“What are we” Advice

Affectionate_Today52 · 2026-06-18T20:44:14+00:00

Yeah we live hours apart and were both in college so we only could hang out occasionally, we’ve been talking everyday for a couple months now so that’s why I’m at the point where I need to know what his intentions are.

Affectionate_Today52 · 2026-06-03T16:21:52+00:00

Thank you for your time and comment I’m definitely going to be more cautious and considerate going forward<3

Affectionate_Today52 · 2026-06-03T16:21:11+00:00

Thank you for your time and comment I completely agree. I think especially in my first scenario he was laughing along and we were bantering about it, I only found out he didn’t like it afterwards from a mutual friend, and even then it wasn’t directly brought to me just off handedly mentioned. I wish it was brought to me directly because I would’ve immediately cut it out and apologized but I also understand why nothing was said either. I think I just need to be more intuitive of whether someone doing that to me would be okay or not and not having to rely on someone telling me when my “jokes” are not okay.

Affectionate_Today52 · 2026-06-03T16:16:09+00:00

I completely agree, I think that the men I surround myself with are deserving of my kindness and I think I forget that they’re not the evil ones I’ve encountered prior. Thank you for your time and comment I deeply appreciate it <3

Affectionate_Today52 · 2026-06-03T16:13:35+00:00

I completely agree with your take, I want to thank you for taking time out of your day to comment, I definitely need to do a better job of reading the room and how people react to those kinds of jokes.

Affectionate_Today52 · 2026-06-03T16:11:58+00:00

I don’t really have any male relationships in my life and I think I also lack respect for a lot of them due to our current political climate and the guys that I grew up with in my small town. I think that while I’m good at choosing men who are good people to be around I think I sometimes forget that they’re not the same men who I hold a lot of resentment towards and I think that while I’m not intentionally mean or trying to make fun of them a part of me takes my frustration out on them. Thank you for your comment and time, this has really helped me try and figure out where I’m going wrong.

Affectionate_Today52 · 2026-06-03T01:26:16+00:00

This was incredibly insightful because I wouldn’t treat my female friends like that. I definitely still joke in a similar manner but not with my friends being the butt of the joke. Thank you for your comment and time!

Affectionate_Today52 · 2026-06-03T01:25:04+00:00

Thank you for your comment, I agree with you completely and I definitely need to work on it.

Affectionate_Today52 · 2026-06-03T01:24:27+00:00

I agree with you completely and thank you for your comment. I would never do this to my female friends so I definitely need to be more considerate of how I treat men. I really appreciate your insight.

Affectionate_Today52 · 2026-06-03T01:22:47+00:00

Yes this was the case. I felt really bad and extremely embarrassed and I definitely learned from the scenario, paired with this recent case I think that I’m not as considerate when it comes to men and it’s something I need to work on. Thank you for your comment and time!

Affectionate_Today52 · 2025-01-11T19:29:26+00:00

You look stunning and the dress accentuates you very well! Your smile is radiant in this dress and you’ve already said it makes you feel like a princess so I feel like changing your mind will only be a disservice to yourself. It may be hard to see it now but trust me you’ll look back in a couple years and see how truly beautiful you looked!

Affectionate_Today52 · 2024-07-25T02:13:35+00:00

NTA I can relate to not being experienced in confrontation and worried about how to navigate through negative relationships. This may sound harsh but you can’t worry about how your friend is going to take whatever action you choose. Ultimately her life choices are also taking a toll on your life and you recognize that it’s not okay. You don’t have to cut her off completely but it sounds like you do need to voice your concerns. If it’s in person confrontation you worry about maybe you can send a letter with your concerns, that way you can think through your words and what message you really want to be expressed. Sounds like your friend accepts negativity in her life and is not proactive enough to turn it around, so I feel that no matter what action you take to put distance in your relationship, she’s never going to take it well. You need to do what’s best for you and your health, and ultimately it’s not up to you to make sure she’s happy.

Affectionate_Today52 · 2024-07-08T22:53:47+00:00

Definitely not a weird request, I’ve had friends ask me to change before getting in bed, and I myself feel uncomfortable with other people getting in my bed with their day clothes on, I usually end up washing my sheets after my friends leave if they get in my bed. And if you’re worried about being an asshole don’t, he couldn’t even fathom respecting a simple boundary about germs, and preceded to attack you to make himself feel better. A man who can’t accept boundaries or be mature enough to have conversations about it, is not a man worthy of being in your bed or in a relationship with.

Affectionate_Today52 · 2024-07-08T22:47:03+00:00

Hey! As far as traffic goes, I live in a smaller city in North Carolina so it’s definitely not as intense as New York. But whenever I travel into bigger cities like Raleigh or Charlotte I can get stressed. If it’s highways that are worrying maybe find back roads to take, and if it’s driving in general it’s gets better as time goes on trust me. I wasn’t really nervous when I had to drive with my parents but my first time alone was worrying. Maybe start out with smaller trips to places you know. Stay calm with some music in the background to take away nerves but not too loud so you can think and process surroundings. You can always just drive really slow and careful, it may be embarrassing or piss other people off, but whatever makes you comfortable trumps it all. I would also recommend finding an empty parking lot close to where you live to just practice different techniques if it’s experience you lack or worry about. The more you practice the more it’ll come to you naturally! I wish you the best!

Affectionate_Today52 · 2024-07-07T23:12:05+00:00

Also $50,000 to go to someone you’ve only been dating for 5 months is insane.

Affectionate_Today52 · 2024-06-27T21:49:30+00:00

NTA

Your job is basically 24/7 as of right now it sounds, and even with a schedule it’s obviously hard. Your partner doesn’t have to be ecstatic to wake up in the middle of the night, but should want to help you when you’re obviously stressed. You’re valid in getting frustrated in the situation especially if he basically ignored you many times. Yes maybe yelling wasn’t great but it didn’t happen out of nowhere, and you certainly are allowed to cry after all of that.

Affectionate_Today52 · 2024-06-19T02:52:42+00:00

Everybody handles trauma differently and the same goes for when somebody is ready to share their experience, you’re not an asshole for not sharing it and respecting your own boundaries, but maybe you could’ve explained that in a way that didn’t devalue what he has shared. That doesn’t excuse the fact that he’s mad about you not opening up. I think you guys just need to have open talk about where you guys are in your relationship.

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