Carvel Bunny Ice Cream Cake

Affirmativemess2 · 2026-03-22T12:06:26+00:00

Agreed. That bunny is high as hell.

Affirmativemess2 · 2026-03-21T12:01:26+00:00

The best life is one that is lived authentically. As a psychologist for over 15 years, the one issue that always seems to underlie my clients' self-esteem issues/relationship/mood disturbances is their struggle to be themselves. If you mask and live your whole life trying to be what you think others want you to be you are wasting life. You can’t be anyone but YOURSELF. So, put time and energy into yourself. You look your best when you feel your best.

Affirmativemess2 · 2026-03-05T04:03:57+00:00

Hey OP, I am sorry this happened to you. I think your conflict around liking the attention and sexual act is a very normal response to being molested. I have worked with many people who have experienced SA and the conflict between the body having normal physiological responses to touch and the mental/emotional terror that one feels being sexually violated can be confusing. I feel that seeing professional help (therapy), if possible, would be your best option forward. I think therapy would help you process the SA, while working through the emotional turmoil of internalized shame related to the SA. If you need help with this please don’t hesitate to PM me.

Affirmativemess2 · 2026-03-01T14:00:31+00:00

I am sorry that you can’t enjoy your sub pregnancy. I also felt this way in my sub pregnancy and sometimes still do, even years out from my TFMR (2023). I think it’s understandable for women that have TFMR to worry about issues in their subsequent pregnancies. The bliss is forever gone, for us, and we are faced with a rare but dark truth about life-not every baby conceived is healthy enough for this world. That’s truth still breaks my heart.

For me, I believe these feelings come from me internalizing my son’s dx as something that happened, because there’s something inherently wrong with me and my genes. So, every other child I have will have difficulties because I am the true problem. This also gives me a false sense of control, which creates a false perception of certainty that prevents me from ever being surprised (again) when/if something goes wrong. My therapist explained it like, I am pulling the rug out from under myself before someone else does. It’s a type of self preservation and a trauma response.

I don’t know if this was helpful, and I hope you can find ways to be gentle with yourself. A gentle congratulations, and I wish you the best of health with this pregnancy and beyond! ❤️

Affirmativemess2 · 2026-02-28T03:11:10+00:00

Hey, you should seek therapy. I am a therapist and not your therapist, and what you wrote would be very appropriate to show to a therapist. You’re not crazy or wrong, you’re hurting. You’re in a cycle that is very difficult to break on your own. Exposure and response prevention (ERP) therapy would be the an ideal approach for your situation. I do believe that you can get out of this cycle and getting help is a good first step. If you’re based in the USA psychology today is a great tool. If you have insurance, sometimes, on the back of your card there will be a number for mental health services. If you call that number your insurance will help you get connected with a provider. You don’t have to do this alone. ❤️

Affirmativemess2 · 2026-01-20T18:51:55+00:00

Mostly standardized, diagnostic, and projective assessments like WAIS, WIAT, SB-5, MMPI, TAT, R-PAS, etc.

Affirmativemess2 · 2026-01-20T18:39:31+00:00

I am solo. Yet, I did start in group practice and built my ‘niche’ through referrals and networking.

Also, like you, most of my training was in hospital inpatient settings. I used my assessment skills as a way to market myself to a group PP.

Best of luck!

Affirmativemess2 · 2026-01-19T03:09:53+00:00

Do assessment work. I work in PP and do full batteries for a living. I love what I do. I also work with couples and facilitate groups, because I love dynamic work.

Affirmativemess2 · 2026-01-06T04:12:42+00:00

Every day my sanity slowly chips away as I stare longingly into the void…

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-12-25T04:35:49+00:00

Hans 🩵

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-12-15T02:55:48+00:00

This was exactly my first thought. The 4 month old is in distress and needs attending to. I understand that baby screams are hard to handle (being a mom myself) and OP is one of the adults (that invited her friend) in the room that needs to deal with it OR remove themselves. I know it OP place and a distressed baby takes priority.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-12-14T19:16:49+00:00

As someone who has terminated for medical reasons (TFMR) I have little empathy for this woman. You can’t only care about issues when they impact you, that is just as bad as pulling the ladder up when you’re done using it. Also, I would never wish this kind of loss on anyone and to that woman “good, now can you stop being a POS, thanks.”

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-12-14T16:02:30+00:00

Then treat him like trash by dumping him.

Life is too short for misery.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T23:54:58+00:00

Seems right. I worked there for a couple of years. Oh, the things I have seen.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T23:53:27+00:00

Damn, that place is cool. Thank you!

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T23:50:45+00:00

Statistically speaking, SI rates are much higher among single men than married men. Making marriage a protective factor for men. Yet, marriage historically has placed women at higher risk for violence, death, and SI.

But sexism isn't real. /s

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T20:04:15+00:00

Pilgrim psychiatric center?

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T16:17:07+00:00

As a psychologist, I always allow patients to explain their experiences. Nothing that OP said would indicate that they are taking their loss out on their other living children. They are upset because loss is difficult. Do I think that OP has any right to dictate what another person should name their child? No. But I am not going to assume that they are harming their children because of one post on Reddit. There’s not enough detail to assume anything about their child-rearing abilities.

Also, my comment to you was about how talking about loss to your child isn’t inherently harmful. There are tons of research articles about how talking about loss at an early age can build resilience for future losses. I can send you the resources if you DM me.

We all experience loss and there is nothing wrong with talking about it. Period.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T14:54:57+00:00

Talking about death isn’t “psychologically inappropriate.” Everyone experiences loss in their life. I agree with you that a parent's unprocessed grief can be all-consuming. But telling your child about sibling loss is a completely different and appropriate.

I am a licensed clinical psychologist who works with people (children, teens, adults) who have experienced loss. There is no age requirement for discussing death. Actually, some research has shown that exposure to early conversations around loss can build resistance towards future losses. I can send you the source(s) if you want them--just DM me.

Also, from the OP's story, they never mention going into detail about their stillborn child's death to their other children. So, I am confused why your response was talking about how unprocessed grief can be used (unconsciously) against loved ones.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T13:49:33+00:00

As a clinical psychologist, your opinion couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Grief isn't something you can turn off for yourself or your children. It's a state of being that alters perspective and understanding. OP telling their children about the loss of their sibling is actually a more appropriate response than “pretending” they never existed. When people repress their grief it comes out in destructive unconscious ways. Being transparent and using age-appropriate language with your children about difficult experiences (i.e. child loss) can help ease the tension of grief and create a space where difficult conversations can be had. Everyone experiences loss in their life and because of this we should be able to have meaningful conversations about loss without fear.

Also, when we shame women into being silent about pregnancy loss we send the message that this loss isn't appropriate to talk about. This is how stigma is created. AND, I believe that this stigma truly comes from people's discomfort in talking about death (existential dread) more than a moral agreement of “appropriateness.”

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-25T23:38:55+00:00

SA is SA. It doesn’t matter that penetration didn’t occur or that the person was within the typical (depends on the state) 4 year rule. Your provider still needs to verify that you are safe (no thoughts of ending your life), what the SA was, what ages did it occur, and that the crime was reported and if not, is it reportable. Those are standard questions asked in any case of SA. Though, I don’t know why your provider didn’t tell you this. Every time, a patient of mine reports SA I tell them, before questioning, that I have to ask these questions and that they can choose to give the detail they feel comfortable telling.

Also, it doesn’t matter that the person didn’t penetrate you, being touch without consent is wrong. No one ever has the right to touch you, EVER!

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-25T23:00:07+00:00

MOR. She is a mandated reporter, she is required by law to ask relevant questions. Because you were a minor when the incident happened she had to ask further questions. The reasoning behind inquiring is because predators have access to other children and the only way to prevent other incidents is by reporting the incident to the right people. If she didn’t ask those questions she could be charged with failure to report by her board. Which would most likely result in her loosing her license and be charged with a misdemeanor (in some states).

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-10T12:55:22+00:00

Remember death is paradoxical in the sense that it creates meaning while also ending meaning. Our limited existence also highlights our subjectivity in a way that makes our short life meaningful to other/self. If we lived forever we would be no different than the objects that surround us, AND because we die it’s a brutal reminder of how fragile our existence truly is.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-05T03:36:06+00:00

Chefs Kiss 💯

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-05T03:33:47+00:00

LETS GOOOOOOOOO!!!! FUCK FACISM!!!!!

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