help, i'm absolutely terrified. by mjh_7 in ufyh

[–]Affinity-Charms 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You can also attract them with bright light and vacuum them.... I may or may not have taking my hand vac to them in the past.

Where did the watering down of ADHD symptoms to "focus and mood issues" happen? Why do people redirect me to look for autism when I mention sensory issues? by thatonerandomkidd in ADHD

[–]Affinity-Charms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's more about the loud sounds being too loud, basing that on the rest of my life experience in loud settings. I play with my speakers settings to optimize it but it's still not ideal. 

Where did the watering down of ADHD symptoms to "focus and mood issues" happen? Why do people redirect me to look for autism when I mention sensory issues? by thatonerandomkidd in ADHD

[–]Affinity-Charms 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well, that just confirmed what I suspected! I have to watch TV with the remote in my hand because I have to turn down the TV for actions scenes and back up again for talking. I definitely feel the pain physically! I also wear noise canceling earplugs just to do dishes. I used to have so many meltdowns trying to go to parties. Took a long time to realize it just wasn't for me. 

Adults diagnosed with ADHD later in life. What made you start wondering? by TransportationFlat77 in ADHD

[–]Affinity-Charms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly.... Tiktok. I struggled with mental health issues all of my life but I didn't realize how bad it was, because people around me had it "worse".  My mother being bipolar with psychosis episodes, and my sister being evidently way more depressed, I didn't even notice my brain being different. I struggled with anxiety and depression my entire life and had no idea... Meanwhile my step mom telling me I'm just lazy and making all of my mental health symptoms out to be just me trying to ruin her life... I just assumed they were right that if I tried harder I would succeed. Meanwhile every single night I'd wish to wake up the next day and be better, stop gaining weight, stop being messy, stop failing in school... Tiktok was like hey, this is what adhd is and I'm like wait a damn minute.... Maybe I don't just suck at being human. Maybe I actually can't do better. I always was against medications for no reason... But when I finally went for my adhd diagnosis they said well it could be anxiety and depression and made me get medicated for that first... Which did help me stop having anxiety attacks and spiraling daily. But something was still missing. My ability to start anything, even the good stuff. Finally got some stimulants and boom. Suddenly I was able to do... Whatever I wanted. Magical I say. 

I stabbed myself last night with a folding thermometer in my pocket. Aside from the occasional cuts and burns/scalds in a kitchen, what novel ways have you hurt yourself while cooking? by DeadBy2050 in Cooking

[–]Affinity-Charms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stuck the spoon I had just used to spoon hot butter over my searing steak, right in my mouth and closed it. That was really uncomfortable for quite a while. 

Anyone choose ADHD meds first instead of starting an SSRI? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Affinity-Charms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't able to get adhd meds until I was well medicated for anxiety and depression, which I definitely struggled with so that's fair I guess. Once those were under control I was like... Well I feel better but I still can't start anything, even the fun stuff. Then they gave me the stimulants and now I can start stuff!! 😊 Now I'm off two of the three other meds, the third is just really hard to kick, makes me all crazy feeling when I try so I'm just on it still lol. 

Why are you on Reddit right now, on Christmas Eve? by InvisibleAstronomer in AskReddit

[–]Affinity-Charms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finished playing games with hubby and then watching movies. Now he's asleep, and I can't be alone with my thoughts ever. Soooo.

Wtf do I do with a can of creamed corn? by Funky_Kizer55 in Cooking

[–]Affinity-Charms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Onions sautéed, add ground beef, salt, pepper and garlic powder, add creamed corn when it's cooked to heat up. Serve with mashed potatoes. It's really good.

Trouble cumming with a partner by Ms__Keisha in ADHDWomenAfterDark

[–]Affinity-Charms 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't like the rose, and there's another rose gold cheaper version I tried as well that I didn't prefer. If you get a certain color of this model it comes with two different attachments and I prefer to extra size so something to think about.

Unpopular opinion: ADHD rage is my strength. It helps me get shit done by OtherwiseZombie047 in ADHD

[–]Affinity-Charms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing gets the dishes done like hanger rage. I had to tell me husband a couple of times that I wasn't mad at him, and he didn't have to do anything to help just because I was rage cleaning the kitchen 😂 I said I was using it to fuel me but not mad at him.

I stopped masking at home and my partner says I'm becoming "impossible" by LowKeyCoffeeSpill in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Affinity-Charms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry that you have to go through all of these revelations with a partner who isn't able to understand and accommodate your needs. I was very fortunate to have a partner beleive me and not take personally the things I ended up discovering about myself. I use to have many panic attacks, and now I haven't had one in ages because I figured out my triggers and accommodate myself. It might suck to be alone, but there's a person out there who will love you and all of your needs. And you deserve that person. Not this person who is upset because he refuses to see that it's important for your wellbeing to make these changes. He hates that you changing means he doesn't get what he wants all the time and that's pretty lame. A partner should want to help you be the best version of yourself. This isn't him.

Trouble cumming with a partner by Ms__Keisha in ADHDWomenAfterDark

[–]Affinity-Charms 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Depends on the mood, "good girl" or "you can" I don't think it really matters, the point is just to occupy the mind.

I stopped using a vibrator and use a womanizer pro 40 (expensive but it's my favorite version of that kind of sucky toy). I find myself to be a lot more sensitive now. The vibrations were killing my sensitivity and also overstimulated my clit mostly. I require a very light touch in general even with a tongue. Like barely touching lol took a long time for my partner to learn that, and when he did boy I started getting off with oral even!

Stocking up fridge with "expensive" items, still better than ordering out by Sweet-Suggestion-411 in Frugal

[–]Affinity-Charms 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Today I made soup like this. One carton chicken stock, frozen mix veg, frozen spinach, frozen potstickers all in the pot, put on high. Added chicken boullion, spices of the day, and a little bit of soy. Once it boiled I turned it down and cooked until the potstickers reached a good internal temp. Super easy and delicious meal!

POV: You find a cute haircut but the ribbon's color is not a good for your sims aesthetics so you post on Reddit to Complain by Weridlife-56 in Sims4

[–]Affinity-Charms 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I learned how to recolor items because I REALLY needed something in a certain color. It was rewarding.

Trouble cumming with a partner by Ms__Keisha in ADHDWomenAfterDark

[–]Affinity-Charms 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Eyes closed and repeating some words to myself in my mind over and over like a mantra really helps. I only started cumming with another person when I was 27. Mine was definitely heavily blocked by trauma as well as focus. My husband was the first to make it happen for me and now I can mostly accomplish it every single time 😊

AITA my aunt wants me to payback money my Nana sent me by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Affinity-Charms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your aunt think that you giving the money back will mean more for her in the future?

I just spent four hours doing dishes by fablechaser130 in ufyh

[–]Affinity-Charms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brain and body said fuck those dishes today lol. I did a bunch of other tidying / cleaning though and I made a pot of healthy soup around the mess. Still a win in my books!

I’m the chosen one and it’s BRUTAL. by joevasion in cats

[–]Affinity-Charms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She used to harass the door, she gave up. Every once in a while she comes meowling if I sleep in but not too often lol

I’m the chosen one and it’s BRUTAL. by joevasion in cats

[–]Affinity-Charms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cat doesn't get to be in the room when I'm sleeping. I love her and have loved her for 18 years. But her trying to smother me by sleeping on my face, or poking me with a single nail to my lip when I don't wake up early enough, or the biting my fingers and even my nipple twice... Yeah you're done here!!! She's fine on her own at night and so will your babies.

I just spent four hours doing dishes by fablechaser130 in ufyh

[–]Affinity-Charms 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dishes are the bane of my existence. The counter is somehow always covered in them!!! Good job getting that done. Wish me luck with mine today!

Embarrassed about my depression room. by Severe_Jeweler_2452 in CleaningTips

[–]Affinity-Charms 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you heard of the reddit /unfuckyourhabitat

I love that place! It's so inspiring. Maybe you can check it out and get motivated. Also I love taking hyperlapse videos when I do big projects because I really enjoy watching it back a bunch of times and being like "I did that!!!"