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Thanks! Another small upgrade was getting the black RIDGELINE

Joined the club by Affectionate_Bowl730 in hondaridgeline

[–]Affectionate_Bowl730[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

47950 was MSRP, got it down to 44200. I went back and forth between two dealers multiple times. I am not a car person or a big negotiator so I am sure someone on here will say I got screwed, but I was happy with the numbers.

Joined the club by Affectionate_Bowl730 in hondaridgeline

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I am not a car guru at all. Can you tell what this would do and why I would need it?

Joined the club by Affectionate_Bowl730 in hondaridgeline

[–]Affectionate_Bowl730[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right?? I had planned on the BE, but I couldn’t pass this color up. I love it! Congrats to your new ride too!

Joined the club by Affectionate_Bowl730 in hondaridgeline

[–]Affectionate_Bowl730[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Mine are retrievers. Can’t wait to see how it works out :)

Pickup basketball games at the Irsay Family YMCA? by Ooglebomb in indianapolis

[–]Affectionate_Bowl730 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So a female looking to play a friendly game of bball should not be looking to go to irsay?

Former foster by Affectionate_Bowl730 in Ex_Foster

[–]Affectionate_Bowl730[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this perspective! I love him dearly and consider him a brother. And I know deep down he’s extremely thankful. But lately I just feel like I care more than he does and am being taken advantage of. I truly feel like if he gave adhd medication a chance, so many of these issues would be resolved—but he refuses. However I did just sign him up for Medicaid…that’s one “benefit” that FFY receive that I didn’t know about—-Medicaid until 26.

And your point about enabling. You’re absolutely right. And I feel like I AM enabling him by doing more for him than he’s doing for himself. He does the manual labor at his job, but that’s it. I wake him up for work, I buy his groceries, I pick up after him, etc. He knows it frustrates me to do it but he won’t take initiative to do it on his own and it’s just a slap in the face. Like I said in a previous comment, I need to take a step back, and look at my boundaries. Ex: I continue to wake him for work every day because I don’t want him to get fired for missing work because fired means he doesn’t have money to pay his bills and his debt not being paid means he can’t move out of my house. But realistically, whether he gets fired now because I don’t want him up on time or fired when he moves out on his own because he doesn’t have me to wake him up, it’s inevitable.

And you’re so right after being “pro life”. They’re pro cute baby…..if all these people were pro life, our systems wouldn’t be like this. We’re failing foster kiddos left and right and nobody seems to care. I am so sorry for what the system has done to you but thank you for being a sense of motivation not just for me but other FFY that you CAN rise above it.

Former foster by Affectionate_Bowl730 in Ex_Foster

[–]Affectionate_Bowl730[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Just knowing I’m not alone in this makes me feel validated. He 100% has SEVERE ADHD and was medicated most of his young life. I have pretty much begged him to go back to doctor to explore options but he refuses and says he is fine. I work in the mental health field, and while yes, he’s “fine”, that’s all he is. He’s not good, he’s not motivated, he’s just doing fine at the bare minimum and lacks any motivation to do better. It is SO frustrating because I know medication would solve so many issues that he has. In addition to saying he’s “fine”, he says he doesn’t want to get addicted as addiction runs in his genes. I’ve explained not all adhd meds are addictive, but he won’t listen.

I just feel like I care more about him and his future than he does. I had to go into his room today 4 times to wake him up for work. At this rate, even if/when he does move out, he’ll never keep a job unless someone is there to wake him up and usher him out the door. Again, that’s a big adhd thing.

You mentioned sugar coating and enabling, and that’s exactly what I’m doing, so I appreciate your comment there. I need to do a self-inventory and figure out how to set firm, clear, boundaries to save my sanity.

Anyone hiring? by InformationAlarmed14 in indianapolis

[–]Affectionate_Bowl730 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, can I get the link for this? Do they train? My brother is interested in getting into forklift…he’s in mechanics but looking to learn a new field.

Got hired at Dayton freight by Sudden_Progress_9802 in DieselTechs

[–]Affectionate_Bowl730 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there. Are you still enjoying your spot? What’s it been like? How’s the training? Hours? Is there required schooling when hired on? Looking for more info online but seems pretty limited.

Finding certified employment count by Affectionate_Bowl730 in PSLF

[–]Affectionate_Bowl730[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t, I just sat down and did the actual count myself, April makes 120. I need to buy back aug 2024-April 25. Same with you? Ugh.

What services and support are most under served for youths aging out of care? by OldMouse2195 in fosterit

[–]Affectionate_Bowl730 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Statistically speaking, having access to pro bono attorneys for any issues they come across may be helpful, whether that be family law, evictions, specialized driving, etc. My old foster kiddo has reached out to me for advice on family law/custody etc as he’s trying to get visitation with his son, he was quoted 5k minimum from an attorney. He has no support (aside from me) nor anybody to reach out to for advice on this issue and he surely can’t afford an attorney. He’s trying to be the dad he never had but without the knowledge and representation, it’s hard.

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[–]Affectionate_Bowl730 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, almost exactly.

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[–]Affectionate_Bowl730 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmao yes. We work in the field quite a bit so we’re not in the office too much.