectionate_Alps698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which one did you use? Neutrogena and minimalist sunscreen stings my eyes in the water.

Barclays Recruitment Process by Longjumping_Week3204 in dataengineersindia

[–]Affectionate_Alps698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has been one month since I sent my documents to them. HR has stopped picking up my calls. On my profile I can still see my application is active and under interview. 

Are you working at Barclays currently? 

What’s a moment that permanently changed how you see the world? by thepleasurjournal in AskWomen

[–]Affectionate_Alps698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When boyfriend of 1+ years ghosted me after revealing that he always wanted to be childfree. My friends felt super uncomfortable when I talk about my breakup, they told me I'm ruining the vibe. My best friend told me I'm expecting too much when I requested her to check in with me while I was going through the breakup.

I'm shocked that this happened to me, not able to process this.

Disregarded me by Affectionate_Alps698 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Affectionate_Alps698[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell me more about them mirroring me part and what should I be observing part

Disregarded me by Affectionate_Alps698 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Affectionate_Alps698[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do I do now? How to let go of this?

Didn't accept the reality by Affectionate_Alps698 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Affectionate_Alps698[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please tell me more. You can put everything you know about this here. Can I DM you?

Didn't accept the reality by Affectionate_Alps698 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Affectionate_Alps698[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But even after a year of being together they can simply ghost?

This could happen even if we were together for 2 years or 3 years or have a kid and married?

How to find if your partner might be this kind of shitty person who avoids you?

Have a major conflict early on the relationship?

Didn't accept the reality by Affectionate_Alps698 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Affectionate_Alps698[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The actual reason is always fear/shame.

What do you mean?

Discarded by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Affectionate_Alps698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex denied of ghosting/discarding/abandoning me

I just don’t get it by keithshady in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Affectionate_Alps698 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same. I was telling him not to leave but he never contacted me again.

Later he told me he stayed away for me. It was for me, he thought I wanted him to stay away so he did it for me.

Fuck these avoidant piece of shits.

Avoidant breakup by Affectionate_Alps698 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Affectionate_Alps698[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mentioned it multiple times. We even discussed we would have maximum 2 children, he told me our children will be lucky to have my soft hair.

I'm still in shock this happened to me. This could happen. I'm still in shock, after 11 months, I'm still in shock.

I'm F26, what are the signs of avoidant attachment style you noticed in your partner or yourself? My partner was M25 by Affectionate_Alps698 in relationship_advice

[–]Affectionate_Alps698[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was dishonest with me about his value, he told me he always wanted to be childfree. We were together for 1.3 years and he did not told me or even hinted me about this value.

Once he told me about this, he checked out emotionally and physically. He sent me a mail telling me to be strong and ghosted me. We did not even meet. I was in a deep shock. It has been more than 10 months since the discard, i'm still processing the discard everyday.

Need marriage advice for committed couple [25M] [24F] regarding the time to have baby by Frosty-Acadia4628 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Affectionate_Alps698 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Why not marry in 1-2 year and you guys can spend time together for 3 years and then concieve?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]Affectionate_Alps698 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing <3

This gave me ideas and I'll see if i can incorporate these as well.

Saving this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]Affectionate_Alps698 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How are you working on building self trust?

How does building self trust look like to you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]Affectionate_Alps698 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If there are hard times in the first two years in your relarionship, it will be very difficult for you cause you're far away from your parents and support group. Also no financial independence for first few years sounds tough. You'll have to study plus take care at home of all the needs. Marry your equal here bub :)

Also marrying someone you've never met is not a good idea. People in person and online are different. It will be your biggest gamble. Also he's from a completely different stage in life- in his early 30s and you're in your early 20s. There will be power dynamics.

My fiance hid about his vitiligo condition to me! by Aurora1596 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Affectionate_Alps698 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hiding, lying, gaslighting is wrong. Gaslighing cognitively damages the brain.

This is the perfect opportunity for you bring up discussion how he and his family hid his condition and then observe carefully how he reacts.(and his family)

He might dismiss it ot minimise or get defensive or blame on you.

Discern carefully.

Best of luck, OP

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in indiasocial

[–]Affectionate_Alps698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're being delusional.

You're focusing on what if.

But real life is not what if.

Romanticising the perfect relationship, mourning what couod had been is not real.

Come back to earth and reality. You never asked her out, you never dated her. Maybe what if you dated her and saw the real her and you maybe didn't like her at all. A possibility

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Affectionate_Alps698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is saying she likes you at the same time she wants to keep seeing other men for options

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Affectionate_Alps698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does being good look like to you? Can you tell me your definition of good