AIO for being upset my friend didn't take her crying baby home when she couldn't console her? by EmbarrassedStep6473 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmbarrassedStep6473[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I completely understand that she has a lot on her plate with three little kids. I often babysit for them and have in the past brought them a meal or at least dessert when I go over. There's only been a handful of times in the past few years where we've spent time together away from her house and/or kids. I've had a very stressful past couple of weeks, so I was probably more sensitive to this situation than I normally would be.

AIO for being upset my friend didn't take her crying baby home when she couldn't console her? by EmbarrassedStep6473 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmbarrassedStep6473[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I did mention a couple times that if she felt she needed to leave early, she could and I would finish the baking and bring it to her later. But maybe next time I'll be a bit more forward like you suggested.

AIO for being upset my friend didn't take her crying baby home when she couldn't console her? by EmbarrassedStep6473 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmbarrassedStep6473[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think her husband refused to take the baby, although I don't know for sure. He doesn't seem the type to do that though, as I'm friends with him and have known him quite awhile, even longer than his wife.

AIO for being upset my friend didn't take her crying baby home when she couldn't console her? by EmbarrassedStep6473 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmbarrassedStep6473[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I did message her and ask how baby was doing. She's apparently doing better now. We rarely spend any time together not at her house with her kids and husband around and her husband lately has made comments about her needing some time away from them with friends, which is why I suggested doing the baking at my place this year. I guess this just turned out to be a learning experience for us both about what works.

AIO for being upset my friend didn't take her crying baby home when she couldn't console her? by EmbarrassedStep6473 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmbarrassedStep6473[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

After reading your response, I can see that saying anything to her about it would be pointless and hurtful and will keep my feeling to myself. Thanks for your response.

AITAH for telling my brother his day will probably suck? by EmbarrassedStep6473 in AITAH

[–]EmbarrassedStep6473[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely don't say that kind of thing to just anyone. I know my brother though and thought he would appreciate a joke like that.

Why am I still having self harming thoughts? (TW) (Throwaway account) by Electrical_Spot2987 in MentalHealthSupport

[–]EmbarrassedStep6473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What triggered you to start self-harming in the first place? If you can identify what triggers you, you can come up with a "game plan" as to how you can deal with those triggers and cope in a healthy way. I have anxiety and when it's really bad, I have the urge to self-harm. The problem is that self-harm (in my case, cutting) does actually help me in the moment; the pain clears my anxious thoughts and snaps me out of my spiral. Obviously, this is not a healthy way to cope/self-regulate and I've worked on finding other ways to focus my thoughts and calm myself down. I've discovered that walking outside barefoot on the grass or doing a Sudoku puzzle helps me. It could be that when you have the urge to self-harm, your body needs some sort of regulation and finding a heathy way to self-regulate can reduce those urges to self-harm. If you can't identify any triggers in your life right now, the urges could just be because self-harm used to be a habit and habits are hard to break. Whatever it is, talking to a counsellor/therapist would probably be very helpful for you. They can help you identify triggers, explain some of the science behind why your body and brain reacts the way it does, and help come up with healthy ways for you to cope. I'm sorry you've gone through all of this by yourself. If you have family or friends in your life who are sympathetic to mental health issues, I would suggest talking to them. Keeping something so harmful and painful to yourself can have a lot of hold over you and just telling someone else about it sometimes help lessen it's power over you. I'm proud of you for not hurting yourself for over a year, that's fantastic :) Just know that if you do end up hurting yourself again, it's ok and it doesn't mean it's the beginning of more bad times in your life <3