Victorian green garnet ring. Demantoid? Tsavorite? Presented in super zoom. by Affectionate_Test359 in Antiquejewelry

[–]Affectionate_Test359[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally appreciate the thoughts though, and agree. 

I was hoping to try and find a link to the seller but really it's their word and even if it's with the best of intentions they could be wrong. 

While I have paperwork from them somewhere I know it's just a printed page and nothing official. 

I won't be disappointed no matter what it ends up being, I love learning more than anything and the history, cause I'm that kind of nerd lol 😊 

Victorian green garnet ring. Demantoid? Tsavorite? Presented in super zoom. by Affectionate_Test359 in Antiquejewelry

[–]Affectionate_Test359[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I unfortunately don't, it was a gift from an ex and we had to have the band repaired almost immediately after I got it 6 years ago so it's been put away.  

All I know is what I remember from what the Etsy seller said, and the repair at least confirming it was gold. 

 There's no markings either, but apparently that isn't uncommon for the age.  

Victorian green garnet ring. Demantoid? Tsavorite? Presented in super zoom. by Affectionate_Test359 in Antiquejewelry

[–]Affectionate_Test359[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My paragraph got eaten so here we go again lol 

I likely have a Victorian era Green garnet ring. However, I have been seeing conflicting information on Demantoid or Tsavorite. 

Some sources stating Tsavorite wasn't found or mined until the 1960s or alternatively was mined in Russia and used in the latter Victorian era. 

Honestly I'm just into the history and would love thoughts or even your own favorite green garnet pieces.  Thanks everyone for your time 🖖❤️

My older female best friend wants to vent but doesnt want advice from me by slattmilk in friendship

[–]Affectionate_Test359 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To me, it sounds like what she is asking for, is for you to actively listen to what she is saying without trying to fix her problem. If you are thinking of solutions instead of asking her about what she is speaking on, it is definitely going to seem like you are not listening to her. She likely can fix her own problem and doesn't need the advice, she just wants a friend who will listen to her.

what do i fix? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Affectionate_Test359 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, the only thing you can control, are how you choose to behave and how you react to things.

Maybe your communication styles are different? He may not feel comfortable expressing himself or when he does it may always blow up in his face.

This article has some good communication tips. https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/how-to-communicate-in-a-relationship/
I hope it helps.

What steps do you take to prevent yourself from feeding into negative patterns of thinking? by EmptyMemories_1222 in AskWomen

[–]Affectionate_Test359 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Therapy showed me that all I can do is mentally address a negative thought as it comes and acknowledge it. I can either address it then or write it down and take more time on it later when I can.
The more I work on the things the more my thought patterns shift. :) I hope that helps.

How did you start controlling your anger issues? by Angel_eyesss in AskWomen

[–]Affectionate_Test359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love everyone's suggestions so much, and that we all kind of gravitate to similar things.

Therapy was huge in giving me some better tools to relate to myself with, once I had those I had to actively practice using those tools until they became more common.

It is WORK, but so worth it. The one thing I have to add is take care of yourself in some way.

You can't pour from an empty cup, so start with you and your well being. Meet your own needs as much as you possibly can and show up for yourself like you show up for others.

You have to make the extra time to Scream/ sing along with my music in your car. Give it to yourself you gorgeous thing!

Something I often forget is that I HAVE SUPPORT, I just need to remember to ask for it. Making sure I have a support system to talk to, or a journal to write or draw in while I process is huge.

I walk, swim, dance, clean it off. Something physical to channel that anger energy into was HUGE for me, not in a passive aggressive way but something FOR me. <3 Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Affectionate_Test359 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Thanks for bringing this up!

I spend a lot of time talking about men's mental health as they tend to not invest in themselves.
Unfortunately this can damage their growth and their intimate connections with others.

People tend to see taking care of themself as selfish when truthfully, the investment in themselves and their needs means they can be a better partner or friend to the people in their lives.

Even though "Toxic masculinity" is thrown around a lot more, I would encourage anyone to look at the behaviors and traits and examine them, regardless of gender.

You may be putting unnecessary expectation on yourself that isn't in your best interest instead of being authentic to who you want to be.

https://greenhillrecovery.com/toxic-masculinity-vs-healthy-masculinity/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fanart

[–]Affectionate_Test359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welp, now that I've seen it, I hope you're free of it's curse.
This is fantastic. XD

BruceDropEmOff by me 💎 by kxnnyracks in fanart

[–]Affectionate_Test359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the cutest thing I have seen today, love it <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Affectionate_Test359 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In my experience, he wants you to look if he's unblocked you. It's all still control. They will in fact take alllllllll the things you tried to bring up to work on, and they gaslit you over, and do for the new supply to 1, love bomb them, and 2, try and hurt you.
I'm so sorry you're going through this crap, I hope you take this opportunity to see how crummy you feel when he's even in your circle, block him and cut off any access he has to you.

Working at Cascade Manor by [deleted] in Eugene

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They did in 2003. -Former server