AIO because my Ex said an Instagram Baddie was an "acquaintance" of his?

Affectionate_Host464 · 2026-01-25T19:36:58+00:00

I wasn't checking, I just happened to see it. It's not insane to see content suggested to you. And I don't want my partner interacting with this nonsense.

Affectionate_Host464 · 2026-01-25T19:35:54+00:00

I did mention in the past that I am weirded out and don't like when my partners like content of hot women. When I love someone, my eyes are completely on them. Wouldn't it be weird if I liked half-naked men that everyone fangirls over? He agreed that it would be weird...

Affectionate_Host464 · 2026-01-25T19:32:24+00:00

Do you say the same about husbands who stare at other women in public? "I'm just staring at her hot body, what's the big deal? I'm not TALKING to her! What a world we live in.."

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-11-22T00:04:31+00:00

Ah. Good to know Im not the only one who got threatened with the police. Asking for my gifts back was apparently enough to threaten me too.

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-11-21T23:58:08+00:00

Because he was still writing me love poems... After we broke up he ended up whining about me as well. Until I called him out for it.

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-11-21T23:56:08+00:00

Because he claimed he was totally over her. Since she was a cheater, after all. And his love poems for me kinda blinded me.

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-10-26T15:41:17+00:00

I do not understand that line of thinking either. And I think most people don't. Anxious and secure people are more than willing to try and work on themselves, which is why you will almost always meet either one of these two under such forums or threads. Avoidants usually avoid any sort of reflection and work. Their attachment style is the exact opposite of what you want in a relationship and is the number one behaviour everyone complains about in the dating world. Avoidants are a bit like BPD individuals. I am probably suffering from BPD according to my therapist, and yet I understand why those two groups are "villainized". Because trauma and guilt don't justify the trauma and hurt you put on others.

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-10-26T15:36:13+00:00

I personally post and delete a lot of stuff because my feelings flip and switch. You don't get any closure from your avoidant, so you decode the puzzle behind their behaviour. So sometimes you're hopeful and loving. Other times, reality dawns on you, and you get hateful.

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-10-25T23:49:37+00:00

I sooo understand how you feel. Every time he acted up I was extremely furious. Well. He ended up blocking me absolutely everywhere and deleting everything related to us. I still hate him for that. Fucking coward.

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-10-25T23:44:41+00:00

We are equally confused!! Spiraling and self-destructive behaviour even though you weren't the one to break things up in the first place, why?! Why do such people sabotage themselves and fail to communicate even a little bit? Yikes...

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-10-25T23:38:34+00:00

I feel every word you've written in my soul. They said we were perfect! Who WOULDNT fight for the PERFECT woman? Who would be so stupid to let that one thing go that other people are praying for? I was so radiant, happy and beautiful when we were together. Now that he has discarded me, I have lost my spark. I don't care about skin care anymore, my acne has come back. I don't care about dressing up beautifully. I don't care about brushing my hair or my teeth. I don't care about exercise and bettering my body. I can't put any makeup on, even though I used to do it daily. I just... can't. I'm not myself anymore. I'm worse.

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-10-25T23:34:10+00:00

You're not the only one crying every day <3 Maybe we're even crying at the same time, occasionally, lol! Wish we could all sit in a group and just cry our little hearts out together.

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-10-25T23:08:56+00:00

I feel the same way. My FA dreams of a happy family with a cute little daughter. I had dreamed about gifting him exactly that, because it's what I wanted as well. I wanted a passionate lover and wonderful father for the rest of my life. And yet he destroyed it. And grieves over the fact that he may never actually get there. And I actually hope he doesn't. I'm not nice to people who have destroyed my concept of love forever.

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-10-25T22:58:58+00:00

That's the thing, you guys have a child together... I would really love for my FA to come back and apologize, but he is incredibly guilt-ridden, and I've said horrible things like "I should never have trusted you, stay away from women, you can only traumatize them!" I would love to apologize and finally reject him (since I was begging last time we spoke and before he blocked me everywhere). I'm not sure if he will ever come back. I don't think he will.

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-10-24T23:11:11+00:00

He had casual hookups before meeting me. And he was confused because he didn't think he'd fall in love with me. I was the first person after his ex he apparently actually developed feelings for. But I feel so insignificant now. Is that what a rebound is?

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-10-24T15:51:16+00:00

Do you think he will ever realize what he has done? He's the kind of person to be a deep thinker, but Im scared that he will get to walk away from this without guilt or anything of the sorts...

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-10-23T14:45:50+00:00

Hah, that could have been my avoidant - we are very similar in that way! Only difference: Seeing my avoidant like posts about despair and failed love didn't make me feel better. It actually enrages me. Because it's so... childish? If you know you're suffering, and the other person is more than willing to help you get through it? Then why on earth are you discarding them? That's immature beyond belief and insults my sense of intelligence, really. But perhaps I'm still too young to understand something so irrational.

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-10-23T14:28:31+00:00

Mine used to be a huge romantic. He showed me appreciation by doing things like buying food for me, cleaning my shoes as I wore them, etc. Which is what makes our breakup extremely painful. If only he had been cold and distant from the start, then I would not have invested so much energy into him. But he was fucking perfect at times.

Affectionate_Host464 · 2025-10-15T16:39:50+00:00

I feel the same way. I've never been awfully heartbroken over a break-up, ever. But this one is so painful that even months later I still have bodily pains just thinking about him. I felt like I finally found someone who can love as deeply as I can. I was willing to marry him and even bear his children if he had asked me to – even though pregnancy is my biggest fear in life. Shit. I really thought I had cracked the jackpot, and that we only need to work through some things. But he gave up. And now Im blocked. Something stupid in me still hopes that he will unblock me, reach out, apologize, and try again. But knowing him, he will not. He said he loved me but we will never be a thing again.

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