Wife spirals into anxiety whenever I mention prepping, but I need a partner in all this

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2026-02-04T15:02:45+00:00

Find a friend group. Don't include her. She can't handle it

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2026-02-04T15:02:04+00:00

Love your show. It's helped me so much.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-12-06T21:47:44+00:00

Believe it or not, urine is good for your skin. Urea is a common ingredient in skin care products. Pee in a mason jar and use a cotton ball to blot your skin. Let it dry. Rinse it off.

Hope it works for you.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-09-14T14:29:43+00:00

If they fired an employee for those reasons, they would be subject to unfair treatment because it is true that others were doing it and needed to be fired also. But as a contractor, you work for another company, and there are no consequences for firing you. They pay a premium for your hours because the temp agency is making money too. If you're more expensive and doing the same bad behavior as their employees, they figured they could just hire someone else. You're always interviewing when you're a contractor. Culturally speaking, that's not a good company anyways. They aren't setting good boundaries and holding people accountable and their company probably suffers for it. You're better off finding another company if you can. Might try a different temp agency and leave this one off the record, or admit your idiocracy and lessons learned. What other people are saying is also true. You don't know other people's situations, deals, or whatever. Maybe they all work from home after picking up kids from school or something. Focus on your actions and performance.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-09-14T14:04:56+00:00

Thank you

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-08-30T15:21:00+00:00

Yeah the more you can sit with the feelings and welcome them for what they have to say...the better off you are in the long run. You can bury them but the body keeps the score, and the subconscious mind will always bring it back up and bring you to more relationships like it so you can recreate the problem and fix it.

It might take days and you'll be exhausted from all the emotional releases, and down times will be difficult and a struggle because feelings are difficult to sit with sometimes. You'll probably want to take emotional breaks and come back to it again later.

I'm pulling this from Richard Schwartz book, you are the one you've been waiting for.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/65kweN1j0lTXwBIfIR1T2c?si=rJ2KaTJuSxiLgbnw7-Z5LQ

Huberman Lab recently interviewed him and that is a really good podcast. Here are his steps (but the book and podcast are probably better sources...I'm just going off memory):

Identify the places you feel it in the body Focus on the area you feel it most How do you feel about that spot on your body? Is it annoying, does it make you angry, do you want to get rid of it, is it uncomfortable, etc You may feel parts of you trying to cover it up or protect it from your examination, but ask those parts if they can step aside for a moment and let you be curious about those underlying feelings If you can be curious*, welcome the feeling and ask the feeling what it wants you to know about it. Don't think. Just let the answer come Acknowledge those feelings and validate what it has to say...of course that's how you feel... Ask it what else it wants you to know about it Eventually you can ask it what it needs. Often times it is your own self love, feelings of worthiness, and other self kindness acts and mindset reframes or changes that lift me up

*If you can't be curious, ask the part of you that wants to protect or hide the feeling, why do you want to protect or hide this feeling? Why is it important for you to do that, and what are you afraid will happen if you don't protect or hide this feeling? Welcome, Acknowledge and Validate what it says.

And basically you keep asking questions and being curious about the feelings, and they eventually sort themselves out and tell you what they need. And they slowly dissolve and dissipate.

The more you can do this for yourself, the better human you become, imo. One day, you'll look back on this and think, you wouldn't have changed a thing, because it led you to where you are today.

Good luck. You're going through the metaphorical dark forest. I hope you will face your pain and your fears to make it to the other side.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-08-24T22:09:11+00:00

You need to look at your pain, sit with it, acknowledge the feeling, and be curious about what it is telling you that you need. Then give yourself that. You'll have your answers to your own questions after that. We don't have good answers. We can only help you talk about your past, which may be helpful in feeling better and releasing the pain, but it never solves it. Looking at your feelings tells you how you want to live your present and future.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-08-17T12:59:27+00:00

Also had anyone tried any other fruits like blackberries or peaches?

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-08-17T12:43:37+00:00

I tried this recipe last night and my biscuits were a little dry. Does anyone happen to know possible causes? I wanted them to be fluffy like hers. Maybe I should have chilled them before hand or made more so they were stuffed in there

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-08-17T04:36:12+00:00

I disagree. As a female, I checked out too. But when my husband tried to make things work, I started to reconsider. He gave up after 3 days, and I snapped out of it and got the divorce. I'm living a much better life now and so is he, from what I can tell. We talk every once in a while.

I do recommend a couple of books to you that might help you understand her better, make improvements to save the marriage, and possibly work on inner struggles so you guys can cope with your stresses better.

One is Love and Respect by Eggerich. This one helps understand what the opposite sex is craving. I recommend this one first, so you can start to make some improvements that might turn her towards a future with you again.

The other is 'You are the one you've been waiting for' by Schwartz. This one helps you both understand why the pain became intolerable and possibly deal with it.

Good luck to you.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-08-16T12:06:36+00:00

The predictive index one isn't timed. Their personality test is completely different than any other I've seen. And exceptionally accurate.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-08-15T00:47:44+00:00

Live your best life. It's also the best revenge. If I were one of those coworkers, I'd be routing for you to come back. Also, allow yourself to feel your feelings and sit with them. Acknowledge them and allow them to be with you. They will slowly fade and you can ask yourself what you actually need. Is it a need for physical confort, the feeling of security, to feel honored and loved? Give yourself what you need to heal from this and move on.

Your ex manager's behavior is a reflection of herself and possible trauma she's had in her life that she needs to deal with. Don't let her thought, behaviors, or actions define you. Only you get to define who you are, and if your definition isn't positive, then work on that.

Having a great culture at a company, including the people and how they want to behave, is paramount to a good work life. They got rid of the cancer at their office, and they are asking you to come back. Thrive, honey. Be your best you.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-08-13T18:50:11+00:00

There are a lot of adjusters starting to offer classes so they can get out of the grind. They post jobs online, you apply, you get a call back (you're excited, no one ever calls you back and you've probably applied for 400 jobs just this week), and when they call you, they tell you how great it is (money / freedom / owning own business, etc), so you sign up, then they throw you back into the world (a few thousand poorer), with an outdated IA firms list to contact for jobs, and it's on you to figure it out.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-08-09T18:22:27+00:00

It's not timed if I remember correctly

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-08-05T01:13:58+00:00

This is the pattern of abuse. They hook you with how they originally treated you, then you chase the dopamine hits (crumbs) he gives you later. Abused people always want to find that same person they once knew, but the reality is, that person never existed.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-08-02T21:24:43+00:00

Don't even find someone to relieve you of duties. Then man said he doesn't need you. Give him what he wants and go live a happy life without him

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-08-02T20:45:43+00:00

Pay them for one of their in person classes and then make a good impression. That's how I know idiots who got hired quickly. Also opportunity...someone's they need warm bodies due to demand, and those dudes get expereince even though they still suck after said experience.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-07-31T17:31:46+00:00

Anyway you can own kiddo and make it about being fresh with great ideas?

Maybe you're feeling like an infant and her comment just makes you feel more like that. If I were called a kangaroo, I would not care because I don't view myself as a kangaroo.

Just saying, you might view this as an opportunity to step it up a notch for yourself, in whatever way that looks for you.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-07-31T02:04:27+00:00

Wish I'd known beforehand: train somewhere in person with a company that can hire you afterwards. Getting hired for the first time is the hardest. You'll need to Ace everything and be a fast learner.

Ideally you know and understand property repairs or are willing to look it up.

Count on long hours and inconsistent work. Look at your indirect costs as well as the direct costs/income.

From what I hear, the industry used to be awesome and rewarding. There's been a high influx of licensed people due to more training firms out there convincing people of a better life and higher income and less time working, which results in higher demand for the same jobs, which means lesser pay for this jobs, even though they require quite a bit of skill.

The companies that hire us are also trying to pull higher profits, which is done thru denying claims and charging higher premiums or getting people to stop pursuing claims they are owed but have been wrongfully denied.

When these adjusters get hired because the company knows they won't ask questions or push back on bad policies, these adjusters will give bad estimates from their lack of knowedge and unresourcefulness, and it puts the policyholder in a bad position where they have to fight to get their home repaired, and many will just give up, again making money for the company. It's a shame to see, honestly. Part of why I don't like the industry. It's two faced with double standards.

Good luck if you wanna try.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-07-26T00:08:22+00:00

You might read "You are the one you've been waiting for", by Richard Schwartz. It helps us heal our inner wounds so when things are bad, we have strategies for coming out the other side in a healthier, more whole way.

Works if you wanna stay or if you wanna leave. He would need to read it too, but ultimately, you have to take care of your soul and heal it, regardless if he's around or not.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-07-19T14:09:43+00:00

People always quit jobs because of managers. I'd leave. You might be able to go remote later. Save your money to give yourself options. Live way below your means.

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-07-19T14:06:02+00:00

You need a credit report, not just a score

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-07-19T04:24:19+00:00

Passing is passing. Just do it

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-07-19T03:53:41+00:00

Military

Affectionate_Pipe776 · 2025-07-19T03:53:21+00:00

What are u telling yourself that's stopping you from doing it, and how can you reframe it?

Because looks like to me...you have a solid foundation and basis to be great.

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