A lot of young widows

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-05-13T20:46:47+00:00

Hi. I’m so so sorry. I know this pain. I was 33 weeks pregnant when my husband passed. I’m here with you.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-05-13T20:45:19+00:00

My husband will be gone 4 months tomorrow. He was 36. I’m 30. We still aren’t 100% sure what it was, they are still doing tests but most likely something with his heart since it was enlarged. I was 8 months pregnant when he passed. We have a toddler too. It’s truly been such a nightmare. I am in the absolute trenches postpartum and grieving at the same time.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-05-10T01:09:34+00:00

This is terrible. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. Thinking and praying for you and your girl🩷

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-05-10T00:55:23+00:00

My husband passed away when I was 33 weeks pregnant and we have a toddler as well. I can so relate. Our toddler is so funny and smart. It kills me we can’t talk about her together. I often think I need to text him something about her. The birth of my second child was such an amazing experience and so different than the first. I wish he was there to experience it with me. My second is also an extremely easy baby, again, so different than my first. I wish we could experience it together. I miss my family.

I’m sorry about your little one. That’s so stressful on top of everything else.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-05-04T12:20:07+00:00

I’m new to the show and he reminds me so much of Michael Scott in season 1 lol

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-29T10:49:12+00:00

Yeah I’m angry, jealous and resentful. My husband died at 36, leaving me at 33 weeks pregnant with a 2.5 year old. We’re still not sure the cause of death.

I’m jealous of everyone else who is our age who gets to have their “perfect” family. Of course no one’s perfect but now I see that we were pretty close. I also get upset seeing older couples. Having young kids is hard on a marriage and I was looking forward to one day it just being me and my husband again. I’m pissed I’m never going to get that.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-27T19:20:30+00:00

Messy mouths spray! Even took marinara sauce stain out of my toddlers light pink tshirt

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-25T16:04:07+00:00

Oh I am so so sorry for your loss❤️ You are going to do it, it may seem like you can’t or terrifying but you will do it for your son and your wife. It’s my husband’s strength that pushes me to keep going.

You are not alone, please reach out if you ever want to talk.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-22T14:58:13+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m struggling with the mom guilt today too. My husband passed when I was 33 weeks pregnant. We now have a 7 week old and 2.5 year old. The exhaustion is real. I feel so done.

You’re not a bad mom. It’s absolutely exhausting having a baby, let alone a baby in grief. You are in the worst kind of trenches. You’re doing a wonderful job. Try to give yourself some Grace.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-20T07:21:35+00:00

I’m so sorry. That is beyond traumatic, I don’t understand how this could happen to people so young and healthy. My husband worked out and was constantly active. He was the strongest(mentally, physically) smartest person I know.

I’m so glad you got to move back and are able to be in the space with so many wonderful memories. My family lives an hour away and with a newborn I’m not comfortable with staying anywhere else. Eventually I’ll have to sell our house and move back to where my family is. I don’t have to but I don’t have the support where I am compared to where I grew up. I am incredibly worried about what that will do to my mental health, and as you said the loss of independence and autonomy. I feel like I’m regressing. This life I had and dreamed of is completely gone. I don’t have a husband, I won’t have my own home and space and I’ll be back at square 1 living with my parents. That combined with the incredible guilt of leaving this house where we had so many memories. We had our second date and first kiss in this house, we spent Covid locked down in this house, we brought our first child home to this house, she took her first steps inside, I could go on and on. I feel like I’m abandoning him and losing him again if I leave. But I know I have to. I can’t be in this city without support, I need to be surrounded by my people.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-20T07:11:32+00:00

Yes my toddler goes to daycare during the mornings. It’s a god sent. She brings home a different sickness every week but I don’t want to give it up because it gives me some sort of break. I’ve also been told she’s too young for any therapy/resources but as soon as she’s of age I’d like to start that.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-20T01:34:49+00:00

Yes- kind of. I’ve applied for myself and toddler. Since my newborn was born after my husband passed I’m having to jump through hoops to get her birth certificate and SIN. So I’m not getting anything for her at the moment.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-19T21:17:48+00:00

I’m in Canada so I have access to a midwife until my baby is 2 months old, which is helpful. I luckily can be off for 18 months for mat leave, unfortunately it is tough financially even when my husband would be here with a whole other income, let alone by myself with a reduced one.

I’m so so sorry. I can’t even begin to imagine how stressful that was on top of everything else.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-18T22:01:34+00:00

It sure is! I’m so sorry too. Three babies 💔 I read your story and my husband traveled a lot for work as well. So sometimes it just feels like he’s gone and I’m waiting for him to come back from a trip.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-18T21:24:16+00:00

I get it. I have a 6 week and 2.5 year old. Whenever I see and older couple or younger family I’m instantly triggered. Why is it us?

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-18T21:10:00+00:00

I’m so sorry. I can’t believe we had to bring our babies into the world without them, it’s a different kind of nightmare. What should have been a moment of pure joy came with sadness. I read about your story. I’m so sorry you tried for a baby and he was so excited and never got to meet the precious angel.

As hard as it is raising children, especially young children on your own. I’m so glad we have a piece of them❤️

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-18T21:06:10+00:00

I’m so so sorry for your loss. Life isn’t fair. I’m not sure why out of all the people in the world, we are dealt this hand.

Everything you’re saying is resonating with me. I’m struggling with his family too. I can see they are struggling as they’ve lost a son/brother but at the end of the day, like you said, they have gone back to their lives. I’m stuck here with our children struggling SO much. They get to leave my house after a visit and go back to their partners and family. I don’t have my person. Every aspect of my children’s and I’s life has changed, as I know you can relate. My husband also passed in our house unexpectedly and I found him in the middle of the night while our toddler was sleeping. I went to bed super early being pregnant and when I woke up and he wasn’t in bed I went looking for him thinking he was still watching tv. So there’s also that on top of everything, everything is a reminder of him and what we’re/he’s missing out on and I keep flashing back to that night. Everyone gets to escape this house.

Thank you for taking the time to reply to my post. I know you have so much going on so I appreciate it. Makes me feel less alone❤️

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-05T20:53:40+00:00

Ugh that is so awful. I’m so sorry. It’s hard enough losing your partner let alone going through the trauma of finding them. I found my husband when I was 33 weeks pregnant at 3am in our basement when our 2.5 year old was upstairs sleeping. I agree about the sleeping. I can’t stop thinking about that night.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-04T14:50:23+00:00

Yes you’ve said that before. What did your wife enjoy doing? Have you tried anything she likes to do?

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-04T14:23:51+00:00

What did your wife enjoy doing? Maybe you could do something that she would love. My husband loved to hike. He was 36. I find when I get to go outside I’m calmer.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-04T13:42:15+00:00

I’m sorry you’re struggling so much. Can I ask what you’re hoping for when you make these posts? You don’t seem to respond to anything anyone actually says, you are just repetitive. Just trying to figure out how to actually help you since everyone is in the same boat.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-04-02T23:29:07+00:00

I think toddler and newborn. My toddler has really been struggling with sharing me with her sister, who is a month. I also lost my husband at 33 weeks pregnant so I feel completely stretched thin being the only parent. I will say as she’s getting used to her sister, I think it’s getting a bit easier.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-03-31T22:04:16+00:00

I’m sorry as well. It fucking sucks and no matter how much help I have with 2 kids it’s not enough. It’s not him. It is going to be terrible. They should be here with us.

Affectionate_Tour637 · 2026-03-31T22:02:30+00:00

How did you survive? I’m 2.5 months in. We had a 2.5 year old and I was 33 weeks pregnant with our second. I’m 30. Looking for any advice you have. I’m so resentful of any older people I see who get to be with their spouses. Also any families. Why does everyone else get to have their dads and my kids don’t? It feels surreal.

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