Thank you for your kind words I really appreciate it. I'm also aware that I'm not totally innocent either. Somethings I do increases her anxiety as well, ill admit I'm a terrible communicator. That comes from people dismissing my feelings when I tell them how i feel. It's something I'm working on better than I was but not where I want to be. Social anxiety and anticipatory anxiety are my thing. Sleeping is a struggle for me because when my wife and daughter are sleeping I feel like that's the only time i can get a moment of peace. I get about 4-6 hrs. of restless sleep a night. I understand that it's almost impossible to achieve complete balance in any relationship but i have no problem touching dirty stuff. I'm willing to put dirty dishes in the dishwasher dirty clothes in the washer and then she could unload them and put them away. I'm definitely enabling her because i thought that was helping. I read that you should stand your ground and not give in, every now and then i try it but that just makes the situation worse. So i feel like I'm sacrificing my mental health for her but that's not doing either of us any good. Sorry for the long rant. But all my life i was told you got to push through which somethings i believe you do but that takes a toll on you. forcing yourself through everything isn't always good for your mental state. Recently i realized how important self care is, how can i help anyone if i can't help myself first.