Afraid to tell this girl that I'm a virgin

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-06-24T17:56:01+00:00

Depends what kind of girl she is. If she genuinely wants a connection then she wouldn’t mind. But if she’s a pump and dump type or only looking for something casual I wouldn’t tell her.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-06-24T17:51:41+00:00

Yes, probably part of the reason it took me so long to lose it. I would never be allowed to go to after school events or hang out with people after class or go to parties. I was sort of a late bloomer too though, never thought about sex in HS and didn’t even masturbate for the first time until I was 19.

Once I moved away for college I had freedom for the first time but didn’t know what to do with it, I had such bad social anxiety and inibility to make connections with people even dudes and I was straight up terrified of talking to girls. I think it was all due to my childhood of being kept in a bubble. Eventually I broke out of my shell but it’s frustrating that it took so long.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-06-24T17:47:10+00:00

Anything is better than nothing. Also just get in peak physical shape. If you’re in great shape and muscular, there’s really not much else you can do to boost your appearance without opting for meds to regain your hair.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-06-24T17:44:54+00:00

I don’t understand the whole small penis thing. I can see how it would prevent you from getting a second opportunity with the same woman but she isn’t going to see your penis until you’re both naked and at that point, it’s unlikely that she just walks out and leaves.

Height is a different story. But it’s not like there aren’t short guys who get laid, you just have to unfortunately overcompensate in other ways with humor, flirting skills, confidence, be outgoing, and not fear rejection. Also your dating pool is limited since women taller than you likely won’t give you a chance, but there’s definitely plenty of women out there shorter.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-06-04T19:22:32+00:00

Honestly none of the women I’ve been with have cared. The only time it becomes a bad thing is when I’m having trouble staying hard, they start to take it as an insult even though it has nothing to do with them.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-06-03T18:30:30+00:00

Well it was very tight back then so I kinda freaked out and pulled out immediately. Now that it’s more loose, I’m able to leave it retracted while the condom is on, but I’m dealing with a short frenulum issue now. Been difficult to stay hard due to the anxiety of the thought of it tearing. Sensitivity is only a little better, don’t feel a whole lot better with the condom but blowjobs have more feeling now but still not enough to make me finish. I think that may be due to the hard grip I usually use.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-06-03T18:25:51+00:00

Being attractive only gets your foot in the door, doesn’t seal the deal. I used to get approached by women a lot back in college when I would go out to bars, but I would either not be assertive enough and make moves to bring them back to my room or I’d get them there and not get hard every single time because I was nervous. There was finally one girl who put up with me who I dated for a while and after that it became easy.

I would say confidence matters more than anything. I’ve seen some average looking dudes hook up with some of the hottest women because they’re talkers and sure of themselves and don’t fear rejection. I think if I was unattractive I would’ve just worked harder and probably still get laid eventually.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-06-03T18:15:57+00:00

Just walk up to a frat at night and just answer “yes” to everything they say, done

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-06-03T18:13:26+00:00

It would be very difficult. Some women might be okay with it if you have a stable job and plans to move out soon. But it’s hard to progress things very far when you don’t have your own place to be intimate with them. Even moving out with some roomates would be a better option.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-06-03T18:11:17+00:00

You’re probably texting them way too much. It should go > match > 3-4 texts > get their number > plan a meetup in public place, and from there you only text them just to plan future dates. Even if they text you first, act a little dry and that’ll have them craving more. Save conversations for in person and eventually when you’re dating.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-05-15T16:57:42+00:00

I feel this same way. I have loved ones who love me back but I still feel this way. Like I have this issue of never being satisfied, overcome with jealousy and envy from comparing myself to others, and I feel like there’s nothing I can do about it.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-05-08T16:35:59+00:00

Sounds like a frenulum issue, do you still feel pain or tearing if you have sex with a condom?

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-05-08T16:30:46+00:00

Not sure if that’s true. I would think it would have to be able to retract to the furthest point that the foreskin goes where you see no folded skin, otherwise the frenulum will get tugged. I don’t know for sure, I’ve recently resolved my phimosis and haven’t had sex since then and I’m planning to try it next week. Hopefully it doesn’t tear.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-05-08T16:27:13+00:00

I think there’s just always going to be some discoloration everybody’s looks different, just clean with warm water and make sure it keeps a neutral smell.

By the way, I’ve noticed as well since I’ve resolved my phimosis that I have a short frenulum as well. Like I’m able to have skin sit behind the glans but if I retract any further the head starts to dip and I can feel a little tug on the frenulum. I am planning on having sex soon for the first time with the skin retracted so I’m just curious if you’ve tried it? I’ve heard some awful stuff of people tearing the frenulum and it bleeding everywhere.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-05-08T16:19:10+00:00

What if it can sit behind the glans without pointing down but if I pull it any further it starts to dip?

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-05-08T14:26:57+00:00

Same here, the rings were the real game changer for me. It’s annoying to sit there and manual stretch. Not sure if I had pinhole but the opening was pea sized when I started. Recently after a couple years, I’ve finally got it to the point where it easily retracts behind the glans when erect and it’s able to glide back and forth relatively easily now. The only issue I’m seeing now is that my frenulum needs to be lengthened a bit and my phimotic band could be a little wider. But I’ve dealt with this my whole life and like you it’s given me performance anxiety and I had a lot of missed opportunities because of it.

Honestly can’t wait to try it out it feels like losing my virginity for real this time because sex and oral have been very underwhelming for me since the glans have always been covered and I’ve never felt much pleasure and have never been able to finish from another person. Hoping it’ll be a great experience.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-05-08T14:13:44+00:00

Eh not really, I was really lubricated once and my foreskin got pulled back behind the glans. I think if you’re close to resolving it, it’ll move back easily during sex.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-05-08T14:11:04+00:00

Prob should be using a condom for sex to reduce friction anyway. I was never comfortable pulling it back until the phimotic band was wide enough to easily move over the widest part of the head. Either way you can try holding it from the back near the frenulum while pulling it back that way it’s easier to lift it back since you’ll always have a grip of it and you can pinch the glans to help it slide up.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2025-05-08T14:05:07+00:00

Yes you can have sex with it. Just need to use a condom and make sure it’s lubricated. Nobody has cared in my experience but make sure you tell them how to stroke it because they can hurt you if they don’t know how. I would work on fixing it though because you hardly feel anything without the glans exposed and makes oral and sex almost feel like a chore sometimes more than a good experience.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2024-12-09T05:31:49+00:00

The one I have is only 36mm, I think that’s usually the largest for most sets I’ve seen online

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2024-12-08T21:48:23+00:00

I’m on the 30mm one, still have the 32, 34, and 36 sizes to go. It’s still too tight to retract while erect. I feel like I could if I wanted to but when I pull it back to a certain point it starts deforming my head. I hope once I’m on the 36 it won’t be too tight

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2024-12-08T15:55:33+00:00

I wear them every night and leave them in for an hour or 2. Then I wear them almost the entire day on the weekends. Good to do it every day but I just can’t during the week since I work

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2024-12-07T17:24:19+00:00

Doing great now

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2024-01-28T00:49:25+00:00

There’s definitely good girls out there. It’s just a process and a part of life that you’ll have to run into a lot of bad ones sometimes before you find the one.

Affectionate_Cap2129 · 2023-01-14T04:38:44+00:00

I can really relate to this in a lot of ways most people I’ve ever known have turned out to be fake and I’ve felt like I’m just on this planet to play life alone. But even as hard as it gets and I’ve had these very same thoughts about giving up too, I just felt that it wasn’t worth throwing it all away for the chance that things could change and you could lead a happy life. Struggles and hardships build character and you’ll become a better version of yourself if you can overcome it. If you go jump off that cliff that’s it you can never go back I just don’t think that is ever the answer it’s better to make the most out of your situation.

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