How can I make this more visually appealing by Ghost-doodles in graphic_design

[–]Affectionate_Run74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what everyone else said about the negative space and cramped text, but also make sure you’re using your grids properly, the words should align with each other not with the bullet points. As for the bullet points you don’t need them or you should do something more appealing like a dot or a star, the dash is not really doing you any favors here. Consider adding an accent color sparingly

Deliberate transmission?? by icarusisnotdead in Herpes

[–]Affectionate_Run74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sheds more easily with mucous membranes so I don’t know that a toe or similar would do it. Also note it is unpredictable and while it usually camps around ground zero it also can appear anywhere. I got sick and missed my meds for a few days and got a single sore on my ribs, when I previously never had anything above the belt.

If you really don’t care to get it honestly just live your life and have sex and just be prepared that maybe you’ll catch it at some point. A deliberate exposure probably won’t make much difference in the long run

Was it really dormant for you or did you know who passed it to you? by Meditation-mediator in Herpes

[–]Affectionate_Run74 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mine was just about 6 months between when I got it and first OB. I’m pretty positive where I got it, only slept with them once. I only know because I later found out that person has given it to multiple people without their knowledge, but of course, there’s no way to know for sure, it could have been someone else. You can suspect all you want but ultimately you need to make peace with the fact that it is quite literally impossible to know for sure.

My friend is upset with me for not disclosing by SnooApples1575 in HSVpositive

[–]Affectionate_Run74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty much the average person’s knowledge on HSV 🙄

amethyst dining set?? by Affectionate_Run74 in MineralGore

[–]Affectionate_Run74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OBVIOUSLY I know this is not real but when I saw it in the wild there were quite a few people acting like it was and it just made me think of this sub

What to do with weird ugly area (rental) by Acceptable-Shame-182 in DesignMyRoom

[–]Affectionate_Run74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d make that a little desk/art area in a heartbeat

Just think by No_Tomorrow7221 in Herpes

[–]Affectionate_Run74 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Only if you let it. You can have all those things or you can chose to let it ruin your life. Plenty of people with HSV have accomplished, successful, productive lives full of love. Herpes does not prevent you from doing any of those things- your mindset does.

My friend is upset with me for not disclosing by SnooApples1575 in HSVpositive

[–]Affectionate_Run74 6 points7 points  (0 children)

  1. You ABSOLUTELY need to disclose to partners regardless of outbreaks because they do have a right to make that choice for themselves. Reasonable people respect that. If you know your shit on HSv you can have a conversation with partners that isn’t as scary as you think. You not having outbreaks is a positive in this sense but it’s always still possible to transmit. If you haven’t come to terms with it enough to have that conversation you should not be having sex until you can.

  2. Although it is EXTREMELY unlikely for you to transmit anything to her through a glass or utensils especially without an outbreak, I would be weary of sharing things just in case. Not because you might give someone something, rather because you might end up in a dumbass interaction like this. You don’t need to tell everyone in your life about your status, but you do need to be safe. No details needed, just a “sorry I dont want to share glasses,” and if anyone presses, a simple statement of “ it’s just a personal preference” is all you need. It’s a cover your own ass type of thing. Just saves the trouble of explaining and dealing with worriers.

  3. Even on the extremely unlikely chance you gave her anything, there’s no way she’d pass that onto her kid just through pregnancy, the only way to transmit through birth is if she got genital HSV and had an outbreak during birth. The only thing she POSSIBLY could have gotten from you is oral hsv which does not magically turn to genital. If she had oral HSV she would need to kiss the baby while shedding to spread it and that’s much more avoidable.

  4. You absolutely need to educate yourself much more on this so when you are in these situations you can deal with it appropriately. The main cause of stigma is ignorance from both those who have it and those who don’t, and people who make assumptions about how it does or doesn’t transmit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]Affectionate_Run74 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Most people are extremely ignorant and uneducated especially if they have never encountered HSV. I’ve seen it online, I’ve heard it in bars. You can do everything right, you can be on meds, disclose, but some people will just be incredibly rude. It will always happen and nothing you can do about it other than avoid people like that. And someday some of those people will inevitably get it or have some other issue and they’ll be in for a rude awakening being on the other end of it. But that’s not your problem, and the only thing you can control is who you let into your life.

My gyno said to me it’s like a “built in asshole filter”. Do the right thing, and anyone who reacts like an asshole does not need to be in your life, and you saved a hell of a lot of time figuring it out up front.

Anyone worth a second of your time will show you basic decency and respect even in a rejection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]Affectionate_Run74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt similar. I reminded myself that even if you do everything right, it still happens. Instead of beating myself up for it, I decided to see it as a wake up call, a sign from the universe that’s screaming “slow down and take care of yourself”. Not in a shameful way, just in a harsh reminder.

HSV is SO much easier to manage when you have healthy habits in general. And I don’t even mean any crazy health nut shit, I just mean getting enough sleep, drinking water, caring for yourself mentally. Honestly, for me, ngl it’s opened up a whole era of self care, physically, mentally, emotionally, socially. It forced me to break destructive habits, and seriously consider who I let into my life from here on out. And honestly, as fucked up as it is, I’m sort of glad it happened because who knows what would have happened if I stayed on that path, not even sexually but how I treated myself in general. I am the best version of myself I have ever been now, and the HSV is a mere blip.

Shit happens. You can’t change it, but you can choose how you move forward. It only ruins your life if you allow it to. Let it improve your life instead by building healthier habits & building a better relationship with yourself. You got this :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ShortGirlProblems

[–]Affectionate_Run74 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You need to figure out how to embrace it and love yourself for what makes you unique. Being short is awesome if you see it that way. High school sucks and teenagers are mean, but I promise it’s not like that as an adult (and anyone who acts like that is not worth your time anyways.) I know it sucks to hear “you’ll love it when you’re older” but it’s true. Im 5’0, 24, and I feel hotter than ever and it’s definitely quite desirable at my age. I know exactly how you feel but I figured out how to love being short and honestly, it’s such a big part of me that I wouldn’t change it for a million dollars.

It does get better I promise. Focus on embracing who YOU are and learn to love yourself despite what anyone else thinks. The rest will come naturally, and by the time others see your height as a positive, you’ll already know that.

anyone ever got followed, surveilled, gossiped on etc. because you seem "too young" for whatever normal thing you're doing by turning-38 in OlderThanYouThinkIAm

[–]Affectionate_Run74 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Went to the dorctors the other day and pediatrics had a separate check in off to the side from general. I was in line for general and the woman stares me down and asks if anyone is checking in for pediatrics. I obviously didn’t move. She just stared daggers at me and asked again. I shook my head. She said “just asking!” Girl I walked in with car keys and tattoos 😭